I lost my 51 year old daughter suddenly last March to a Brainstem Haemorrhage. On her death certificate, the 2nd item was Diabetes Mellitus. It seems that diabetes can cause the vascular system to become more fragile. My daughter suffered from mental issues and she was always stressing about everything. Her son is Autistic and that caused so many problems for her. Her levels were always high and she couldn't lose weight. I firmly believe that stress can keep levels high. I sat with her to the end when she was taken off life support and taken to surgery where she donated organs. It was surreal and although I sat up and took notice about the diabetes, I didn't really do anything about it. I had bereavement counselling and although it helped while I was with the counsellor, when I left the surgery, it all seemed to go back to grieving. There seems to be an order the grieving process follows and it seems to take forever. I couldn't cope and had meltdowns every day, but it does get easier. Just take it day by day. I wish you all the best. I know exactly what you are all going through. x