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That's really positive news that he is prepared to talk about it. If nobody properly explained how diabetes works to him when he was first diagnosed, he must just feel like he has no control. Getting blood sugar results you don't want, but not understanding why, is a horrible feeling. Now that he's talking about it with you, is there any chance at all that he would consider going on a course like DAFNE? (http://www.dafne.uk.com/). It's not just about learning why/how, it's also about talking to others who have type 1 and who have had the same sorts of problems.
I don't know what country you are in but DAFNE is not just UK.
I'm going on my first DAFNE course in a couple of months (all being well) and they've told me that partners/spouses can attend some parts of the course. Worth looking into. They don't do DAFNE in my area but my GP has referred me to a place that does - there was no problem doing so.
 
Hello to all the member's of the forum, I think that it's the best one place where I can find a lot of the info about the diabetes type 1 and 2 many more.... I think that this kind of the forum will surely helps more to the person's who needed this kind of the problem's....
 
Hello mohin and welcome to the forum :) I see you are already finding your way around. If you have something you want to know and can't find the answer you can either use the search engine or ask a question on the forum and someone will come up with an answer for you. This basic information for new members, written by the Forum Monitors, should be useful to you in managing your diabetes, that is if you have diabetes as it is not quite clear to me from your profile. In any case, diabetic or not, the diet advice is excellent.

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Hi Mohin. I've found everyone to be so helpful and kind. This is a great place to get info and empathy. I suspect great friends are made here too.

Daisy - I think the DAFNE thing would be great. As a midwife I have a decent understanding of diabetes, and find it easy to learn more, but it would do him good to attend something like that. I'm laying off for now though. He's testing a lot and some patterns are starting to emerge, so we're playing about with diet and insulin etc... while I quietly go about learning more in the background. :lol:
 
You are off to a good start :) It might be a good idea to put him on the waiting list for DAFNE as I understand it can take a long time to get on it depending on where you live. At least find out how long the waiting list is. :)
 
Definitely will do. Hopefully the new doc will be helpful too. Good news is that he's testing 4-6 times a day, and we're learning. Most recent theory is that we're over-reacting to hypers and hypos and so he's swinging back and fore, having at least one bad hypo a day. But we ARE learning and he's now quite receptive to the whole thing. Now if we can stop the hypers in the morning, we might get somewhere. :D
 
Hi

So pleased to hear that you have managed to persuade partner to make small steps to keeping a better control of the diabetes.

Levels can go up very quickly in mornings. Called 'dawn phenomonen' (can't spell)-however in my case-mine was a getting up only phenomonen. Didn't matter waht time of day when I got up, an hour later my levels would be 3 times what I woke up with, corrections didn't help enough really, and due to a hypo later in the afternoons, I went to a pump. This has given me the best control with my getting up huge rises.

It is good that you are seeing patterns, and can try and tackle these. Do it slowly, and don't try not to over treat hypo's or hypers, as this will throw things in to disarray.

Pleased to know that you have been able to get to a stage with partner where they can accept help. That is a big hurdle in itself.......well done. Please let us know how you both fare in the future, as there is always a huge amount of support from everybody here......and some good advice....
 
Hi feel a lot for you both
The things that you are describing are not as rare as you might think .I replied to aa very similar post not so long ago .Is it possible to have a romantic candle lit meal with your hubby ? A bit of nice music in the backgound (Make a diabetic safe meal which is pretty straight forward ) And connect from a totaly diferent angle . The last person i advised like this settled a 3yr stint of a non believing hubby and she was at her witts end also . Try and approach him as a wife not a health professional as he well knows your way above his it regarding that and thats why hes turnung away . I hope this majic works for you and your hubby . Its got to worth a try . Good luck and god bless :D
 
I've looked into a pump, and I suspect it may be the way forward for him, but he'll need some time to come round to the idea. For now we'll work on understanding what we can do with his current meds/lifestyle, and try to adapt a little. Hopefully my doc will help, and we can get a little more support from that avenue.

I found that telling him how much I don't want to live without him, and how I want us to spend our lives enjoying things rather than sitting at home simply nursing him, got through a good bit. And we've seen a bit of an improvement in his complications already, which helps too. :)

Doctor this week, get a HbA1C, and work from there I guess.
 
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