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Diagnosed & Emotions

turvell

turvell

Well-Known Member
Messages
522
Location
Birmingham UK
Type of diabetes
Treatment type
Diet only
Dislikes
been type 2 and the fact i get no sodding help from the NHS at all
hi

i was diagnosed 5 weeks ago and ever since im always scared and sad and start crying for no reason at all. i feel like im loosing my mind. i think about it all the time and it is consuming my life at the moment. i guess im not dealing with it very well. my doctors etc dont tell me anything and i feel worried about that. im so confused. i seem to be feeling over powering feelings of nostalgia for the younger me that was not ill. i really wandered how you guys coped with this

steve
 
It can get you like that - especially at times like Christmas, when everyone is eating and drinking whatever they want, without seemingly having to worry about it all.

I don't know your circumstances. Is there nothing you can do to improve your condition? Exercise, diet, weight loss? If there is, there's some hope that you can make yourself feel better, or improve your outlook for the coming year.

I sometimes miss not being able to do what I used to do - although much of what I did got me where I am now - but that's in my darker moments. I'm trying instead to understand what's happening to me and to focus on what I can do to improve matters or, at the very least, stop me getting any worse.

Reading up on it all helps and I've a very supportive colleague at work who's been T2 for much longer than me, has more severe symptoms but pulls me round I get really down.

Try leaning more on this Group. That's it's here for, and it's one place where most of us are more-or-less in the same boat.
 
hi Tom

thanks for you reply mate. its nice to know someone is listening. the main thing with me is not only do not really understand it but my doctor just ushers me out of the door after 3 mins and the nurse is vile to me too. im in the dark and im the kind of person that reads the net about things and then decides that i have it lol. im a sill emotional wally i suppose. wish i have some friends that understood me. im trying to hold it together. christmas day tomorrow. no goodies :( cant even get ****** to forget it lol.

merry christmas mate
 
turvell said:
hi Tom

thanks for you reply mate. its nice to know someone is listening. the main thing with me is not only do not really understand it but my doctor just ushers me out of the door after 3 mins and the nurse is vile to me too. im in the dark and im the kind of person that reads the net about things and then decides that i have it lol. im a sill emotional wally i suppose. wish i have some friends that understood me. im trying to hold it together. christmas day tomorrow. no goodies :( cant even get ****** to forget it lol.

merry christmas mate
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carty i cant see what your reply was
 
Hi Steve

I have to say that you're emotions are normal unfortunately. I don't think I've ever come to terms with it even after 14 years. I've learnt more from this site than either my nurse/gp. You know all the other peeps are in the same boat.

As said above Christmas can be really hard. All that food and drink around :-( You can still eat/drink but in moderation. Don't deprive yourself too much or else you'll end up feeling even worse!

Merry Christmas Steve - big hugs.

Karen
 
turvell said:
hi

i was diagnosed 5 weeks ago and ever since im always scared and sad and start crying for no reason at all. i feel like im loosing my mind. i think about it all the time and it is consuming my life at the moment. i guess im not dealing with it very well. my doctors etc dont tell me anything and i feel worried about that. im so confused. i seem to be feeling over powering feelings of nostalgia for the younger me that was not ill. i really wandered how you guys coped with this

steve
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Hi,

We were all where you are now but it does get easier. You do all the hard work 24/7 and try and manage diabetes to the best of your ability. It is not a job that the majority of people would want as it never stops but you can, with time, patience and testing, get to a place that is acceptable.

These articles explain what you are going through.

http://www.diabetesexplained.com/diabetic-emotional-issues.html

This one explains the grief that you are experiencing.
http://www.diabetesexplained.com/the-five-stages-of-grief.html
 
turvell said:
hi Tom

thanks for you reply mate. its nice to know someone is listening. the main thing with me is not only do not really understand it but my doctor just ushers me out of the door after 3 mins and the nurse is vile to me too. im in the dark and im the kind of person that reads the net about things and then decides that i have it lol. im a sill emotional wally i suppose. wish i have some friends that understood me. im trying to hold it together. christmas day tomorrow. no goodies :( cant even get ****** to forget it lol.

merry christmas mate
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Hi, Steve.

Doctor's surgeries are bit like conveyor belts and, IME, GPs often don't have the time (that's being kind) or the knowledge (being more realistic) to sometimes help in the way we would like.

Have you thought of getting your GP to refer you to a specialist? It was one way I was going to insist on, had my GP not been one of the better ones at my group practice.

On the drink front - I switched from my beloved bitter beer to dry red wine. It's OK for me - not to get p****d every day - but it does allow me to have a reasonable drink on occasions, without any noticeable effect on my BG.

Hang on in there, pal. Keep reading up on it all, and experimenting with your diet and exercise, while checking with your meter, and you'll eventually find out what works for you and what doesn't.
 
Gosh I was sooooo ANGRY when I was diagnosed, Steve. Still am. I had just sorted out a long term issue via an operation and was getting my life back and then BAM! It seemed like somebody has said "Right, you've sorted out that so have a bit of this now!"

I have had medical issues of a sort since I was a kid but I never 'suffered' from them as such. I was always bloody minded not to let them stop me from doing things and letting people patronise me but this...THIS...still has me angry!

I spent one whole day crying once. Nothing could stop the sobbing. I felt so sorry for myself. I'm an experienced psychotherapist and have worked with clients with 'loss' so could understand where I was in the grief cycle (see the five stages of grief) and even told kind people to stop trying to make me feel better as I was 'going through a process!' How up myself is that! LOL

A year after diagnosis I still feel I want a good cry. I think trying to get to grips with the specialised diet is like trying to knit fog.

Hang in there buddy and as someone once said 'carpe the b***dy diem' X
 
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