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Not remembering saying nasty things

Krafty

Krafty

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My mother is type 1 and some days she says nasty things to me or my daughter and can't remember straight after what she has said. Like today, she said to my daughter,
"I love you, you little s***!"
Now she would NEVER say that! Is it the diabetes doing this? We did ask a nurse at the surgery and she said yes but I can't find anything about it online. Its very hurtful.
 
When someone's blood glucose goes low (hypo) they can act out of character and say things they didn't mean, it can happen to those who are using insulin and basically it's because the brain is being starved of glucose. Other than that you should get your mam checked out, acting in this way isn't always diabetes related and there may be other reasons for her behaviour.
 
Hi Krafty,
Diabetes and memory loss may be linked, however saying nasty things is something completely different.
Might be that something in your mums past could have triggered her to say nasty things that her mind quickly forgets.
" I love you you little s***'! could also be viewed as a extra loving phrase.
I am not sure if you should try to ignore this in the hope it s a temporary thing or get your mum to seek professional help.
Whatever happens I hope it all sorts itself out.
 
If your mum is acting out of character, try to test her blood sugars. I have turned extremely nasty during hypos, and not remembered it at all. A few years ago I was in the co-op with my wife. The next thing I knew I was sitting on the pavement outside with an old lady saying 'She's just gone to get some more sugar dear.' Apparently I had yelled 'They don't sell anything and it's all your f*****g fault!' And then tried to storm out. Instead I collapsed through the door.
15 minutes later I was back to my normal self, albeit a lot more apologetic than usual.
 
I have had diabetes, insulin dependent, for over 30 years. Unfortunately, when I am having a severe low blood sugar episode I am not myself: I am belligerent and don't remember what happened. I am very lucky that my daughter and husband understand that. I am so sorry that this is part of the consequences of trying to control my disease. Our brains use lots of glucose to work, they don't work well with unusually low blood sugars. Chances are, if your mother doesn't remember what she said, she was working from a sugar deprived state. Does she usually tell the truth when she is not having a blood sugar low?
 
Dibbles1 said:
I hope your mum's ok and that's it's nothing to be worried about :)

Just to cheer you up though, I once shouted 'Oi S***head' jokingly to my hubby at a biker rally.
There were at least 30 Hells Angels and other bikers who turned round and said almost to a man, 'Yes my love'? :angelic:

As @izzzi says it can be a tongue in cheek term of endearment. ;)

I hasten to add though, I never normally swear, and when I do everyone just falls about laughing. Apparently it just sounds so wrong coming out of my mouth.
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Thank you! You have just brightened my day! :hilarious:
 
Krafty said:
My mother is type 1 and some days she says nasty things to me or my daughter and can't remember straight after what she has said. Like today, she said to my daughter,
"I love you, you little s***!"
Now she would NEVER say that! Is it the diabetes doing this? We did ask a nurse at the surgery and she said yes but I can't find anything about it online. Its very hurtful.
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Let's take a step back & work out in what context these expletives happen... Granted it's not ideal in the presence on "mixed company".
Are they all in essence "nasty"? The example highlighted in your post could be interpreted as a form of "Tourette's"..??
 
I once told a colleague to 'P*** off!' This is not like me, honest! I reckon my brain was temporarily starved of oxygen, no, glucose, I think, :) but in retrospect I think I DID mean it !

More usually, though, if I'm hypo, I go deathly quiet - what a relief for everyone else. Sometimes, though, I say things that have made my kids snigger for days, gently reminding me of my daftness from time to time. Well, I'm glad to be a source of amusement. :mad:

I can understand though that some hypo comments could easily turn out very hurtful, but just remember that the hypo is doing this, your mum isn't really choosing to use these words. If it keeps happening, your mum may need more help to avoid hypos.
 
In a social situation at the start of a low, normal conversation with me just tends to go "esoteric"..
I've never insulted my wife, but I have tried to convince her we are all but stardust...

I normally take that cue to shut up & grab the meter...! :)
 
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