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Bit of a breakdown


Great post dd, as someone recently said, on another thread, we are not robots

Take care RRB
 

I totally identify with the 'perfectionist' bit of that! : D

But for me perfection is trying to keep my sugars in range. That's the be-all and end-all of diabetes on a basic level.

I don't understand why you beat yourself up about having an ice cream : ( It's a perfectly normal thing to do. I usually have an ice cream with my children when I go to the beach. I bolus and test my blood sugar afterwards to make sure I calculated the carbs right, and I'm fine. I also eat pasta, rice, noodles, potatoes, crisps, croissants, etc, etc. I weigh my pasta so that I can get the carbs right, and I have so many tablespoons of rice, etc. It's easy. I also have rich desserts on occasion. For example, when I have friends over. I bolus, check and I'm ok.

I just eat as I would have done if I hadn't got diabetes. I try to eat healthily, but I don't punish myself for developing a condition that's not my fault. My attitude towards food is the same as it's always been - try to eat healthily but don't be obsessed.

I'm slim and my sugars are very good. So find what works for you, both physically and emotionally, and cut yourself some slack. You're doing really well, so remember that. And have that ice cream, if you want! : D
 

Totally agree...cutting slack is very important...and agree with RRB we are nit robots.
 
Welcome, Trixie
There have been so many brilliant posts so far, and I really can't better them
It sounds to me that you are doing so well, and being sensible and level headed about the whole diagnosis, which really was such a short time ago . I don't think it was the ice scream per se, but the sheer enormity of dealing with it all and how much life has changed for you. I think we all have moments when it all seems too much, no matter how short or long since diagnosis

I think in your case as you are not overweight, the emphasis should be on keeping your BG numbers within range. Low carb will help you do this, but exactly how much carb differs so very much from person to person, and it's a case of finding the balance for yourself, using your meter. IF your weight starts to climb and it bothers you, then have a rethink * at that point *

Some people can't cope with one thing, but can with another. For example, I can't have an acceptable BG number or control if I eat either prescription or off the shelf gluten free bread, but can tolerate that which I make myself . It's all about experimentation and a mental shrug if something doesn't work Which it won't do. Because not only is it about calculations, it's about factor X that gives us results we don't expect and hve no clue why and would go nuts if we let it bother us all of the time

As to your lad wanting what is on your plate, I don't know if this is helpful, but I used to get this a lot when babysitting my nephews and nieces when they were wee. I used to put a little of whatever they were having on my plate ,and not eat it , but allow the pinching it also worked the other way round too, foods that they wouldn't want if it was on their plate became highly desirable when it only belonged to Aunty Signy

Signy
 
I fancied a change today so had:

2 slices of cheese on toast
Large slice of salted caramel cheesecake
Some Cadbury chocolate fingers
Chocolate peanut m & m's

Might even top it off with chip shop for dinner.

So you're not alone.
Do I feel bad? No, feel quite full though
 
Thanks all! I've been so much more positive the last few days. Basically started again. For one meal a day I've introduced something I gave up, example cereal for breakfast, and checked my blood after and hour and 2 and I've found that some spike me quite high (the cereal sent me from 6.4 to 19.6 after 2 hours but 4 hours later I was back to 6.7) so I've just put that one the it doesn't work like. I've actually found as long as I bolus I can handle chocolate no bother so that's a huge bonus for me. I don't have to give it up. I'm just going to carry on trying different foods and if it doesn't work then at least I tried. For me it's better than just cutting everything out without trying.
 
If you like cereal and want to eat it, you may need to try a few times with different approaches. Cereal used to put my blood sugar right up, but then I made some adjustments and can now eat it every day if I choose, with no big spike. Unfortunately, lots of managing diabetes is fiddling about to find what suits you.

- You can try a different cereal eg granola mixed with All Bran (higher fat in the granola, fibre in the AllBran)

- You can also try having your bolus earlier to give it a chance to start working and catch any spike. When to have it would be something you'd have to experiment with - may be 15 minutes, 25, 40 ( just increase the interval gradually until you see what works)

- You can have more insulin. I've found that my insulin to carb ratio is different for certain foods. So, I increase it gradually, keep testing and then find the right dose for cereal. I can then have that every time I eat cereal and have no problems.

(I always weigh my cereal too so that I have a regular amount each time rather than measuring by eye - much better results that way)
 
Ref weighing cereal.. Tesco and waitrose both do nifty gadgets for size portions nowadays.
Last year I bought one for neighbours as they thought a portion of cereal was a bowl of cereal..
So once you pour your cereal into the 1 portion measure and weigh it, you never have to weigh it again for that cereal as you will just get your 1 portion scoop out and automatically know the weight and how much to bolus for. They do measures for nuts, pasta, cereal and cheese.
Just less weighing hassle..
 
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