husband with diabetes won't consider using Meter type 2

Sorry to hear of your plight, and your husband's. Yes, lots of stress. Is there diabetes in his family?
No good wielding the big stick just now. Just carry on supporting him as he grieves and eventually he may come around with a nudge here and there. How is his health generally?
And how is yours?

What meds is hubby on?

There is hypoglaecemia where bloods are low and hyperglycemia when high. Some people can experience similar feelings for both.

OK, all is not lost. Try to keep things smooth just now. You might like to browse this site for yourself to see how others deal with diabetes, blood sugar, blood pressure, weight and so forth. It's all here. You just choose the path that works for you, and maybe your husband will follow.

Its tough time for hubby and for you worrying about him too.

Do you know what his last hba1c was? Do you tjink he is eating less carbs since his last hba1c?

My best advice is if you cook or prepare his meals, reduce his carbs gradually. Until he has more meat and less spuds, more good veg and less sugary things, the aim is to lower his blood glucose levels and get him feeling better. Try full fat rather than low fat as low fat usually has sugar in it to replace the fat and for taste, give him butter, buy whole grain bread or seeded bread, try and cut down on his beer drinking. And so on.
You can do this without him noticing.
If he does, just try something different that is lower in carbs.

You honestly care about him and you want the best for him even if he doesn't.
When he does finally notice he has you to thank and he might try even lowering his carbs more.

Have a good read around the forum and keep looking after yourself as well.

We are pig headed us men!