Little to No Sex Drive/Libido

[LordReptilia]

Well, I was diagnosed at 8 in 1970 and didn't have a glucometer until my early 20s. I know my sugars were bad all the way through my teens , but have no idea how bad. (I think my hbA1C was round about 12 or so when I was first given a glucometer, which was definitely a life changing moment.) It's never too late to take control of your diabetes and many complications are reversible. After 48 years my diabetic issues are mild on again off again background retinopathy, which hasn't yet required any treatment. So use your previously high HbA1C as a reason to lower it now, rather than a reason to panic.

Good luck, and definitely talk to your doctor about your issues. Hopefully you've also told your girl friend what you've written here.

I will I appreciate the advice! I can only move forward after all, ya?

 

[Stemar 2]

I was diagnosed when I was 15 months old. I went through a stage of my life where for ~7 or so years I had blood sugars ranging from 300-HI every day consistently. It got to the point where I adjusted and had normalized the 7 year headaches and constant dry mouth.

My blood sugars resulted in my A1C’s being 10%-12% throughout all of middle school and high school. Because of this, My body’s growth was delayed and I now have swollen knuckles with crooked fingers. After I learned about the resulting damages of my high blood sugars, my doctor explained how my body was working then/and now (or at least I think my endocrinologist explained this to me when I was like 10). The onset of puberty for me was delayed and didn’t hit it until around sophomore or junior year of high school.

When puberty did hit for me, I didn’t display any of your generic puberty behaviors like being obsessed with sex, masturbation, or girls. I never cared and didn’t see the need for it. It’s now roughly 6 years later and I’m in an incredible relationship of 4 years with the girl of my dreams, yet I have very little desire for sex on a daily basis. I don’t really ever think about sex and tend to want to do other things.

It makes me feel terrible because I know it affects her self esteem and her views of our relationship.

Does anyone know what’s happening with me or at least experiencing any of these things that I am?

Any tips/advice?

Hi LordReptilia,
I'm not in anyway qualified in this field, but I don't think your lack of sex drive is a symptom of your Diabetes solely, because my brother has the same problem and he doesn't have diabetes at all. He doesn't like to watch Porn and he doesn't get into Stick Books (Porn Related) either. His relationship with his wife is completely normal, even though they had some bad times in the beginning and how they worked through it was for him to be totally honest and explain your feelings and condition to your partner, to your partner because if you are both still together after 4 years, you must be doing something right, so I wouldn't be stressing to much over this as the stress from your concerns would be detrimental to your overall well being. So sit down with your partner and lay it all out in the open as I sense you have a strong relationship after 4 years and doing this can only make it stronger. So I wish you all the best and I wouldn't be all that concerned Ok!!!

 

[LordReptilia]

Hi LordReptilia,
I'm not in anyway qualified in this field, but I don't think your lack of sex drive is a symptom of your Diabetes solely, because my brother has the same problem and he doesn't have diabetes at all. He doesn't like to watch Porn and he doesn't get into Stick Books (Porn Related) either. His relationship with his wife is completely normal, even though they had some bad times in the beginning and how they worked through it was for him to be totally honest and explain your feelings and condition to your partner, to your partner because if you are both still together after 4 years, you must be doing something right, so I wouldn't be stressing to much over this as the stress from your concerns would be detrimental to your overall well being. So sit down with your partner and lay it all out in the open as I sense you have a strong relationship after 4 years and doing this can only make it stronger. So I wish you all the best and I wouldn't be all that concerned Ok!!!

Hey thanks for the kind words and positive mentality! I guess Diabetes is always the easiest card to pull for me when it comes to pointing fingers:/

 

[Fairygodmother]

Hi @LordReptilia, sex isn’t the only way to show affection. Be tactile. Use words too. Open up to your girlfriend. Share.

 

[LordReptilia]

Hi @LordReptilia, sex isn’t the only way to show affection. Be tactile. Use words too. Open up to your girlfriend. Share.

I agree entirely. But I’m also aware that affection and love are built on emotional love, silent love, and physical love. Silent love being the little things you do for your SO every day that they may not realize