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Jill the tt said:
I looked up an old ***** and had a bit of lunch rest on my own and that calmed me down enough to act sensibly the rest of the day


how else can this be interpreted,. i knew someone who's son was seeing an older woman, all the men said go for it, the mother was so upset, i think if she'd been 30yrs older she may have killed her. any way i have a right to my opinion, anyone can read this forum, what i can't understand is i've worked 60 hr weeks i would never have had the time to do anything like this or time to post about it.
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Oh for goodness sake!

Trundling off upstairs for a private moment (to relieve pressure) is worlds away from the relationship that you are implying.

Totto has been very clear from the start of this thread that nothing has happened, and nothing will.

Superimposing your life experiences over hers, and judging her as a result is neither helpful nor humane. In fact I think it is mean (in the petty, small minded sense of the word).

I feel very sorry that she will come to this forum and read your comments, your judgements, when you have taken what she actually wrote and twisted it into something completely different.
 
I can assure you that neither the lad nor I nor us are actually doing anything that would upset any mother or father, not even hubby.

But we really, really like each other.
 
Totto said:
I can assure you that neither the lad nor I nor us are actually doing anything that would upset any mother or father, not even hubby.

But we really, really like each other.
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this i totally get, i did not intend to be mean to you, i worry about young people and don't like emotional dishonesty, i got it wrong i thought people were saying go for it, while others were saying be careful. i'm sorry if i caused you any hurt, i really am
 
Jill the tt said:
this i totally get, i did not intend to be mean to you, i worry about young people and don't like emotional dishonesty, i got it wrong i thought people were saying go for it, while others were saying be careful. i'm sorry if i caused you any hurt, i really am
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Now I'm feeling mean for stomping on you.

Group hug?
 
misunderstandings happen, i would never be unkind, i hate to hurt anyone, count me in the group hug
 
Sometimes, it really IS good to share .

Off loading emotions and situations , even with "net friends " can diffuse a situation,and give perspective.

Signy
 
Totto said:
I can assure you that neither the lad nor I nor us are actually doing anything that would upset any mother or father, not even hubby.

But we really, really like each other.
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"Bless the rains down in Africa" Totto.. Sorry, I've been wanting to get that one in since this thread started.. ;) :cool:
 
Jill the tt said:
I looked up an old ***** and had a bit of lunch rest on my own and that calmed me down enough to act sensibly the rest of the day


how else can this be interpreted,. i knew someone who's son was seeing an older woman, all the men said go for it, the mother was so upset, i think if she'd been 30yrs older she may have killed her. any way i have a right to my opinion, anyone can read this forum, what i can't understand is i've worked 60 hr weeks i would never have had the time to do anything like this or time to post about it.
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I think you need some retail therapy ... At Ann summers .

Something tells me this young man knows exactly what's going on and he's enjoying a seemingly harmless moment in time, just like the op. Nothing like your friend's situation.

The op has a way with words too, quite literary and I can't help wondering if the events have been made to sound more enticing than the reality ... A bit like TOWIE?




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Brunneria said:
Oh for goodness sake!

Trundling off upstairs for a private moment (to relieve pressure) is worlds away from the relationship that you are implying.

Totto has been very clear from the start of this thread that nothing has happened, and nothing will.

Superimposing your life experiences over hers, and judging her as a result is neither helpful nor humane. In fact I think it is mean (in the petty, small minded sense of the word).

I feel very sorry that she will come to this forum and read your comments, your judgements, when you have taken what she actually wrote and twisted it into something completely different.
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I think she may not mind. Having read the thread now it seems to me that the OP's frame of mind has changed. Originally flummoxed and tense, now more relaxed and sure of herself. Just my observation. I think she's quite enjoying the moment, which she has no intention of escalating.

Why bother to trundle upstairs? ;-)



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Now I've really got to the end.

Now everybody's friends again!!

Group hug from me too I guess. Next time I'll read the whole thread before commenting.

I'd just like to say a huge thank you to totto for writing so well about something so personal.
Thank you.


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Jaylee said:
"Bless the rains down in Africa" Totto.. Sorry, I've been wanting to get that one in since this thread started.. ;) :cool:
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I'm sorry Jaylee but I rarely have a clue about all your musical references. Remember I'm Scandinavian. And mostly into classical music anyway.
 
Obviously some on here lack the ability to appreciate the difficult situation I am in. I refuse to feel ashamed for any feelings I have and am working hard to pull through this without doing something that actually would be cause for shame but it was a very, very long time since I felt this overwhelming physical attraction that is damaging to my peace of mind, my sleep and my ability to concentrate. Slightest accidental touch - or possibly not so accidental, I don't know and I won´t go to any lengths to find out - turns me into a shivering wreck from desire.

But, as I think I told you to some length, we have become firm friends who talk about high and low and joke a lot, go for long walks, work very well together, cook together, go swimming every day together. And his mum seems to very happy he has been able to spend all this time with us as he is so happy to be here. And hubby is smiling and in a good mood.

Last night we were out on a reef looking for seals as he wished to see them, a very still, warm and humid summer evening, absolutely marvellously wonderful and there were seals too.

All in all this is wonderful and very tiring and it does make me feel alive in every fibre of my body and mind, if you can have fibres in the mind that is but you know what I mean. And he will leave us early Monday morning so I hope I can handle the situation until then without doing anything stupid.
 
jack412 said:
Why feel ashamed, everyone has infatuations. Feelings are feelings, you only take responsibility for your actions
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Exactly what I meant. Was I unclear? But I sensed that there are some people on here that feels I ought to be ashamed. But I am not. So far.
 
Totto said:
Obviously some on here lack the ability to appreciate the difficult situation I am in. I refuse to feel ashamed for any feelings I have and am working hard to pull through this without doing something that actually would be cause for shame but it was a very, very long time since I felt this overwhelming physical attraction that is damaging to my peace of mind, my sleep and my ability to concentrate. Slightest accidental touch - or possibly not so accidental, I don't know and I won´t go to any lengths to find out - turns me into a shivering wreck from desire.

But, as I think I told you to some length, we have become firm friends who talk about high and low and joke a lot, go for long walks, work very well together, cook together, go swimming every day together. And his mum seems to very happy he has been able to spend all this time with us as he is so happy to be here. And hubby is smiling and in a good mood.

Last night we were out on a reef looking for seals as he wished to see them, a very still, warm and humid summer evening, absolutely marvellously wonderful and there were seals too.

All in all this is wonderful and very tiring and it does make me feel alive in every fibre of my body and mind, if you can have fibres in the mind that is but you know what I mean. And he will leave us early Monday morning so I hope I can handle the situation until then without doing anything stupid.
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You have managed so far so I'm sure that you will survive! When are you going camping? Perhaps you could take advantage of hubbie's good mood and have that chat about a bit more help? Take care, Scandix
 
Totto said:
I'm sorry Jaylee but I rarely have a clue about all your musical references. Remember I'm Scandinavian. And mostly into classical music anyway.
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No disrespect personally. :cool: My remark was a play on words regarding your "forum user name". Assuming it's pronounced how I think it is..?
As I mentioned earlier I know a few Scandinavians & quite often get some real "dark humour" thrown at me.. :)
My personal humour works on "art imitating life". The film, book & comedy references reaffirming & promoting friendship with this young person as opposed to long term regretful damage to a marriage..

As an aside I don't regard "Anne Summers" and all the respected products as the "anti Christ" either... :cool: Though regarding my personal preference, I find most of the clothing range a bit silly..! ;)
 
Why not ask your husband what you should do maybe he does not care if you have a bit of fun.
 
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