Relationships and diabetes

[Prendy1]

Having great difficulty with my wife trying to give me support and she not being able to cope with me having a hypo of which I’ve been having a few lately. We’ve been married 7 yrs, known for 12 but she’s never fully understood how and when I have hypos. I’ve been type 1 for 45 yrs and have always had difficulty controlling it. Back to my wife, we’ve split up again and I feel like not bothering to try and mend. What I’m asking is, do others have similar problems?

 

[Arab Horse]

So sorry. I am a T2 and I don't have hypos; I am the opposite, when my husband stresses me out it makes my glucose high! He eats all the thongs I can't and even when he cooks something I could eat he just cooks for himself so we now shop, cook and eat separately. He gives me no support at all and never even asks how I have got on when I go for mt 6 monthly check. We lead separate lives really as he is only interested in what he wants to do.

Fortunately I have my pets so they keep me sane, don't know what I would do without them!

 

[VashtiB]

Sorry I'm another type 2. My husband is supportive and cooks for me very low carb. The difficulty is that he and my kids still eat low carb- I find that really difficult. I have the most wonderful husband alive but some days I think it would be easier in a house with no high carb food around.

It must be hard to cope with hypos I think the stress of worrying about your husband must be hard. I think it is hard enough for my wonderful supportive husband and he doesn't have to worry about hypos.

I hope you find a way to control your blood sugars so that you don't have as many hypos- I really sympathise as that must be really difficult.

 

[LaoDan]

My wife is asian, would absolutely die without carbs lol, so she cooks for herself and the kiddos, I just pick out some of the meat and green veggies. Or I’ll whip up something myself.

regardless , it’s nice to have family around. My vote is, try to make it work.

 

[sleepster]

I'm sorry you're having a tough time @Prendy1, I have problems controlling my diabetes and whilst my husband doesn't completely understand, he is very supportive and does everything he can to help me, I can't imagine how difficult it would be without the support of your spouse.
Perhaps your wife could have a look at this https://www.diabetes.co.uk/supporting-a-diabetic-partner.html, you won't be the first person with a spouse who doesn't understand, so there's probably loads of information around if you have a search online.
I hope you manage to get things sorted out.

 

[Jaylee]

Having great difficulty with my wife trying to give me support and she not being able to cope with me having a hypo of which I’ve been having a few lately. We’ve been married 7 yrs, known for 12 but she’s never fully understood how and when I have hypos. I’ve been type 1 for 45 yrs and have always had difficulty controlling it. Back to my wife, we’ve split up again and I feel like not bothering to try and mend. What I’m asking is, do others have similar problems?

Hi @Prendy1

Welcome to,the forum.

Hypos can change mood for some people, which in turn can be disconcerting for those around them at the time.
Personally I just go a little vauge, look bored, & sometimes ramble a little esoteric? On the whole pretty passive.

What I do regarding my relationship. (Married 10 years out of 25.) say for instance there is a discussion that requires my full attention? (My wife knows she won't get a sensible contribution on a low.) detecting a hypo I test & let her view the number on the meter. (Time out till its fixed.) I have a CGM set up now reading BGs on my phone which helps too!

But I have been sorting my own lows since I was a kid. I prefer to keep my hypos my own buisiness?
I found it easier to open up, rather than look for uncaring excuses not to jump behind the wheel of a car to do my duty & take us to the shops or pick up that paintbrush or hedge cutter & help right now..

Best wishes on your decision.