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I wanted to Burn Out not Fade Away

Thanks Scandichic

Yes, near the flat that I've put in for there is a gym that deals with older people issues, not full of people in lycra and bulging muscles, so I'm hopeful that joining somewhere like that will give me the incentive I need to become more active again. I've surely had more than my share of bad stuff happening to me now, my luck HAS to change. Thank you soooooo much for your hug and best wishes, I would have gladly received a hug from you if you look like your avatar!!! Or are you shrinking with your fab weight loss programme? :happy: xx
 
Very similar to the avotar I'm afraid. The blonde has got darker, due to the silvery bits round my hair line and I'm still 14 stone 5/6 lbs. it keeps fluctuating between the 2! Am fed up at mo coz I'm desperate to get the weight off! I have been exercising all week. Bike rides or walks. Ate my infamous ice cream yesterday and one glass of wine. Only naughty things all week but I know I just need to be more patient! What's the flat like? In time, this may well become a huge positive because, after all the huge upheaval and expense :( you will be able to make all the decisions about furniture, decor - it will become a haven for you! Please keep posting! It will make you feel better coz even if you are having a **** time people will be there to give you a big virtual hug and celebrate your successes of which I think there will be many! :)
 
Scandichic said:
Very similar to the avotar I'm afraid. The blonde has got darker, due to the silvery bits round my hair line and I'm still 14 stone 5/6 lbs. it keeps fluctuating between the 2! Am fed up at mo coz I'm desperate to get the weight off! I have been exercising all week. Bike rides or walks. Ate my infamous ice cream yesterday and one glass of wine. Only naughty things all week but I know I just need to be more patient! What's the flat like? In time, this may well become a huge positive because, after all the huge upheaval and expense :( you will be able to make all the decisions about furniture, decor - it will become a haven for you! Please keep posting! It will make you feel better coz even if you are having a **** time people will be there to give you a big virtual hug and celebrate your successes of which I think there will be many! :)
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Thank you so much Scandichic, you really are a best friend kind. The flat is small and cozy and i can't even think of furniture yet, but I know getting it will be the kick up the proverbial I need. I will keep on the site, it really is comforting to know there are many people out there who don't know me, but care. Blessings xx
 
lunarlinda said:
Thank you so much Scandichic, you really are a best friend kind. The flat is small and cozy and i can't even think of furniture yet, but I know getting it will be the kick up the proverbial I need. I will keep on the site, it really is comforting to know there are many people out there who don't know me, but care. Blessings xx
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I suppose until you know you've got it definitely, then it's probably best not to but fingers crossed! Let us know! Big hug!
 
Hi Lunarlinda, sorry to hear about all your problems (health and relationship). But as someone else said earlier... this can be the start of a new You. You have to make a lot of changes in your life, but sometimes change (however frightening) can lead to something better. You are making a new start and from what you said, this time you can concentrate on yourself alone (without having to compromise with what your husband wants or needs). Until you get your health and flat sorted out life may still be very hard, but it is a hurdle you have to take and once your health has stabilized and your flat is yours (with all the things you love and cherish) you start something new in your life, something to make you happy and fulfilled. Make new friends, pick a new hobby, start to study again or learn watercolour painting... Think about yourself and what you want to do.

By the way... why doesn't he move out if he wants to live alone? Why do you have to do it? Is he at least supporting you?

Keep strong, Lunarlinda, and keep us informed how you are doing.

Hugs
 
Stopped smoking too? Well done you, that's an additional struggle I haven't given myself yet. Why is it that bad habits come so easily and the good ones (like drinking water and exercising) are so damned hard?!

I got through a whole social evening with a single glass of red though and cooked very low carb: a baby spinach salad with walnuts and chopped bacon and a creamy garlic dressing, followed by beef casserole and no potatoes for me. I'll weigh on Monday and try not to be disappointed if the loss is small. I have to tell myself this is NOT a diet (you stop dieting when weight loss is achieved), it's my future way of life.

I haven't looked for these Atkins bars, but I do have a Atkins recipe book somewhere I must dig out. It must be more difficult for you, cooking for yourself (assume you are not feeding the errant ex) and feeling yuck, but do try and get some real food in you and get yourself out of that bed as soon as you feel able. You've got a new flat - and life - to plan for.
 
Gudrun said:
Hi Lunarlinda, sorry to hear about all your problems (health and relationship). But as someone else said earlier... this can be the start of a new You. You have to make a lot of changes in your life, but sometimes change (however frightening) can lead to something better. You are making a new start and from what you said, this time you can concentrate on yourself alone (without having to compromise with what your husband wants or needs). Until you get your health and flat sorted out life may still be very hard, but it is a hurdle you have to take and once your health has stabilized and your flat is yours (with all the things you love and cherish) you start something new in your life, something to make you happy and fulfilled. Make new friends, pick a new hobby, start to study again or learn watercolour painting... Think about yourself and what you want to do.

By the way... why doesn't he move out if he wants to live alone? Why do you have to do it? Is he at least supporting you?

Keep strong, Lunarlinda, and keep us informed how you are doing.

Hugs
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Hi Gudrun
Thanks very much for the advice, it's much appreciated.My daughter came to see me yesterday and we had a lovely long chat which was fab, even though I spoilled it by scratching constantly, making her need to scratch too !:) I'll find out in the next couple of days if I've got the flat, and whilst I don't foresee a reason why I shouldn't get it, I won't be happy 'till I sign on the dotted line. We live in North Yorkshire and ex still works in the garrison, we're from West Yorkshire originally, so I'm moving back there, otherwise I would have made him move out. Shy, retiring wall flower I am not!!!

I am really looking forward to beginning my new life with only myself to think about, something that hasn't happened for the past forty years, so I'm sure it will take some doing, but I hope to get used to it very quickly. I have a Degree so I'm not sure about further study, but I do fancy joining the gym at the end of the road which is family run and focusses on fitness for the older generation, so I'll enjoy going there every day. The only problem I see is getting my diet right. I've gone off food big time. Don't know if that is partly to do with my current situation or whether I'm just struggling to get to grips with what I should eat being diabetic?

Cheers chuck. xx
 
Helsin said:
Stopped smoking too? Well done you, that's an additional struggle I haven't given myself yet. Why is it that bad habits come so easily and the good ones (like drinking water and exercising) are so damned hard?!

I got through a whole social evening with a single glass of red though and cooked very low carb: a baby spinach salad with walnuts and chopped bacon and a creamy garlic dressing, followed by beef casserole and no potatoes for me. I'll weigh on Monday and try not to be disappointed if the loss is small. I have to tell myself this is NOT a diet (you stop dieting when weight loss is achieved), it's my future way of life.

I haven't looked for these Atkins bars, but I do have a Atkins recipe book somewhere I must dig out. It must be more difficult for you, cooking for yourself (assume you are not feeding the errant ex) and feeling yuck, but do try and get some real food in you and get yourself out of that bed as soon as you feel able. You've got a new flat - and life - to plan for.
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Hi Helsin, thanks for your post. Wow, that meal sounded gorgeous, but I'd have been happy with the first bit, forget the beef casserole, can have that another day. :happy: I've also stopped drinking, ( three years ago) so to stop smoking too, I haven't, but need to congratulate myself on that achievement, 'cos I used to use cigarettes instead of eating, so to give them up is indeed a fab thing that's happened. I have to say, the heart trouble diagnosis did prompt me to do it though, perhaps without that I wouldn't have been strong enough to stop, I enjoyed smoking and am slightly aggrieved that it's one more pleasure I'm now deprived of.

I got the Atkins bars from Amazon, but they are expensive and they are helping me through this transitional period, but I won't be buying any more when these are done. I really see my major challenge as getting "what to eat" right, not the move or the other challenges I face, it's just basically down to getting that balance right of foods to eat for health, food I want to eat, and food I can afford to eat! I could do with meeting a chef! I am a bit of a rebel too, and at 58 years old, I remember a very different world regarding food, and there is a bit of me that wants to two fingers it all and eat what I want, when I want, as I did when I was young and into my thirties, and didn't have any problems, nor was I overweight.!! All this **** has happened since I started dieting and getting diagnosed with one thing after another as I turned forty!! xx
 
Again we have a similar life story, except I've been mainly healthy until just a couple of years ago, when my blood pressure started giving me problems. I've been on lots of temporarily successful diets in my time, but never seriously tried Atkins (though I found 2 books in my bookcase!), as it seemed to go against all the current medical advice at the time. I've always been an interested cook though and fast food or pre-prepared anything very rarely touches my lips. I'm currently just trying to make the lowest carb things I possibly can and ditching the 'serve with potato/rice/pasta' bit.

I was about to put away the slow cooker yesterday evening (used for the casserole the night before) when I had a bit of a brainwave and mixed three egg yolks with double cream, some sweetener and a tablespoon of lemon juice. I divided the custard into 4 ramekins and set them, covered in clingfoil, in the pot with boiling water in the bottom. Cooked them an hour on medium (just below boiling) whilst we watched Game of Thrones. We couldn't resist trying one luke warm a bit later, but they'll be better fridge cold today. They tasted very indulgent and the lemon juice took away the sweetener tang. I admit I only realised that lemon juice had carbs after I had added it (I have lots to learn!), but I googled it at just 1 per tbsp, so that can't be bad. I think, if my weight drops and my next tests are ok, I can live like this long-term. It's cert ainly done wonders already for the IBS or wheat-intolerance or whatever I bloody had when I first went to the doctor!

Question: are you self-testing? I'm not yet, on doctor's advice as she said they could 'lead to complacency'. She's good otherwise, though, and was delighted that I had joined a forum for advice.

Very glad to hear you have family to visit you. Will the move take you nearer?
 
I am really looking forward to beginning my new life with only myself to think about, something that hasn't happened for the past forty years, so I'm sure it will take some doing, but I hope to get used to it very quickly.
Cheers chuck. xx[/QUOTE]

I'm so glad to see that you are feeling positive about the future. I'm married for the third time and so made a couple of new starts before (when I moved out and moved on). And life has never been as happy as now (since meeting my third husband). There is a lot of life after relationships end and a lot of new opportunities to grasp and enjoy.
I didn't start to study until after my second divorce and then loved it. My whole life now is so far removed from what it used to be like that it is almost unrecognizable. And that is what you need to aim for... look at the future as one of opportunities. You can do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.
I'm 'only' prediabetic with no other health problems (apart from chronic fatigue), but I have for the last week gone onto the low carbohydrate diet. I eat pretty much anything, except bread, potatoes, rice and pasta (my main stay before then). My blood sugar levels have dropped down as has my weight (well, a bit anyhow).
I think for yourself you need to get all your other health problems sorted out, then take a good look at what you can do and do it.

Oh, and welcome back to West Yorkshire, surely the best of places :)

Keep making plans and keep looking forward....
 
Helsin said:
Again we have a similar life story, except I've been mainly healthy until just a couple of years ago, when my blood pressure started giving me problems. I've been on lots of temporarily successful diets in my time, but never seriously tried Atkins (though I found 2 books in my bookcase!), as it seemed to go against all the current medical advice at the time. I've always been an interested cook though and fast food or pre-prepared anything very rarely touches my lips. I'm currently just trying to make the lowest carb things I possibly can and ditching the 'serve with potato/rice/pasta' bit.

I was about to put away the slow cooker yesterday evening (used for the casserole the night before) when I had a bit of a brainwave and mixed three egg yolks with double cream, some sweetener and a tablespoon of lemon juice. I divided the custard into 4 ramekins and set them, covered in clingfoil, in the pot with boiling water in the bottom. Cooked them an hour on medium (just below boiling) whilst we watched Game of Thrones. We couldn't resist trying one luke warm a bit later, but they'll be better fridge cold today. They tasted very indulgent and the lemon juice took away the sweetener tang. I admit I only realised that lemon juice had carbs after I had added it (I have lots to learn!), but I googled it at just 1 per tbsp, so that can't be bad. I think, if my weight drops and my next tests are ok, I can live like this long-term. It's cert ainly done wonders already for the IBS or wheat-intolerance or whatever I bloody had when I first went to the doctor!

Question: are you self-testing? I'm not yet, on doctor's advice as she said they could 'lead to complacency'. She's good otherwise, though, and was delighted that I had joined a forum for advice.

Very glad to hear you have family to visit you. Will the move take you nearer?
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Hi Again, thanks for the reply.
I did get myself a meter to self test, a code free one from Amazon as the strips are the cheapest I've seen @ £7.00 for 50. I had no advise or anything when I was diagnosed, but ~I actually feel glad about that as I'd hate to go head to head with the Diabetic Nurse as she told me what to eat and I knew, thanks to this site, that her advise would be cow dung! So I self test every morning and read between 6.3 and 7.2. I'm not happy with those readings, but know others are higher. I'm also low carbing, the best I can at the moment, but yesterday had a pile of pate on toast, there was no substitute of vehicle for my pate than toast, so I darned well had 2 slices of toast, and thoroughly enjoyed it!! It's daft, 'cos I had a digestive problem for years and Doc's couldn't put a finger on what it was, but I felt slightly better when I cut out eating grains, so it just made sense to stop eating the high carb grain based items so prevalent in most peoples' diets thesedays, but sometimes you just need to go back to having the odd slice if you want it, and I wasn't upset from it, so maybe we can get away with the odd naughty high carb item without too much damage done. I have to say, I've not taken a reading for the past couple of mornings as I've eaten so erratically, I wouldn't know what to do about it if I did get a lot higher reading, It's not like I have any medication to counteract it, so it's something I'll go back to when I'm behaving myself again. If you don't have medication prescribed, the meter readings are really just to see if the foods you are experimenting with are working for you. I tried 2 oz pasta a couple of weeks ago with a healthy home made sauce and when I tested at the 3 hour point after it, it read 10.7!! I won't be trying pasta ever again!

I don't want it to rule me, and I truly believe that low carbing is a great idea, not just for diabetics, but I'm not going to allow it to stop me enjoying the odd thing that would be forbidden if sticking to it 100 per cent. xx
 
Gudrun said:
I am really looking forward to beginning my new life with only myself to think about, something that hasn't happened for the past forty years, so I'm sure it will take some doing, but I hope to get used to it very quickly.
Cheers chuck. xx
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I'm so glad to see that you are feeling positive about the future. I'm married for the third time and so made a couple of new starts before (when I moved out and moved on). And life has never been as happy as now (since meeting my third husband). There is a lot of life after relationships end and a lot of new opportunities to grasp and enjoy.
I didn't start to study until after my second divorce and then loved it. My whole life now is so far removed from what it used to be like that it is almost unrecognizable. And that is what you need to aim for... look at the future as one of opportunities. You can do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.
I'm 'only' prediabetic with no other health problems (apart from chronic fatigue), but I have for the last week gone onto the low carbohydrate diet. I eat pretty much anything, except bread, potatoes, rice and pasta (my main stay before then). My blood sugar levels have dropped down as has my weight (well, a bit anyhow).
I think for yourself you need to get all your other health problems sorted out, then take a good look at what you can do and do it.

Oh, and welcome back to West Yorkshire, surely the best of places :)

Keep making plans and keep looking forward....[/QUOTE]
Wow, 3 marriages, you are a glutton for punishment aren't you! I am looking forward to my new life back in Bradford where I have a Sister, Daughter and Granddaughter, so although I'm leaving a Son and a Daughter and 2 grandchildren up here, I still have family I'm going back to, and it's only a one and a half hour journey anyway, so I'm sure they'll be down to visit me!
Yes, my health problems have taken their toll on me in more ways than one, but I will not hang around waiting to be diagnosed with anything else, so once my new lifestyle is in place, I'll behave in the main, but will not allow anything to stop me enjoying life, otherwise, what's the point? Hence, Burn Out, Not Fade Away!! :joyful:
Thanks, West Yorkshire rules!! ;) xx
 
Keep making plans and keep looking forward....[/QUOTE]
Wow, 3 marriages, you are a glutton for punishment aren't you! I am looking forward to my new life back in Bradford where I have a Sister, Daughter and Granddaughter, so although I'm leaving a Son and a Daughter and 2 grandchildren up here, I still have family I'm going back to, and it's only a one and a half hour journey anyway, so I'm sure they'll be down to visit me!
Yes, my health problems have taken their toll on me in more ways than one, but I will not hang around waiting to be diagnosed with anything else, so once my new lifestyle is in place, I'll behave in the main, but will not allow anything to stop me enjoying life, otherwise, what's the point? Hence, Burn Out, Not Fade Away!! :joyful:
Thanks, West Yorkshire rules!! ;) xx[/QUOTE]

I am glad you have got support in Bradford and good luck in getting the flat. Which part of BD is it?

I think many on these forums believe that we can make exceptions for special occasions, whether they are special occasions like weddings, birthdays etc. or just the occasions when we need to feel special (like feeling down and needing a pick-up). As long as it is not something that is too regular I don't think it matters much. But I think it is important to try and keep your BG levels as steady as possible. I don't miss bread after a week without, but I know that if I had a slice I would want more; and keep on eating it day after day.

I have looked at the website someone recommended (foot amputations) and it most certainly has turned me off cheating. Ultimately, I would only cheat myself out of healthier life. But even without the carbs in my diet, I certainly enjoy myself and my food. You just need to try and see what is best for you - and keep reading the advice on here of people who have got more knowledge than I and more experience.
 
Gudrun said:
Keep making plans and keep looking forward....
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Wow, 3 marriages, you are a glutton for punishment aren't you! I am looking forward to my new life back in Bradford where I have a Sister, Daughter and Granddaughter, so although I'm leaving a Son and a Daughter and 2 grandchildren up here, I still have family I'm going back to, and it's only a one and a half hour journey anyway, so I'm sure they'll be down to visit me!
Yes, my health problems have taken their toll on me in more ways than one, but I will not hang around waiting to be diagnosed with anything else, so once my new lifestyle is in place, I'll behave in the main, but will not allow anything to stop me enjoying life, otherwise, what's the point? Hence, Burn Out, Not Fade Away!! :joyful:
Thanks, West Yorkshire rules!! ;) xx[/QUOTE]

I am glad you have got support in Bradford and good luck in getting the flat. Which part of BD is it?

I think many on these forums believe that we can make exceptions for special occasions, whether they are special occasions like weddings, birthdays etc. or just the occasions when we need to feel special (like feeling down and needing a pick-up). As long as it is not something that is too regular I don't think it matters much. But I think it is important to try and keep your BG levels as steady as possible. I don't miss bread after a week without, but I know that if I had a slice I would want more; and keep on eating it day after day.

I have looked at the website someone recommended (foot amputations) and it most certainly has turned me off cheating. Ultimately, I would only cheat myself out of healthier life. But even without the carbs in my diet, I certainly enjoy myself and my food. You just need to try and see what is best for you - and keep reading the advice on here of people who have got more knowledge than I and more experience.[/QUOTE]

Bradistan 7. :) yep, I agree with the diet advise, but firstly, I really didn't think I'd get to this age anyway, and secondly, the NHS diabetic advise is to eat carbs at every meal, so if you hadn't stumbled across this site and learned about low carbing, you would have continued to eat bread etc, wouldn't you? So I'm not going to worry myself by looking at articles on amputation, I won't get to that stage, I know it. !!! xx
 
So I'm not going to worry myself by looking at articles on amputation, I won't get to that stage, I know it. !!! xx[/QUOTE]

Foot amputations are an extreme and neither you nor I are likely to go there, Lunarlinda, but it does show what can happen in the worst scenario if we live long with diabetes and don't control it. For myself it was a wake-up call from being in denial.

I sincerely wish you all the luck in the world. Keep us informed how you get on.
 
Are you from Bradford then? just wondered why you wanted to know about which part I'll be going to. I was born in Wibsey. xx
 
lunarlinda said:
Are you from Bradford then? just wondered why you wanted to know about which part I'll be going to. I was born in Wibsey. xx
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No, I'm not from Bradford. I live in the north of Leeds, just a hop and a skip away from parts of BD.
 
Linda - Well done on sorting out a meter and taking on board the need to modify your diet to meet your new situation. But, I would urge you to test when you have eaten potentially "naughty" foods. That really is how you will learn. Learning that a meal of lettuce leaves and cheese, or the like, doesn't elevate your blood sugars is extremely valuable, and will build your confidence in the way forward, but learning that something, like pasta, for example, sends it into orbit is at least, if not more important.

Whether or not you take medication for your condition, the biggest impact you will make is what you passes your lips. If you go onto Metformin (which is usually the first option), it will effectively take the edge off your highs. It isn't a panacea, unfortunately. Indeed, that is why, in my opinion, we hear so often of diabetics suffering a rapid progression through the medical options, when they take the medication, but don't modify their lifestyle at the same time.

Trust me, I know its a bit scary to see a number we don't like, but, it can sometimes be what we need to begin to view the naughty things in a different way. And on the flip side, you may have some very pleasant surprises along the way. Such an example would be for myself, on testing, from the start, I found I can eat a smallish baked potato, at a meal time, without too much impact on my scores, provided I eat all of the skin (which is actually the best part in my view).

I also understand you have a lot on your plate at the moment, with another health condition arising around the same time, but, getting your bloods closer to alignment will help you feel so, so much better about so many things.

For me, tackling diabetes is about taking control, and dealing with it; rather than it dealing with me. It's a battle of wills I seem to be winning for now. At some point I may fall, spectacularly, off the wagon, but for now, I reckon I'm a nose ahead in the battle for control of my life and lifestyle, which happens to include diabetes.

Go for it girl.
 
Thank you for your post which I appreciate AndBreath. I believe I may have given an impression whilst chatting to Gudrun and Helsin that I'm not really taking my diabetes seriously and am rather irresponsible. Well, sometimes I talk for effect and try making light of things, so please forgive me if I gave you that impression. I do intend testing more post meals to check impact and I will be finding out which foods I can tolerate, I hope I too can get away with a small baked potato as I love them with either beans, cheese or tuna on them.
Thanks again, I'll be more considerate in my posts from now on and stop trying to impress with frivolous comments. xx
 
I wasn't giving you a telling off Linda, so don't apologise.

Unfortunately, the science tells us the faster we get a grip of this things throat the more effective we will be.

Keep at it, and get plenty of strips in. :)
 
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