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Jogreen21

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Type of diabetes
Type 2
I dont know if this is allowed but theres something I need to do.Neither of us can claim to being technical and I have never used a forum before.I did try earlier to do this but the whole txt vanished. My partner is Jogreen21. She has been to hell and back and was recently diagnosed type2.Lots of things stand in her way the worst being an eating disorder. I could never have done all the things she has,and survived.She had a different problem a few years ago and a simple uncalled for comment was made a few months ago and because of this,her 3.adult children have forbidden her to see the grandkids and its killing her. The eating disorder which shes had for many many years and has had a bad hold over her has been severe of late but since her type 2 diagnosis she decided to take the bull by the horns and try to sort it out.Today is day 4 of no vomiting and I want you all to know how hard its been for her to get here. I love her with every beat of my heart and am so very proud. She is the sole carer of her mum who is nearly 96 and although I do all I can,I feel its never enough. Jo has many issues mainly brought about by the eating or not eating depending on her mood.I think what I really want to say is this, Jo I love you,I'm so proud of you. I dont understand diabetes yet but I'm learning,albeit slowly. You looked after me when I was in a coma and have looked after me ever since.We'll do this together. I lost my cousin 3 weeks ago from diabetes and I dont want to lose you too.I neva pressure you but I'm scared too.Who would have thought day 4 and no vomiting? Day 5 will soon be upon us then hopefully 6,7 who knows? I'm here for you on the good days and the bad.We'll take each day as it comes and together we'll crack this.I know this isn't the right way to do this but I know if its on here you'll read it.As long as you know I'm always by your side that includes the good the bad and the ugly. Keep up the good work. You're amazing.
I dont know if you will allow this post but I couldn't let day 4 go by without acknowledging it.Jo is visiting her mum at the moment and its a round trip of 160 miles and she does this at least every 3 days.I usually go with her but I'm full of cold. My name is Darren. Thankyou.
 

Hello Darren & Jo. My heart goes out to you both. It is lovely to see a couple so much in love. The person you are married to is the most precious person to you on this earth. Yes there will be difficult times and even hard times but unconditional love between two people is a joy to behold.

Many people today enter into marriage with the idea "I will love you if........." - that is a marriage which is heading for disaster. A successful marriage should be "I will love you whatever". Marriage is NOT a 50/50 relationship. Marriage IS a 100/100 relationship.

I have been reading Jo's posts elsewhere and found her to be an inspiration to us all - your post is also an inspiration. Don't worry about the grandchildren - they will put pressure on mom & dad to bring about reconcillation. I think that it is marvelous that Jo is caring for her 96 year old mother - both of you seem really nice people.

God bless you both - and perhaps one day we will meet - down here or up there.
 
Who would have thought day 5?? I'm feeling excited and happy.i couldnt do any of this without my new found friends on this forum, and of course darren who loves me unconditionally bless him (I just wish I could stop snapping but he knows I dont mean anything bad by it).thanks everyone x
 
Hi Jo & Darren. Friends are a bit like extended family - they might let you down some times but they love you really and when it comes to the crunch, they will stand with you. Your husband/wife is MORE than a friend - they are the other half of YOU.
All the best for Christmas - it is just around the corner.
 
Well done Jo, you are doing so well! And you can have no doubt about Darren's love for you!
 
@Jogreen21 - Yeah, like snapsy I to wanted to know the whole story!. I've been there with the caring for Mum - mine had Alzheimer's and Diabetes and I looked after her for 9 years till she passed away.
It's really nice to read about a couple who are really happy.
 
@Liam1955 its hard isnt it when caring for an elderley parent especially as we live nearly 2 hours away. I went yesterday then back tomorrow as shes at hospital and again on friday! But shes my mum and shes a grand one at nearly 96 yrs old.her memories going now and she sometimes calls me by her dead sisters name,.but we'll carry on as long as we can. She acgually baked some bread last week and shes hardly any sight due to glaucoma and cataracts. God one knowz how she did it but the bread was lovely x
 
What a wonderful couple you both are. Best wishes from me and Ron for a wonderful future together . Xxx
 
@Jogreen21 - Like You I too have a loving/caring Spouse of 18 years, who also helped me look after Mum (she had Cataracts too) but, at the end of the day my Spouse was there for me. It's important to have that Special someone there for You to unwind and chill out! (I think? I read the other day you are originally from York?) My Mum's memory went completely 2 years before she passed and I got to know another 'Mum'!! Still as nice and loving, though she forgot who I was.
 
When in lowest moods and mainly when we are exasperated with ourselves (I have eating prob too and T1) we can take out on partners... and we wonder why they stay with us too!!!

So, my thoughts.. you have strength, personality and
love beyond eating disorder and diabetes. Hang on to those thughts when a bit snappy etc...We are more than our eating and illness.... we must actually value ourselves to see why our partners do.

So clearly that you are a great couple for each other. And for mum!!

Just keep thoughts in brain about you being more than food and illness cos we
all see determination and courage in you too...
 
I have my good days like everyone and I've learnt that the bad days are only a glitch and things do get better. I used to dwell in the bad but not anymore.Today my first test was 6-6 and even though I ate 3 things today I thought it would stay low but I've just tested and its 18-4 !! Hopefully it's because I haven't eaten enough but I'm eating all I can at the moment. Tomorrow is day 6 without making myself sick but it's so hard when I test high,the urge is so very strong,it's in my tummy,my head and my mind and I just want it to go away. I'm NOT giving in to this demon anymore.Its ruled my life for years and I've had enough.I hope I can see this through and get rid of it altogether.
 
Brilluant to read that you had a figure much much lower despite then going higher....

Glad to read of such determination and fight in you. So very tough but you are proving stronger....

However, have you heard anything about metformin, dietitian etc yet?
I would chase up as before you know it another week of higher levels will have passed and they not sorted.

High levels can definitely make people 'narky'... so the sooner you get balanced lower the better.

At levels of 18.. to be honest.. I think you will be needing more than metformin... and please ask Dr Which type? Slow release or standard? Type 2's can explain difference better than me but I am also acutely aware how stomachs can react when having little to eat and having a little bit more.. there is no way that I would like to think of a bulimic having diarrhoea on top of coping with other things. Especially travelling to see your mum...
 
Oh yes, all wanting to hear how you done on day 6....
Helping to celebrate or with support.. we just would love to hear how you are...
 
@4ratbags
Thankyou for your comments.i'm going to do this.its been a hell of a long week but I just went from day to day and finally got to day 7. I have noticed that when I manage to eat something my blood/sugar levels will drop but as the day goes on it gets higher and higher and I dont really understand why.ive just eaten a pear (I had some smoked mackerel earlier but I think it was too strong) and I'm going to try some vegetables later.that will be 3 things ive eaten today which will be good as I was only eating an egg a day.
 
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