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Explaining to unhelpful relatives.

Discussion in 'Type 2 Diabetes' started by Lemonie, Jan 31, 2017.

  1. Lemonie

    Lemonie Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Have come off meds and am now diet controlled with very good control. My family does not know anybody else with diabetes and don't understand. I often get told to go on, it's only one, it's special occasion, what's the worst that can happen.

    I have insulin resistance and before controlling my bg's I had neuropathy and my eyesight deteriorated really badly over the course of one year. I have tried googling but can't seem to find my way through all the quack doctor sites to read good articles as to be honest I could do with educating myself so I can answer the questions asked of me confidently.

    Can anybody point me in the right direction?
     
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  2. douglas99

    douglas99 I reversed my Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Depends on your family.

    What's the worse that can happen?
    'F*** off' works for me.

    Be yourself.
     
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  3. Diakat

    Diakat Type 1 · Expert
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    I told my husband that my feet would drop off. I think he believed me!
     
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  4. dan1jess2

    dan1jess2 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Bloody annoying isn't it! I got told at work but you don't have diabetes anymore as your off the meds and diet controlled! And when a colleague was handing out cakes I said no thanks, he said you never have cakes to what I said that's because I'm diabetic, he said I'll bring some lettuce next time, I really wanted to punch him in the face!!! No idea how hard it is sometimes x
     
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  5. Hotpepper20000

    Hotpepper20000 · Well-Known Member

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    All I say is this is not up for debate!!
    And change the subject.
     
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  6. Squire Fulwood

    Squire Fulwood Type 2 · Expert

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    I'd like to help you out ..............which way did you come in?

    Seriously though, there are a lot of good sites out there and here is one you can spend some time reading.

    http://www.phlaunt.com/diabetes/
     
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  7. Freema

    Freema Type 2 · Expert

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    do what you know is the best and understand that there will allways be a world filled with people that never will understand ever..
    we need to help each other here and focus on what we know works for us..

    a good way to start for you would be to eat a breakfast without carbs or almost without any carbs every day all the year around..
    like bacon and eggs or ham and cheese without the bread or with the famous LIDL protein roll that only contain very few carbs, I only use a half as the big roll of 130 grams is very heavy and satiating... or you could eat just a half avocado with lemon juice sprinkled over it and a cup of tea/coffee with cream for breakfast..

    the rest of your day you should avoid pasta potatoes, bread in general also whole grains all cakes and chips and rice all kinds
    you can eat almost all vegetables grown over the ground ...tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers ,onions and kale
    you could eat cottage cheese, al kinds of cheese , all kinds of meat , but some sussages do have to much wheat flour in them..

    you should stop eating fruits, and if you miss fruit much then eat some berries instead and it is good to eat them with whipped cream .. fullfat yoghurt is also fine ...
    you can eat almost all kinds of nuts, peanuts do contain some carbs but are much better than chips and cake ...

    well keep asking in this forum if you need advice, there are really very many helpful people in here...

    there also is some threats with ideas for foods and low carb cooking

    @daisy
     
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  8. BrianTheElder

    BrianTheElder Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I learnt a lot by downloading books from Amazon on my Kindle. It's cheaper than buying them and you can 'take a look inside' to see if the style and layout appeals. The reviews are a good pointer to how good the book is. You can also decide your area of interest, LCHF, keto, recipes etc. Of course you can also learn a lot on this website and Diet Doctor. You will feel much more confident when you have a basic understanding of nutrients and how the body uses them.
     
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  9. db89

    db89 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    That's callous I'm not surprised you wanted to punch him! I've only really had the 'is that the bad one' style comments if I've mentioned the diabetes to anyone at work. That's enough to make me think twice before mentioning it openly.
     
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  10. douglas99

    douglas99 I reversed my Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Punch him when he doesn't bring the lettuce.
     
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    Hotpepper20000 · Well-Known Member

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    I am very careful with who I share my medical info with. Not because I am ashamed but I don't want every social situation to be about what I can or can't eat.
    If anyone asks questions and I don't feel like sharing I just say, I feel better when I don't eat "x"
    I then ask a questions about their lives family or work to distract them. Most people prefer to talk about themselves.
     
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    berylc Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I go told off by a lady at work when I had lost 2 stone and said I was on the LCHF diet. I was told that I'll have a stroke with all that fat! I tried to explain about the diet, but she wouldn't listen. THEN on my dinner break I was told by the same lady that I was testing too much (before tea break and lunch) that I was taking testing too far!
     
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  13. Freema

    Freema Type 2 · Expert

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    what a fine strategy and yes most people like to talk about themselves a lot
     
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  14. dan1jess2

    dan1jess2 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I do watch the [email protected]@@ a lot of people eat and think to myself why why me but hey ho that's life, as my 10yr old son told me but mummy you are now so healthy and Slim it was a good thing being diagnosed bless him, we all eat better now so maybe the wake up call I needed! X

    And for the record I bloody hate lettuce!
     
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    chalup Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Saying no thank you should be enough. It is none of anyones business why you don't want to eat something. If you don't want it then you don't want it, period.
     
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  16. dan1jess2

    dan1jess2 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Very true I will keep it to myself next time xxxx lesson learnt xx
     
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    Hotpepper20000 · Well-Known Member

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    I find it interesting and frustrating how what we eat and how is thought to be social acceptable to comment on.
     
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  18. Lemonie

    Lemonie Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Thanks for the replies. My diet is fine and my bg's rarely go much above 4 :) What I'm looking for is some good articles on diabetes and the side effects and how it progresses over time and how having raised blood sugars is harmful and the effects. It doesn't help that I also have a lot of food intolerances as well so my diet is a full time job lol
     
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    Chook Type 2 · Expert

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    People only ask me or comment on my food once because I immediately show them the pictures I've got saved on my phone of people who have had amputations, etc due to uncontrolled diabetes. They never ask or comment a second time. :)
     
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    Hotpepper20000 · Well-Known Member

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    Oh wow I bet that would be fun at a cocktail party.:bored:
     
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