feeling depressed and lonely!!

[xkayzx]

hi, i have just moved to a new location and feeling very down and lonely! ive moved in with my boyfriend and he is worried about me and asking what is wrong but i really dont no!! why am i feeling like this and how can i stop feeling like this!!??
I have had diabetes type 1 for 22 years now so i no what i doing and am controlled.

 

[Sue Morton]

Hi, sorry your feeling depressed you say you have moved to a new location does this mean that you have moved away from family and friends :?: You will be depressed and feel lonely and it will take time to adjust. It may seem worst as Christmas approaches - will you be on your own just you and your boyfriend - does he have any family nearby - if so you could get to know them go and visit them.

It could also be that you are not sure that you have done the right thing by moving in with your boyfriend and that you are scared that the relationship wont last. A new life is always a bit scary at first. Only you really know why you are feeling depressed - the loneliness is expected when you move somewhere new but you will make new friends soon.

If you and your boyfriend try going to the nearest pub where you might get to know new people and make friends that way. It is daunting moving to a new location and explain this to your boyfirend that although your happy being with him that you miss your family and friends (if this applies).

Don't let your loniness get you down as this could lead to your not keeping your diabetics under control.

I too feel quite depressed and don't understand why although I think its that I miss the enviroment you get at work - I took retirement in July and although it was scary it was a relief not to have to work any more being 61 and not in good health. Being stuck at home in this cold weather hasn't help whereas if the weather had been better I may have got out more and depression wouldn't have set in. I have now got the flu and have been pretty bad with it and my BS has gone up not a lot but higher then normal 9.3. I have now returned to 6.2 which is in my range thankgoodness and I am feeling a bit better today not a lot but bit better.

I hope everything works out for you and that your new life in your new location works well - look on your computer of places of interest that your new locaton has it might suprise you and be places that you can visit.

All the best
Sue

People give adivice about getting a job or volunteering for a charity but this isn't always what a person may want you have to find in yourself as to what you want too do. If its possible plan a day you can go and visit your family for the day if they are not too far away.

 

[Hobs]

I wonder if you have fallen victim to S.A.D? When the days grow shorter some of suffer with the lack of day/sun light and with the aid of a lightbox the body's system gets back into gear again.

Do a search on this and take a read:-
.sada.org.uk/

 

[DazG]

I moved from Cardiff to Oxford in my 20's cos thats where my partner lived and I found it difficult, but you have to make a new life for yourself and try to settle. It took me a while but I got there.

I have also felt down at this time of year previously, Id guess down to lower light levels and shorter days, so maybe its a combination for you of new area and winter blues.

Dont be sad, its Christmas soon

 

[Dave123]

Hi

My wife has suffered from depression in the past .

Dont be afraid to talk to your boyfriend and family or even a doctor

It maybe anxiety moving to a new area with your boyfriend

Try and make time at weekends to do things you enjoy and visit friends
and relatives

Hope everything gets better it will

 

[xkayzx]

thanks every1 for the replys, hopefully i will be more settled after xmas,hopefully its just the weather and the dark nights on how im feeling at the mo?!