Lonely

samantha13 said:

I ended up having a wee cry over the weekend and my partner caught me. I had to be honest and tell him what was bothering me. He is so understanding and says once we move he will join a club with me and help me mingle more but he also made a good point in saying that if that's my biggest concern in life then I'm very lucky. This is so true and put things in perspective for me. I'm a pessimist by nature but I'm goin to make an effort to look at the positives! I have a great partner and as you say a new start in life. Thank u everyone xx


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It's good that you've talked about it now and he will help you get out and about to meet people!

I enjoy my own company. I love my friends, but I often find myself making excuses to not hang out with them because I just can't be bothered! It's really antisocial of me so I force myself to go out sometimes

There r prob support groups in ur area u could use to meet new people. Wot city r u in/near?

Hi Samantha, I am afraid depression its related diabetes ..
Believe me you are not the only one who feels like this. .. However, It is important that you seek advice to let it out of your system meeting people its always a good thing!
I am here if you want to talk .

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You do sound like you've got a lovely supportive partner!

I know the feeling of loneliness only all too well... I'm 32 and a single mum to two little men although they keep me busy, there is no one to talk to in the evenings or to share my problems with, hence why I joined the forum!

I'm a natural worrier and worry about worrying lol

It is hard when you lose touch with people

Hope things start to pick up soon for you xxx


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Like all primates, humans are social animals mostly living in groups. Group behaviour though is complex, often competitive, heirarchical and bad tempered and whenever I get a bit cheesed off with, for example, that lot down the pub, I imagine this study of chimpanzee behaviour.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tM4si1ZO4Ns

The way people socialise in a pub reminds me of a school playground, the groups that form, the places they stand in, the way they look at the other groups etc. Just think monkey.

Glad that you managed to speak to your partner. Your partner sounds wonderful, and I hope that your new job and living works out well. Joining a new workplace is a challenge in itself, but don't be afraid to say "do you mind if I join you"..... People very, very rarely say 'no'. They will want to know about the new person, but just remember as well that people like to talk about themselves as well.

I went to a group interview in the past.. Where you had to join up with someone else in the room and find out 2 things in common that you had with this other person, and all within 3 minutes...
What stuck in my mind was that the two young girls that paired up came back and said that they had nothing in common but had a good chat anyway.... I was so surprised that two young girls could not find one single thing in common! The lads there all found out so much about each other.. Even finding out that they both didn't like olives!!!! (How did they discover that in 3 mins?) (by way, the chap I was paired up with, became a friend after 3 mins... We found out we had both moved away and both moved back, both married, both looked at living in a wooden lodge on the same park, both liked Spurs, neither of us had an x box, and both of us had ended up buying bricks and mortar again!)

Just really to say, that don't worry about speaking to people in a new place of living or working.. This is a chance to make some new friends, and it sounds like you have a great partner to do this with. Don't be afraid to have chats with people, you may find that in 3 mins of chatting to someone you can actually find out if you have something in common which will be a basis to make a friend... But if not people will still like to have had a chat with you.


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Ah lonely..... Where do u live?

:lol: bit late here it seems but, for me the question is "what is a friend?", sure some seem to know hundreds of people but would they fully trust any of them? If "no" then simply ,there not friends, there just people they know and there "friends" numbers mean absolutly nothing when friends are really needed!
Truthfully i think most people can really count the number of true friends on one hand, and as it takes time to find these in the first place, just be yourself and eventually true friends will just be drawn to you and you to them without you even noticing it.
Lol wisdom comes from age so i must be a very wise sod lol, so just be yourself! :thumbup:

hi lonely
im in the same boat as u i dont ave any real friends i live alone so i ya want 2 get in touch with me eel free 2 do

hi im new here im from ireland im type 1 and i feel veer alone i also live alone so i would like 2 get 2 know others

Hi Loughlin. Welcome aboard. I'm also in Ireland. Nearly blown away at the moment by the windy weather:smile: This is a great community where you will find lots of empathy and support.

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