Type 1 Diabetes Control, Masturbation and Anxiety

[Anonymous Question]

Hello everyone, I've been a type 1 diabetic for 10 years and I'm currently 20. Well, I'm kind of ashamed to talk about this but it's been bothering me lately. I've started masturbating when I was around 13 years old and I've been doing it constantly. As I aged, I became more addicted to masturbation, doing it several times a day sometimes... When I was around 16 I started watching adult content and became addicted to it. My problem has always been controlling myself to not do it. In the last years, I noticed that I couldn't keep my erection unless I stimulate my penis. It usually goes back to normal within 30-60 seconds if I do nothing. This has became a mental problem for me, but it hasn't stopped me from masturbating. I don't control my diabetes that well but my blood sugar levels were around 6.5 the last time. I'm also depressed and have social anxiety, and this is why I chose to masturbate rather than going out and talk to people. What do you guys think? Is it a diabetes problem, or should I take a break from doing it? I also believe I have low testosterone levels since I don't have any facial hair on my face yet..

 

[zand]

Well I hope you don't mind a woman answering this question. You have answered your own question in part. Keeping good BG control will help so if I were you I would concentrate on getting that as good as possible for you personally.

Re low testosterone levels, if you are worried ask your GP to check them. Do you happen to have blond/ mousy coloured hair? If so I think it's not unusual for facial hair not to appear in abundance until you are 25. This was certainly the case with one of my sons and some of his friends too.

Re masturbation...again I think you're pretty normal, but maybe some guys can correct me if I'm wrong. It's true that adult content can become addictive if you use it all the time, but personally I don't see anything wrong with using it from time to time. I think your biggest problem is anxiety. Stop worrying about it, go out and socialise, but don't feel under pressure to 'perfom' until you find someone special. I think it's difficult for guys nowadays, in my day it was the girls saying 'No' and the guys pressuring for sex. It seems the tables have turned in this respect and if a guy doesn't want sex with a girl by the 2nd date then she thinks he doesn't fancy her! (Well that's my perception as a mum of two sons) Too much pressure. Go out, meet people and keep dates to meals, cinema visits etc so that there isn't a real opportunity for sex until you are good and ready and trust the person you are with. Relax. Easier said than done I know, but you have managed to chat to us online about a very difficult subject, I am sure you can get over your social fears too, just take one step at a time and make an effort to go out and meet new friends. It will be worth it. Good luck.

I hope some guys will answer your question soon.

 

[qe5rt]

I don't think i could maintain an erection without stimulation for a longer period than said. Doubt it has anything to do with diabetes. There's being in the mood and there's masturbating out of boredom, if it's the later i would think not being able to hold an erection is normal.

That said low testosterone levels could be linked to erectile dysfunction (ED if i have to type it again). Anxiety and depression can also have an effect. And off course everything that can restrict the blood flow to the penis so diabetes is a candidate, but in the longer run. But ED usually is a case of not being able to get an erection or being able to sustain it while being stimulated.

On a personal note i can't imagine having sex more than once a day (ok, i'm a bit older than you but still) as the second time i would probably not be able to maintain an erection neither.

Hope this answered some questions, you could always get yourself checked by a professional if still in doubt.

 

[Daibell]

Hi. If you feel you need some counselling or mental health support, not specifically for the masturbation but for the anxiety and depression you could refer yourself to an organisation such as Mind or your GP could refer you.

 

[Anonymous Question]

Do you happen to have blond/ mousy coloured hair? If so I think it's not unusual for facial hair not to appear in abundance until you are 25. This was certainly the case with one of my sons and some of his friends too.

--> Yes, my facial hair is mostly fuzzy blonde hair. I can grow a mustache but after a while it looks ridiculous (typical teen mustache) so I rather shave it. I also shave my chin since it grows some short of beard, but overall it's not thick. I heard some people grow it later, so you might be right about it.Regarding my social anxiety, I doubt I can get over it since I've been so for all of my teenage and it's gotten worse. It's got something to do with the way I was treated by individuals and that I don't expect anything good from the majority of them anymore. Maybe I didn't meet the right people, but I waited too long for that. Deep inside that hurts me, since I'd like to be surrounded by a lot of friends and be cool with everybody.

I don't think i could maintain an erection without stimulation for a longer period than said. Doubt it has anything to do with diabetes. There's being in the mood and there's masturbating out of boredom, if it's the later i would think not being able to hold an erection is normal.That said low testosterone levels could be linked to erectile dysfunction (ED if i have to type it again). Anxiety and depression can also have an effect. And off course everything that can restrict the blood flow to the penis so diabetes is a candidate, but in the longer run. But ED usually is a case of not being able to get an erection or being able to sustain it while being stimulated.
On a personal note i can't imagine having sex more than once a day (ok, i'm a bit older than you but still) as the second time i would probably not be able to maintain an erection neither.

--> Well yeah, I guess all these things combined could make it worse. I read that depression is a serious issue if you're also diabetic, as it can slow or freeze any attempt to have a good lifestyle. On a serious note, I'm pretty sure that at my age there shouldn't be worries regarding this stuff. I believe every guy my age is able to maintain a erection for good amount of time, even if there is little or no stimulation at all. That said, I'd like to find the issue. Being addicted to masturbation, I used to do it everyday(several times a day) till I would ejaculate for the last 5 years. I'm struggling with this addiction, as the longest time without doing is like 2-3 days. I could hold up once for like 2 weeks but that was the most. My penis is so sore that sometimes it hurts when I pee, and also my sperm quality has decreased so much that it's only a couple of liquid drops.I had to write this, and I'd like to apologise if my post is too disturbing.

 

[Mike d]

You are twenty but it is natural for many so don't be ashamed ..... but if you're having those painful issues, then time to see the GP.

Good luck and do not apologise. You had the courage to ask

Mike

 

[zand]

Re the social anxiety - counselling may help. It could help you deal with other people better so that they don't have such a bad effect on you, this in turn could change their attitudes towards you. Counselling has helped me but I still have bad days when I just don't want to face the world. Today is one of them.

 

[Anonymous Question]

I'd like to bring in this issue since it's bothering me. I think my penis head is less sensitive especially in the upper area. One thing I would blame is excessive masturbation and harmful at times. Let me explain why I believe this: I used to masturbate when my penis was so sore that I could barely have an erection, yet I still forced it. Basicly I used to masturbate till I would ejaculate so that I would feel done.This is a serious problem I've got along with social anxiety, and I believe that I use this to release some of the stress I'm going through. Please don't judge me harsh or anything.
Could you guys give me some advice on how to fix this issue? Would taking a break be the best option? It's just hard for me to control though, I always forget about it.Thanks