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Getting through the bad days!

(((Helen))) when I wrote my post above, I was very newly diagnosed and felt I could conquer the world - I was wrong. I have had some bad days, it's pretty tough at the moment. I will share this with you. I received a letter today from a very dear friend in the US. Part of the letter said "I always knew you were a strong woman, but when you told me about your diabetes I was concerned how you would cope, with all the other health issues you have to deal with. How was I so stupid? You have dealt with this the same way you deal with everything, head on strength and no hesitations. You have always been the same, no matter what has happened in your life. Yes, you admit to weakness at times, and a need to vent, but my dear you are human, and we all have to let it out sometimes".

This is of course very true. We all have feelings and emotions, and we deal with things as only we can. Tears, vents, determination, being stubborn, what ever is right for us. Take heart, it will get better, it must, and I wish you many happy tomorrows.
 
Sorry if that sounded too methodical, thats just me.........We all need a cry moan etc at different times and sometimes just doing that can make you feel better. In the short time I have been on this forum I have noticed how supprtive and empathetic people are. As others have said, I havent always had the emotional support one would expect from family. And I tend not to bother friends who arent diabetics because they just dont understand. So I suppose Ive just learned to get on with it! The Good thing about this forum is that we have all probably been there..............Sending online hugs (((( )))) :)
 
I am afraid non diabetics just do not seem to have the understanding, many just assume it is a case of not eating sugar - my husband who has a fairly vast knowledge of many health issues as he was in a type of medical profession, kept saying 'You might not be diabetic', and makes precious little comment when I mention it. To be fair, he has been diagnosed with Parkinsons, if a choice had to be made I am sure I would opt for diabetes, but he never talks about his illness either, and he was diagnosed much more recently than I was, his comments were made pre his own illness. My daughter, who was extremely supportive at the outset, keeps reminding me that she also has an auto immune disease, don't get me wrong we are very close, but I feel she thinks I am competing with her :D So, here is where to come for understanding, because - I keep repeating this rather worn cliche - but 'We are all in the same boat' :crazy:
 
Hpprkm I can understand that here is where you come for understanding. I am also sorry to hear about your Hubby's Parkinsons that must be tough too. I also think for those of us who had always loved our food a source of comfort has been removed. When I was younger if I felt down or lonely then I would treat myself to all my favourite foods. ( was tiny and never put on any weight ) So I think that can be tough. Also it is an unseen disease. My Dad who was not part of my life as a child didnt even know what type I was! If I let on that I may be struggling he just says well cant you just do this or just do that!! It is not a competion as you say you just want a bit of understanding.......We'll get there cos we have to we just have a wobble now and again.. :)
 
Hi Shop, thanks for your message, my hubby will keep buying chocolates, talk about temptation, not sure if he just does not recognise that I find them so irresistible, or if he is trying to get rid of me (as I keep saying to him) :lol:
 
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