hi, this is my first post ever. i'm a very frustrated husband of a 36 yr old diabetic who cannot seem to control her diabetes. she was diagnosed at 16, but we think she was ill a long time before that. my problem is over the last 20 yrs she has not got to grips with the severity of her situation. she eats a lot of crisps, chocolate, drinks to excess regularly and rarely eats a balanced meal.she's never deliberately missed an injection but has forgot on occasions. all of this is causing her to go rollercoasting through highs and lows and it's not good for her.already complaining of always being cold and her feet hurting ( i don't know if this is circulation or that she likes her feet massaged by me) it is only getting worse.i want to be there for her but she keeps pushing me away and never talks about it. i was only allowed once to go to the doctors with her but had to sit in the car. i hate going behind her back talking on here but i don't know what to do. i think i need to talk to her doctor but will patient confidentiality come into play. i could do with some advice to help her. thanks in anticipation, 1968ge
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Hi 1968ge.
Welcome to the forum.
I think this is something that you are going to have to deal with together. You have to let her know your concerns and try to persuade her to see sense. Diabetes is very controllable but sometimes people just bury their head in the sand and just won't face up to the reality.
If it is not well controlled then it can quite easily get worse very quickly. You mention the problem with the feet. This could be something not related to Diabetes but it could also be the beginnings of Diabetic Neuropathy, a complication that can lead to all sorts of major problems later. This needs to be discussed with her GP.
As for seeing her Dr, that may well be possible ? Is the GP the same as your own ? If so make an appointment and discuss the situation with him/her. Tell him/her how worried you are. Sometimes there are ways that a GP can ask the patient for a routine check up to get them in the Surgery and then take things from there. There is the problem of Patient Confidentiality but this is something that you and the GP will have to sort out between yourselves. A good chat can solve a lot of problems without breaking any rules.
Welcome to the forum.
I think this is something that you are going to have to deal with together. You have to let her know your concerns and try to persuade her to see sense. Diabetes is very controllable but sometimes people just bury their head in the sand and just won't face up to the reality.
If it is not well controlled then it can quite easily get worse very quickly. You mention the problem with the feet. This could be something not related to Diabetes but it could also be the beginnings of Diabetic Neuropathy, a complication that can lead to all sorts of major problems later. This needs to be discussed with her GP.
As for seeing her Dr, that may well be possible ? Is the GP the same as your own ? If so make an appointment and discuss the situation with him/her. Tell him/her how worried you are. Sometimes there are ways that a GP can ask the patient for a routine check up to get them in the Surgery and then take things from there. There is the problem of Patient Confidentiality but this is something that you and the GP will have to sort out between yourselves. A good chat can solve a lot of problems without breaking any rules.
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Hi 1968ge,
my tack is to always think positive and to concentrate on how well we can manage our diabetes given the breadth of info and support available to us today...
.......HOWEVER.......
when I was first diagnosed, I thought - how novel, I will probably have to cut down my sugar intake and wear a medic alert bracelet. And that was it!!....
..........Shock tactics are not nice.......but one has to understand the consequences of not taking diabetes deadly seriously.......
My GP's chronic disease specialist told me that....
.....my risk of heart attack and stroke was increased 5 fold
.....that I could go blind, lose limbs, suffer kidney failure
etc etc etc......
These are the consequences of thinking that diabetes will go away!!!
Once the diabetic person accepts the consequences and determines to resolve, the outlook is EXCELLENT
If not ITS NOT !!!!!!!
You need to call on your powers of persuasion!!!.
All the best Steve.
my tack is to always think positive and to concentrate on how well we can manage our diabetes given the breadth of info and support available to us today...
.......HOWEVER.......
when I was first diagnosed, I thought - how novel, I will probably have to cut down my sugar intake and wear a medic alert bracelet. And that was it!!....
..........Shock tactics are not nice.......but one has to understand the consequences of not taking diabetes deadly seriously.......
My GP's chronic disease specialist told me that....
.....my risk of heart attack and stroke was increased 5 fold
.....that I could go blind, lose limbs, suffer kidney failure
etc etc etc......
These are the consequences of thinking that diabetes will go away!!!
Once the diabetic person accepts the consequences and determines to resolve, the outlook is EXCELLENT
If not ITS NOT !!!!!!!
You need to call on your powers of persuasion!!!.
All the best Steve.
Thanks for the replies, i'm sorry i haven't been able to get back to you all but i have been working away. You all make valid points, although i think a firm line might not be the right direction at the minute it is something that might be needed in the future.The moods swings she regularly has she blames on her sugars going up and down but i think she might be suffering from depression. Now i'm home more during the week i hope to make an appointment with her doctor and see if we can get things sorted out between the 3 of us.Thanks again for your help
Bluenosesol
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1968ge,
apologies if the advice seemed harsh, not suggesting that you take a firm line, rather that in whatever path you follow, you need to be aware that whilst blood sugars remain high, then progression is inevitable and the opportunity for normalisation is being missed. I have had depressive illness in the past and know how difficult it can be and my heart goes out to you and your wife. I wish you all the best with balancing the two issues for the best outcome.
PS If the advice from your GP involves eating starchy carbohydrates - please get back to us...
All the best Steve.
apologies if the advice seemed harsh, not suggesting that you take a firm line, rather that in whatever path you follow, you need to be aware that whilst blood sugars remain high, then progression is inevitable and the opportunity for normalisation is being missed. I have had depressive illness in the past and know how difficult it can be and my heart goes out to you and your wife. I wish you all the best with balancing the two issues for the best outcome.
PS If the advice from your GP involves eating starchy carbohydrates - please get back to us...
All the best Steve.
