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Just a thought that's being going through my mind alot.....

Why do some people just up and stop talking to you? For no apparent reason?

Like they was a really close friend etc but then they just stopped talking one day....disappeared, for no apparent reason...and whenever I message them I just get no response...why just why?

I know no one will have an answer for this but it has really been bugging me for a while and it hurts....not even my CBT therapist knows what I should do sigh. X
 
There could be many reasons.

1. Life has moved on and they feel that they have taken a different path
2. They no longer use the messaging system - new phone number, gave up twitter, ...
3. They are just too self absorbed that they haven't realised/ don't feel they have the time
4. It gives them a chance to make contact again in 20years time and become a long lost friend
 
andcol said:
There could be many reasons.

1. Life has moved on and they feel that they have taken a different path
2. They no longer use the messaging system - new phone number, gave up twitter, ...
3. They are just too self absorbed that they haven't realised/ don't feel they have the time
4. It gives them a chance to make contact again in 20years time and become a long lost friend
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It's someone on here though....I miss them!
And can't help but feel that it's because I fell pregnant.. I don't know! I guess I just need to move on....but I had to rant!
 
You can rant at me whenever you want if it helps. My wife reckons I am good at ignoring her when she is ranting at something I have or haven't done (the norm)

Well it could be envy initially which became guilt and it is often harder to re-engage than to continue to ignore. Just think in 2 months time you will be joined by an anti-snoring device and then your life will be upside down
 
I so want to give you a hug.

I guess this is the problem with forums...people come and go...and as @andcol says...it could be for a whole bunch of reasons...and quite likely none of which are anything to do with you...or you being pregnant...so please...please don't take it personally.

While I'm reasonably active here...there are days...sometimes weeks when I don't want to talk to anyone...diabetes related or otherwise...I get wrapped up in my own thoughts/feelings and just need to take a break...while I still log in most days...sometimes life goes in waves where you just need to focus on yourself for the moment. I guess it happens to us all at some point. But seriously...please don't feel that it's anyone judging you...I'm sure that's not true.

On another note...how's pregnancy going for you? I know you've had issues with your control...are you winning now?
 
Natalie1974 said:
I so want to give you a hug.

I guess this is the problem with forums...people come and go...and as @andcol says...it could be for a whole bunch of reasons...and quite likely none of which are anything to do with you...or you being pregnant...so please...please don't take it personally.

While I'm reasonably active here...there are days...sometimes weeks when I don't want to talk to anyone...diabetes related or otherwise...I get wrapped up in my own thoughts/feelings and just need to take a break...while I still log in most days...sometimes life goes in waves where you just need to focus on yourself for the moment. I guess it happens to us all at some point. But seriously...please don't feel that it's anyone judging you...I'm sure that's not true.

On another note...how's pregnancy going for you? I know you've had issues with your control...are you winning now?
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I guess so it's just annoying seeing them post on here....alot! Heyho!

Hmmm winning? I wouldn't say that lol apart from her abdomen measuring 4 weeks ahead and me having excess fluid....all Is okay! X
 
andcol said:
You can rant at me whenever you want if it helps. My wife reckons I am good at ignoring her when she is ranting at something I have or haven't done (the norm)

Well it could be envy initially which became guilt and it is often harder to re-engage than to continue to ignore. Just think in 2 months time you will be joined by an anti-snoring device and then your life will be upside down
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Less than 2 months haha....but what do you mean? Sorry baby brain!
 
ohitsnicola said:
Less than 2 months haha....but what do you mean? Sorry baby brain!
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Nicola, I think he means in a couple of months when the baby has arrived, you'll be far too tired to worry about someone appearing to ignore you. You'll just want a little bit of joined up sleep!

Not long now................
 
AndBreathe said:
Nicola, I think he means in a couple of months when the baby has arrived, you'll be far too tired to worry about someone appearing to ignore you. You'll just want a little bit of joined up sleep!

Not long now................
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Ohhh see my brain isn't totally functioning at the moment haha! Thank you! I hope that is the case though....x
 
Like I say...please don't take it personally...it could be for any number of reasons...and quite likely it's nothing to do with you...so please don't fret.

Are you enjoying it though? I loved being pregnant...thankfully it was before I became diabetic so a whole different ball game...and could thoroughly enjoy my cravings for alphabeti spaghetti and green apples lol
 
@ohitsnicola , Yoo Hoo, adopted granddaughter, I'm looking forward to becoming great grandma again when babe is born, I hope you don't think I've been ignoring you I haven't, I just don't get on as much as I used too or as much as I'd like too, I have been following your pregnancy and I know exactly how much this little one means to you, I'm so excited for you, please take care of both of you, pm me if you want, I try and get on at least once a day,
Love to all 3 of you
Nanna Lyn xxxx :happy:
 
ohitsnicola said:
Just a thought that's being going through my mind alot.....

Why do some people just up and stop talking to you? For no apparent reason?

Like they was a really close friend etc but then they just stopped talking one day....disappeared, for no apparent reason...and whenever I message them I just get no response...why just why?

I know no one will have an answer for this but it has really been bugging me for a while and it hurts....not even my CBT therapist knows what I should do sigh. X
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I totally get this!!!!! I have experienced it a lot on and off through the years. My only conclusions are:

How was I in the relationship?
How were they?
And was it something that needed to happen. I.e. A good frien of mine for 6 years, emailed me and then never spoke to me again. I realied we both have different things happening and we don't mesh anymore but what we had was great. Also she didn't get what is been through and perhaps didn't want to so maybe it's ok that it happened. I guess i focuses on working through the pain of loss. A loss of someone who is still alive. Elizabeth K-Ross wrote a book about it and helped me alot
 
satindoll said:
@ohitsnicola , Yoo Hoo, adopted granddaughter, I'm looking forward to becoming great grandma again when babe is born, I hope you don't think I've been ignoring you I haven't, I just don't get on as much as I used too or as much as I'd like too, I have been following your pregnancy and I know exactly how much this little one means to you, I'm so excited for you, please take care of both of you, pm me if you want, I try and get on at least once a day,
Love to all 3 of you
Nanna Lyn xxxx :happy:
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Hellooo!! No not at all...I don't really come on here much either...well lately I have been but still it's not you! I will definitely pm you though!
Much love
Nicola xxxxxxxx :)
 
Fayefaye1429 said:
I totally get this!!!!! I have experienced it a lot on and off through the years. My only conclusions are:

How was I in the relationship?
How were they?
And was it something that needed to happen. I.e. A good frien of mine for 6 years, emailed me and then never spoke to me again. I realied we both have different things happening and we don't mesh anymore but what we had was great. Also she didn't get what is been through and perhaps didn't want to so maybe it's ok that it happened. I guess i focuses on working through the pain of loss. A loss of someone who is still alive. Elizabeth K-Ross wrote a book about it and helped me alot
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I think I would be more acceptable of it if they told me why?! Like I had a reason to work on you know?
 
Natalie1974 said:
Like I say...please don't take it personally...it could be for any number of reasons...and quite likely it's nothing to do with you...so please don't fret.

Are you enjoying it though? I loved being pregnant...thankfully it was before I became diabetic so a whole different ball game...and could thoroughly enjoy my cravings for alphabeti spaghetti and green apples lol
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I know but it's so hard when you have a brain like mine....lol!

I am enjoying it yes....but I really cannot wait for her to be here! I don't really have any cravings at the moment apart from the smell of bleach.... @Cloe-1992 can tell you about that one hahah! it's rather worrying lmao! x
 
ohitsnicola said:
I know but it's so hard when you have a brain like mine....lol!

I am enjoying it yes....but I really cannot wait for her to be here! I don't really have any cravings at the moment apart from the smell of bleach.... @Cloe-1992 can tell you about that one hahah! it's rather worrying lmao! x
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Nicola - If you could pop around to my house, I'd allow you to use as much bleach as you like in the kitchen and bathrooms. Ulterior motive? Moi?

On a marginally more serious note, some years ago I had a lady who cleaned for me at home who used to clean at the local cottage hospital, in theatres. Boy, could I tell when she had been. I'd walk through the front door and the smell would hit.

Joyce was lovely. She gave up when her husband became infirm and the cleaning got a bit too much for her. I'd have her back today, in an instant, even though she's a good age herself.
 
AndBreathe said:
Nicola - If you could pop around to my house, I'd allow you to use as much bleach as you like in the kitchen and bathrooms. Ulterior motive? Moi?

On a marginally more serious note, some years ago I had a lady who cleaned for me at home who used to clean at the local cottage hospital, in theatres. Boy, could I tell when she had been. I'd walk through the front door and the smell would hit.

Joyce was lovely. She gave up when her husband became infirm and the cleaning got a bit too much for her. I'd have her back today, in an instant, even though she's a good age herself.
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Hahaha - the thing is I can't even do the cleaning because I get so out of breathe easily at the moment...so have to wait for my boyfriend to do it....he likes cleaning though, so all is good!

I went to work with him the other day...and he put me in the cleaning cupboard for a couple of minutes....it was heaven haha! I have serious issues....it could be worse though I guess! It just smells so nice!!!
 
I guess maybe finding why you need to know might help? I guess we can only control our own answers and finding that might bring peace
ohitsnicola said:
I think I would be more acceptable of it if they told me why?! Like I had a reason to work on you know?
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ohitsnicola said:
Hahaha - the thing is I can't even do the cleaning because I get so out of breathe easily at the moment...so have to wait for my boyfriend to do it....he likes cleaning though, so all is good!

I went to work with him the other day...and he put me in the cleaning cupboard for a couple of minutes....it was heaven haha! I have serious issues....it could be worse though I guess! It just smells so nice!!!
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It's OK. He could do the bleaching and you could supervise. :) I like to be helpful.

I'm pleased you're sounding a bit more cheerful these days. :)
 
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