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I want a baby when I am older

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I am 18 now and I would love to have a baby when I get older maybe in my middle 20's late 20's but I really dont want it to have diabetes. My mum died when I was 9 years old and she was diabetic so I am quite sure that I have got diabetes because she had it but my dad has said that when I was younger I got alot of colds so he said I could have got diabetes from infections. If I did have a baby would it definetly get diabetes because of me and my mum having it?
 
hya jodie,
have u got diabetes? u say u are quite sure ,have u been tested? if not u may not be diabetic,it can be more likely if your mum had but doesnt mean u have it,so plz dont worry,if u can tell us if you are diabetic we might be able to help..
take care :)
 
Hi Jodie, none of us know what is in store for any of us, you shouldn't let your worry about diabetes stop you having children. Many diabeteics have healthy pregnancies and children.
I made a decision not to have a third child when 7 years ago I was diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa-a degenerative sight condition and a 1 in 2 chance my children will inherit it. When a close friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer, it put things in perspective and my husband and I decided to go ahead and have the 3rd child we wanted. Unfortunately halfway through that pregnancy my eldest son, 9 at the time, was diagnosed with Ewing's Sarcoma, a bone cancer, in his skull. He went through hell, chemo radiotherapy and lots of sugery. The cancer came back when he was 11,after a year in remission. We were told there was no treatment for him. We couldn't accept that we were going to lose him and we sought a second opinion. we saw many doctors, and he was offered experimental treatment, the doctors only expected it to give him more time. They were wrong! He is 16 now doing GCSEs and last week he was given the all-clear. He's on medication, and has some permanent hair loss, but otherwise he is in good health!
I have been diabetic since I was 19, and if any of my children do happen to inherit it, although no-one else in my family has it, I really do know that there are worse things in life.
I know it's hard not too worry, especially after what happened to your mum, but with good care, I'm sure you and any babies you have in the future will be fine. There are huge advances being made with stem-cells and genetics, and there's always hope for a cure in the future. Live in hope :D
Jus x
 
Hey Jodie :)

There is no current evidence that Diabetes is inherited. Don't let your condition, and that of your mother, put you off having something that you want so much. Just because there is a history of diabetes (you don't say, so we don't know how far back, but that still wouldn't make much difference) doesn't mean that any baby you have will be diabetic.

And at the end of the day, even if your baby developed it, remember you will have been following a diabetic diet, so your child will have grown up with it. It wouldn't be such a drastic step for them, as it would say for any child born into a completely diabetes free family. As long as you remember to feed them healthily, and don't let them eat tons of sweets, and drink gallons of sugary drinks, even if the worst did happen, they wouldn't actually notice or feel in any way that they were missing out. I speak from experience, since I grew up with a diabetic father and consequently, a diabetic diet.

Please don't let your fears prevent you from becoming a mother. It would be a tragedy to allow something that, at the end of the day, is so insignificant, effectively rule your life :)
 
A friend of my husbands was diagnosed as a child. She has had two healthy pregnancys and has two healthy children. Neither of the children has been diagnosed.

Talk to your G.P. about how you feel.
 
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