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Fed up and can't be bothered !!

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Hebe

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Type of diabetes
Type 1
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Hiya
I'm 14 and am on a pump and lately my blood sugars have not been as good as normal and as a result my resent hba1c has gone up from around 7 to 8.5.My doctor has warned me about losing my pump and the importance of getting back on track ect.I understand the risks and why I need to get back on top of things but I recently feel like I don't care ,can't be bothered with it all and have been feeling overall down about my diabetes!Its not a serious problem yet but I'm worried if I can't get back on track now it will only escalate and get worse!I am aware I need to get motivated but just can't seem to do it.I was just wondering if anyone else has felt like this and if anyone had any tips or advice???


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Hello, hope you feel better soon. I'm not myself a diabetic, my mum is insulin dependent and has been since she was 8 years old. She's never been on the pump before. She controls her diabetes with injections. I just want to say that what your feeling is very normal due to your age. My mum is now on her 40s and up to this age still goes through stages of being fed up with it. Maybe try a new diet to try control your sugar levels, I've heard that some light exercise is good to. Please try to be strong, having diabetes is not easy especially for someone of your age but you have so much to look forward to don't let it get you down xx hope you feel better soon
 
Dear Hebe

I am sorry you are having a bid of hard time at the moment.

I am a man, forty eight, t2 and never been on insulin let alone a pump, so perfectly qualified to advise a teenage girl t1 on an insulin pump like you :-).

No practical tips from me on diabetes care, I am afraid.

The reason I am replying to your post is because I was touched by your cry for help and wanted to pass along some encouragement.

It's been a while now since my teenage years so I do not remember much about them. I suspect I was Mr Sensible, Mr Goody-two-shoes even then. It's been the curse of my life, let me tell you! Always feeling like you have to do the right thing and more importantly that that is what everybody expects from you, can be frustrating.

Plus girls don't really dream of dating boring Mr Nice Guy, they want Mr Dangerous and Adventurous, or what they think is Mr Dangerous and Adventurous, even if in reality he is just an idiotic fourteen year old kid copying what he saw in the latest movie and pretending to be worldly beyond his years.

Where am my going with this?

I suppose what I am trying to say is that teenage years can be a difficult time. It is a time when we try to discover and shape our own identities as individuals separate from our parents. It is a time of awakening and transition from being a child to being an adult.

It is also a time when what we probably all want most is to be in with the cool kids, the ones everybody admires and wants to be like at school. It is not so easy to be in with them, if you are in any way different and having diabetes and having an insulin pump attached to you, does not really help one to blend in.

But it's not all bad news! Teenage years are also kind of exciting in a roller coaster ride kind of way. Emotions and feelings tend to be blown out of proportion but the are also thrilling and vibrant. Even if you are feeling that all is a bid flat and boring at the moment, hold on tight as the next crest is probably just round the corner!

You have already taken the most important first step in taking better care of your health by admitting and accepting that you need to change and improve.

I suspect that you need to discover the motivation to deal with your diabetes better by rediscovering your excitement for life in general.

I hope that there is someone close to you, preferably female, an aunt or a friendly neighbor maybe, does not have to be a diabetic, that you can talk things through with. Talking to parents is not always easy at your age.

Try concentrating on what is good about your life. Maybe even try experimenting with a new hobby or try to make some new friends. Make some plans for something you would like to do in the near future, such as a holiday maybe. Set yourself small challenges and give yourself small rewards to help motivate you in keeping your levels under control.

Life is a wonderful gift, and youth is precious (often wasted on the young, as we middle aged fogies like to point out).

Trust me, from your fourteen year old standpoint, you may not be able to fully appreciate what a wonderful gift life truly is!

Promise me that you will at least try to give yourself a chance to be convinced otherwise when older by taking better care of you now.

It would be a shame if the person you are destined to blossom into tomorrow was prevented from reaching her potential because you could not be motivated to make a few small sacrifices today

Pavlos


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Thanks Pavlosn ,justcallmeb for the posts they were both really nice and definitely made me think. I think I need to talk to someone maybe my closest friends about it and even though they may not be able to fully understand they will hopefully be able to cheer me up! Thanks again
Hebe


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Hebe,
it is totally understandable how you are feeling, i remember what being a teenage girl is like and it is bad enough without being diabetic,
as for the cba with it, ive had it 10yrs and i still get like that too sometimes(i think this is normal too), im sure you will soon feel better in yourself,
try to talk to a family member and your friends, i think sharing our feelings helps us,
chin up and feel free to message me if u need a chat;)
 
I'll be honest with you, I found your post a bit inspirational really. You're 14 and know that your control is not perfect and you understand enough to know you could do with a bit of help. That's taken me 18 years. And I'm heading for forty!
What I'm trying to say is, you've taken that first step. Here is a great place to start.
But be proud that you've taken that step. Next time you see your dsn/ doctor you could ask about any local groups?
Every diabetic I've ever met gets times like these, I certainly have.
Remember diabetes is hard work, don't be hard on yourself too. X
 
Hi Hebe,

I can understand how you are feeling, I'm also fed up at the moment. I'm in my 40's and a mum of 2, And I have been diabetic for 33years on the 12th March. I went through the same while growing up and recently got a pump, my numbers went up this morning and it got me concerned, but they are now back to normal. If I can make a suggestion(that has already, been said, talk to your parents) first and fore most, but set your self a plan eg blood sugar 15 or so(just and example) get it lowered by 2,3, or 4mmol's. Make it something you feel you can achieve( if you set high goals, you will only feel, more upset). And when you reach this goal ask if you can have a treat, like getting your nails done or something like that. Sometimes we all feel like this, but as you reach your goals, you will feel better. I was also told by my DSN, that we all have blips. Hope this helps?
 
Hebe, how are you feeling?? I have 14 year son, so know it's a difficult time, my son is autistic and has problems( learning). So if you want to rant and rave, Pm me as I know it's difficult when you have problems. But talking from experience their is a lot more help for teenagers, these days. When I was diagnosed after a few years I played around as I wanted to be normal( in my day, no sweets etc). You only saw a consultant/Dr( my parents got told, take things away as a punishment), which made me play up more. I remember on holiday( everyone else got a cake or something, but because I had, had some sweets, before holiday, I didn't get one, so I got a diet coke,,and I thought, you can punish all you like). I just want to be normal.
 
Hey Hebe, I'm 34, diagnosed for 25yrs and been on a pump for 5yrs.
Its not easy I know. You have months where your control is great and then out of nowhere every tjing turns pear shaped and it seems your never gonna get back on track. You start feeling down and things just end up in a nasty spiral. I can only tell you how I manage times like these and hope uou can take a little something from them.
1. Start by doing your ratios. Write them down and give your self a target. Something easy like in 7days I'll try and reduce my average bm by 2mmol/l .

2. Wrire everything down in your pump diary. Dont stop at results write how you feel on that day.

Its sounds stupid when I put it down like that but honestly it does seem to do some good. Gives you a sense of perspective and makes YOU feel more in control of YOUR diabetes.

Stay strong kidda, stick with it! Xx

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