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<blockquote data-quote="spinningwoman" data-source="post: 109821" data-attributes="member: 19482"><p>Poor you - and brave you to tell it here.</p><p></p><p>The way you tell the story over to yourself makes a big difference. Can you sit down with someone you trust, or just to yourself in the mirror, and tell it like this? 'We are so lucky/the angels must have been watching over us - I had a hypo when I was alone with my son and the door was unlocked I wasn't found for five hours - so many bad things could have happened and yet none of them did, and my son was safe and even did what he could to help, and my parents came round in the nick of time and knew what to do. That was the worst thing I could have imagined and yet we survived it and we're fine and I'm so proud of him.' </p><p></p><p>It is all the same facts, but such a different story. It is worth telling it out loud, even to the mirror - words that come in through our ears get treated with respect by our brains even when it is we who are saying them. Smile when you are telling it. Tell it over again whenever you start dwelling on it. Every time you go over a memory, you reshape it a little, and although it sounds a bit artificial, it really does work. It's not false - the second way of telling the story is just as valid with regard to the facts; it is what a naturally optimistic person would say without thinking. </p><p></p><p>Think how you would want to tell the story to your son, about how brave he was, and how he was fine even though he was so little, and he was so sensible to try and help you. It could become one of the big family stories that he actually likes to hear, and if there was any memory of the incident it would give him a positive shape to remember it in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="spinningwoman, post: 109821, member: 19482"] Poor you - and brave you to tell it here. The way you tell the story over to yourself makes a big difference. Can you sit down with someone you trust, or just to yourself in the mirror, and tell it like this? 'We are so lucky/the angels must have been watching over us - I had a hypo when I was alone with my son and the door was unlocked I wasn't found for five hours - so many bad things could have happened and yet none of them did, and my son was safe and even did what he could to help, and my parents came round in the nick of time and knew what to do. That was the worst thing I could have imagined and yet we survived it and we're fine and I'm so proud of him.' It is all the same facts, but such a different story. It is worth telling it out loud, even to the mirror - words that come in through our ears get treated with respect by our brains even when it is we who are saying them. Smile when you are telling it. Tell it over again whenever you start dwelling on it. Every time you go over a memory, you reshape it a little, and although it sounds a bit artificial, it really does work. It's not false - the second way of telling the story is just as valid with regard to the facts; it is what a naturally optimistic person would say without thinking. Think how you would want to tell the story to your son, about how brave he was, and how he was fine even though he was so little, and he was so sensible to try and help you. It could become one of the big family stories that he actually likes to hear, and if there was any memory of the incident it would give him a positive shape to remember it in. [/QUOTE]
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