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Guilty for being ill...

Snapsy said:
@Chloesnavy Anyone ever get this? YES. It was utterly horrible. I was totally out of action from the beginning of August until the end of October last year, with a raging and recurrent kidney infection.

By September I was dragging myself to the doctor pretty much every week to ask why I wasn't getting better, why I couldn't eat, why I couldn't think, why I couldn't do anything other than sleep and be in pain.

Eventually I saw a doctor I hadn't seen for a while - the one at our surgery who is known for straight talking and for her unwillingness to prescribe anything for anything unless you're at death's door. So when she said 'I would say that recovering from an infection as serious as you've had is akin to recovering from pneumonia', followed by 'you have been very, very ill - it's going to take some time, and you need to be more reasonable with your expectations' I seriously sat up and took notice.

Went home and granted myself permission to not be doing any of the things I wanted and needed to be doing. I wasn't able to be doing anything, and like you I found this very frustrating (once I felt well enough to even care). And this 'permission' did huge things for my self-esteem, and took the pressure off me. Which in turn helped me to get better.

I had not taken on board how ill I actually was. So please, Chloe, don't be so hard on yourself. You are poorly, and it is going to take some time.

Hugs.

Love Snapsy
:)
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This is so true. Thank you. I think I just feel a burden on my bf, as he has to come back from work, clean, cook... I just feel so silly laying down or sleeping whilst he's getting so stressed! Haha
 
cool_blonde212003 said:
I totally understand what you are saying.

I am T1 and have been since childhood. I work full time and am doing a masters degree distance learning in my free time.

I had a virus in February and had to take time off work, I went back to work and got another virus and then following that it progressed into a bacterial sinus infection and conjunctivitis. I was beating myself up for being pathetic and not being able to get on with my university work, I was dragging myself into work and just about coping but felt totally washed out.

Today I spoke to my tutor and she has been really supportive and it looks like I will get an extension for my latest assignment. I feel so much more positive having told the truth about how I've been struggling and losing focus because I felt drained of energy. I don't like my diabetes being a reason that stops me doing things and I try to carry on, sometimes to my own detriment.

I had started to feel better after completing the antibiotics and I hope you feel better soon too.
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That's brilliant, I'm happy for you! I have been resting today. I think sometimes people without diabetes just think you put it on haha
 
@Chloesnavy just wanted to say hi again and how lovely it is to come back onto this thread and hearing you sounding much more chipper!

People will and do understand that you're not very well right now. It will clear up eventually, really it will. So hang tight and do exactly what you're doing - which is resting, and healing, and getting better!

:happy::happy::happy:
 
Chloesnavy said:
This is so true. Thank you. I think I just feel a burden on my bf, as he has to come back from work, clean, cook... I just feel so silly laying down or sleeping whilst he's getting so stressed! Haha
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I understand how you feel.
But the way I look at it is a relationship is give and take. Right now your unwell and part of loving you is being supportive when you need help. That means doing extras around the house. So you have to take right now
When someday he's not well even if it's just a cold or being over worked you can do the extras.
I am so fortunate that Mr Hotpepper never complained when I was unwell.
I'm good now but he isn't very mobile so it means I need to do more. That's life and one has to just go on living it they best we can.
 
Chloesnavy said:
Anyone ever get this? I have had an ongoing kidney infection now for over a month that keeps coming back. I feel so drained, sick, achey. I work from home (painting) and haven't been able to really find the motivation to do so. I can't help but feel guilty for not helping my bf out more around the house. Anyone else ever feel the same?
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My daughter wasn't diabetic but had reflux in her kidney. She had been on trimethoprim antibiotic for 12 weeks. My dad who was a well known doctor told ne to try giving 1/4 of redoxon effervescent vitamin C - he said it makes the bacteria fall to the bottom of the bladder ready for flushing away - it has worked. She was 21/2 yrs old at the time. Another friend who is plagued with cystitis takes a tablet every morning and has not had an infection for 7 years now. Again I don't know if this treatment is beneficial to diabetics.
 
I inherited a. cup from my best friend which has a motto which says «A woman's work is never done ,why bother ! » and on the inside it says «Life is too short to iron pants »
Take care of yourself !
CAROL
 
Sometimes we need to invest in ourselves to get better. Much as we might want to ignore these things (especially if there's no rash, bandage or other visible sign), it doesn't make sense if something is lingering.

I hope you feel better soon.
 
Snapsy said:
@Chloesnavy just wanted to say hi again and how lovely it is to come back onto this thread and hearing you sounding much more chipper!

People will and do understand that you're not very well right now. It will clear up eventually, really it will. So hang tight and do exactly what you're doing - which is resting, and healing, and getting better!

:happy::happy::happy:
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Hahaha thanks! I am definitely slowly feeling better, unfortunately the antibiotics I'm on make me feel ill, but it's worth it! Sick of this stupid kidney infection now. I did manage to do some housework today, but made my bf do most of it, without feeling guilty
 
Hotpepper20000 said:
I understand how you feel.
But the way I look at it is a relationship is give and take. Right now your unwell and part of loving you is being supportive when you need help. That means doing extras around the house. So you have to take right now
When someday he's not well even if it's just a cold or being over worked you can do the extras.
I am so fortunate that Mr Hotpepper never complained when I was unwell.
I'm good now but he isn't very mobile so it means I need to do more. That's life and one has to just go on living it they best we can.
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That is true, thank you. I think it's all just mainly in my head to be honest. I did a little housework today, but made him do most of it... and he didn't moan! I'm back on my bed now feeling sorry for myself with some tea.
Yes, exactly. Take life as it comes
 
Ilonam said:
My daughter wasn't diabetic but had reflux in her kidney. She had been on trimethoprim antibiotic for 12 weeks. My dad who was a well known doctor told ne to try giving 1/4 of redoxon effervescent vitamin C - he said it makes the bacteria fall to the bottom of the bladder ready for flushing away - it has worked. She was 21/2 yrs old at the time. Another friend who is plagued with cystitis takes a tablet every morning and has not had an infection for 7 years now. Again I don't know if this treatment is beneficial to diabetics.
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Ahhh that's really interesting! I've never heard of this method before, but I don't see why it wouldn't work for diabetics too. I definitely need to do something. I'll give this a try, thank you :-)
 
carty said:
I inherited a. cup from my best friend which has a motto which says «A woman's work is never done ,why bother ! » and on the inside it says «Life is too short to iron pants »
Take care of yourself !
CAROL
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Hahaha! I need this mug in my life!
 
AndBreathe said:
Sometimes we need to invest in ourselves to get better. Much as we might want to ignore these things (especially if there's no rash, bandage or other visible sign), it doesn't make sense if something is lingering.

I hope you feel better soon.
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Thank you so much. Here's hoping these will actually work for me :)
 
azure said:
You can't help being ill. Think of it positively - you resting will help you get back to health sooner and be able to help round the house :)

You're being sensible not lazy :)
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I also agree with you, Azure. Though it isn't easy not to feel guilty about not having the energy to help around the house. a few months ago, I had this bad cough and cold for a week and couldn't do any shopping or cooking for one or two days, and had to send my nephew out shopping for me. He didn't mind doing the shopping, yet I minded not being able to do it. Anyway, don't feel guilty, Chloesnavy. Take that time out and get better.
 
Same situation... I got really emotional.. I also got a kidney infection for 10 weeks and I just felt so sad but now you know what? I feel strong because I could overcome it
 
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