Need a kick start...

[hannahlou]

Morning I woke up this morning with that " today is going to be the day feeling"

I do every so often and I plan to nail my diet, refresh my exercise and just be more pro active about managing my blood sugar rather than relying on reactive insulin dose adjustment.

The thing I struggle with is support from my partner....."why can't you just eat the same as me" "the gym again, really?" "No I don't have time to take you to your retinopathy appointment, they are too often" and of late the most frequent "why are you always snapping" like a few people have said I have a magic number and if my blood sugar goes above that it feels like my head will explode and I can't concentrate on anything! He thinks it's all in my head and an excuse for a bad mood.

Sorry for the vague rant but sometimes this 'condition' can be pretty lonely be interested to hear if anyone has had similar experiences with friends/family/partners

Have a good day x

 

[Cloe-1992]

Hey ,

Sorry I'm no help I'm very lucky and have a supportive family and partner .

But Sorry your partner isn't as understanding about your diabetes for you , I can imagine why you feel alone when your getting questions and answers like that . Have you ever sat him down and explained how you have felt .

Take care x

 

[novorapidboi26]

I have/do definitely get snappy with my wife and kids if my blood sugar is higher, which when looking back isn't very nice, but they understand..........well, the wife does, the kids are only young......

My wife accepts my diabetes and supports me by allowing me to manage on my own, I did it for many years before I met her so the impact of my condition doesn't really affect her in any way......

she is quite fussy with food, so she regularly doesn't eat the same as me, but she cooks my dinner anyway, I would literally eat anything and do, obviously healthy...

I organize my own appointments and can get myself to them so that isn't an issue either.........

Its nice to get support from your loved ones for sure, but for me being allowed to do my own thing is also important, I suppose that attitude towards it comes with time, which for me is 16 years....

your partner should be more supportive though, especially regarding the food and exercise..............you need to educate him and try to enjoy doing it....

 

[hannahlou]

Seems like I'm endlessly trying to explain/justify/defend hun.

Mostly I try to ignore it. I'm just having one of those days today, just getting it off my chest helps

I'm glad there are supportive partners out there - that's good to hear x

 

[hannahlou]

I have managed my diabetes for 22 years doing all the things you say. We have been together for five years and have a three year old I rarely ask him to help me with anything, just want some understanding I guess that exercise is important to me and so is trying to eat well and that it's not me trying to be difficult.

I know the mood thing must be horrid to be in the receiving end of but I'm not aware I'm snapping until I have done it...and that makes the exercise and diet even more important.

Oh blimey I'm going to stop moaning. Haha x

 

[angelicbaby]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

Your successful management of your condition should take priority of your relationship - after all how are you to care for your little one if you become ill.

I think that your fella's attitude to your health is only part of the story and you are crying out for help here.

Would you consider going to Relate or talking to someone from there (0300 100 1234). I understand that he may not be interested in attending - but he doesn't need to - you can go alone or phone their helpline.

Also you shouldn't need support from your partner to manage your condition. You have done quite well for the last 22 years - you can do this yourself for another 22 if you have to. You don't to start your new regime tomorrow - start it now. Good luck and stay strong.