In addition to relying on your hubby's memory, you should be able to record the conversation - most phones now have a recording capability. This will allow you to play it back later if, for example, your hubby has a different recollection to you.
Regarding the basal bolus regime, many people use that and should provide your daughter with more flexibility.
The kind of things which I would make sure you take a note of are
- what is her basal dose and at what time of the day will she take it?
- how do you calculate her bolus dose? it seems to be so many units of insulin per 10g carbs but sometimes this is described differently.
- is there any course available to help you with carb counting? This is usually a DAFNE course but different regions call it different things.
- what is her correction dose? In other words, if you notice her BG is too high, how much insulin should she take to bring it back to normal?
- which brings me to ... what is her target BG?
- what to do if she is unwell?