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ilovedogs

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I am not newly diagnosed. I diagnosed myself with diabetes three years ago when I tested my blood sugar (diabetes runs in my family, which is what caused me to do this) and my fasting blood sugar was over 200. Although I've only known about my diabetes for 3 years, I believe I've had it at least a decade. I already had some bad complications from it before I even knew I had it.

I am 30 years old and discovered I had diabetes in my late 20's.

I cry all the time about my diabetes and I'm trying really hard, but my disease is complicated and way worse than what it should be for someone my age. I don't believe I'm going to live to be an elderly person, although I'm trying really hard. I'm terrified all the time of my disease and have been for years and get yelled at by doctors a lot because of all my complications.

I really, really need emotional support. Please. And somewhere where I can be honest. I'm tired of only diabetics who have really good numbers sharing their numbers. I want to be able to be honest about my numbers without feeling horrible for not being perfect.

I'm sorry to unload in my newbie post, but I am so desperate for support right now, which is why I joined this forum.
 
Hiya..puppy person...Sorry to hear you are so down and that its been such a struggle. I know looking at posts where people are doing great, hitting good low levels, can make you feel you are just not getting there at all...but it really is all about how you approach this thing. It would be patronising just to say try instead to be encouraged by other people's relative success..but...lots of people who are now doing well were once thinking they would never get there too. You can choose to see their success as something you are not managing, or as evidence that things can improve (often dramatically) with the right approach. Many people make progress as a result of good valid information and support from others..particularly on this site...so use it...its not just a place to post nice blood sugar levels but also a place where we can seek support, advice and encouragement..or just download and let off steam. Put it this way..not trying will certainly ensure things get worse...so you may as well express yourself here, and ask questions and try some of what might be suggested - can't be more negative than not doing so can it? We all get negative, go through spells of frustration even despair at various times in our lives - coz we are human..only human..and it's what we do! That said, once we have got totally sick of the mud and grime of nothing changing..we have to take control. You need to be asking what can you do to feel more in control? We need to know things like what are your average readings now, are you still testing yourself, what are you eating/ We need you to talk about what the complications are..YOU need to talk about them..and this is the place to do that. Look - what I am saying, however basic it may sound, is see this as a start, a fresh chapter...try it n see what happens is all...there is a hell of a lot of experience here in lots of different forms. People will understand your feelings and you will get support BUT..it's important not to just look for sympathy...look for direction, coz it sounds like you have lost that a bit..and it shard to be focused and determined when you're on your own without an approach. If you are open to it, this site and the people who use it, can help you form an approach. Let's hear some more, yeah? Paul
 
ilovedogs said:
I am not newly diagnosed. I diagnosed myself with diabetes three years ago when I tested my blood sugar (diabetes runs in my family, which is what caused me to do this) and my fasting blood sugar was over 200. Although I've only known about my diabetes for 3 years, I believe I've had it at least a decade. I already had some bad complications from it before I even knew I had it.

I am 30 years old and discovered I had diabetes in my late 20's.

I cry all the time about my diabetes and I'm trying really hard, but my disease is complicated and way worse than what it should be for someone my age. I don't believe I'm going to live to be an elderly person, although I'm trying really hard. I'm terrified all the time of my disease and have been for years and get yelled at by doctors a lot because of all my complications.

I really, really need emotional support. Please. And somewhere where I can be honest. I'm tired of only diabetics who have really good numbers sharing their numbers. I want to be able to be honest about my numbers without feeling horrible for not being perfect.

I'm sorry to unload in my newbie post, but I am so desperate for support right now, which is why I joined this forum.
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Hi, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so down, but you have come to the right place to find the emotional support you are looking for.
As Pleinster says, there is a lot more to these forums than just somewhere to post good readings. Browse the forums, read all you can and ask questions - get involved. All these things will help you to feel less isolated and better supported.
Tell us a little more... Early 20s seems very young to be diagnosed Type 2. Has it been confirmed that you are not Type 1? Have you had a formal diagnosis at all from a health practitioner? Are you on any meds? Do you follow any specific diet or eating plan? What are your readings like? What are the complications you refer to? And why are doctors "yelling at you"?
And take heart - we are all diabetic, that's why we're here. None of us is perfect. And we can support each other. Sometimes we need the support and sometimes we're in a place where we can give it to others - you'll find you are just the same.
Hugs x
 
Hi @ilovedogs and welcome to the forum. As the @pleinster and @debrasue have said you shouldn't be discouraged because other forum members are posting lower HbA1c readings. We are all on the same journey, our bodies are all different, and some find it easier than others. But it is difficult for all of us. I think more people with higher figures should also post.
I hope you will continue to post and learn from the forum. We all learn from each other.
 
We do understand how you feel and yes it can be difficult when you come here to mostly see posts from people who have got their diabetes under control but don't let that put you off. As Prem51 said more people who have been finding it difficult to get control should post here but not very many do unfortunately. I suppose it is human nature to only want to talk about how well we doing but it is not a competition as to who is doing the best although it can seem like that sometimes. When you are feeling down you do need support and people you can talk to but you don't want them telling you straight away that you have to do this and stop doing that Read all you can on here see how others do things and ask any questions you like and remember once many members here were in the same place you are now but just like them you will get it under control and then you will be posting about your success
 
Hello @ilovedogs and Welcome to the Forum. As other members have already said, we need for you to tell us a bit more information about your control of your Diabetes and these complications that you are experiencing. You will find that we are all friendly and supportive to each other.
 
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