How many carbs should I be having

Hi Gucci and welcome!
With regard to carbs/sugar, as far as diabetes is concerned carbs are as bad as sugar as carbs are converted to glucose during digestion so forget about the'of which sugars' on labels and concentrate on the carb content.
As far as fats go, and the message that we shouldn't eat them; its a myth and misinformation that has now been largely busted. Dietary fat and dietary cholesterol doesn't increase your body's level of cholesterol.
I'm in the same boat as you and have no spare fat or weight to shed and it is quite hard to consume a good level of calories without ingesting carbs and elevating BG.
I'm adding a link to a video by Dr Zoe Harcome PhD. She has some very interesting comments on Total fat, Sat fat, Calories and Cholesterol. You may find it enlightening.
Dave

Yes you know what has been preached about fats - but it is a belief, not fact, and the more it is tested, the more it proves to be false. There are a few unfortunate people who have high levels of cholesterol due to their genetics, but for most, fat is fine.
Personally my cholesterol fell on going back to LCHF eating, with trigs of 2 at 80 days and 1.5 at 6 months.
Diabetes is mostly about carbohydrate - the net, without the fibre amount that a food contains is proportional to the impace on your blood glucose.
If you reduce your intake of the high starch and high sugar foods your blood glucose should fall - but you need to test BG levels after various meals to see just how various foods affect you, and reduce or eliminate the foods which cause spikes.
I found that once I got to see 8 mmol/l 2 hours after eating the levels went on down without changing anything else - presumably as my metabolism got back into balance.

I don't think anyone can give you a number of how many to consume each day. We can give examples of how many we consume, but we are all different. I think it comes down to some good old experimentation to find out what you can tolerate and still maintain good bg levels. And what time of day is best to eat them. Sometimes you just have to play detective and see how you respond.