Outbursts?

[Selin]

I'm a 22 year old with type 1 diabetes and I was diagnosed at 15... I always thought that i've always had a bad temper but lately, its been getting out of hand. Ill snap it at the tiniest things but 2 minutes later, I'm back to normal without a tinge of anger left. The problem is that I'm hurting the people around me. (Not physically of course) I don't know if this is normal or who or where I can seek help but I really feel like I need to do something about it. I've tried to try the simple steps of anger management before where I think before I speak and try and calm myself down and everything, and sometimes it works, but other times, i'm angry before i have time to think about it. Its taking a massive toll on mt life, where I don't feel like doing anything or getting out of the house anymore. I also get very anxious thinking about going out in public in case people see this side of me and i'm embarrassed by it. I really feel like if I don't do something about it, it's going to be too late. Any suggestions or ideas, please let me know. Im desperate to fix this.

 

[Robinredbreast]

Hi and welcome to the forum Selin. Do you test your BS when you get like this,? as a high and a low BS can cause personality changes. If I am low, I can feel 'low' a bit grumpy and furrowed eye brows, fed up with things. Possibly hormonal changes each month, underlined stress can be a factor as well or even your diet, what you are eating.? You could make a diary of all these things and see if there is a pattern forming?
If it continues and you are still concerned, either make an appointment with your GP or DSN, for help and advice as it could possibly be a number of things, or maybe, just one of those unexplained things.

Good luck and all the best,

RRB

 

[Heathenlass]

Agree with RRB

Mood swings are not unusual in diabetics, and in my own case are linked to what my blood glucose levels are: low, and I get moodier than a teenage EMo, and during the hell years of high numbers I was the sarkiest, metaphorical axe swinging berserker on the planet at times

It can also be linked to the general overload we all experience at times in dealing with diabetes on a daily basis, it carries a lot of emotional baggage .

You are entitled to psychological support from a trained member of your diabetes team, and it may be a good thing to ask for this. Explaining the problem to someone who is familiar with the emotionl side of diabetes and is a neutral listener can be very useful.

Good luck !

Signy

 

[AngryBirdinFlight]

Agree with RRB

Mood swings are not unusual in diabetics, and in my own case are linked to what my blood glucose levels are: low, and I get moodier than a teenage EMo, and during the hell years of high numbers I was the sarkiest, metaphorical axe swinging berserker on the planet at times

It can also be linked to the general overload we all experience at times in dealing with diabetes on a daily basis, it carries a lot of emotional baggage .

You are entitled to psychological support from a trained member of your diabetes team, and it may be a good thing to ask for this. Explaining the problem to someone who is familiar with the emotionl side of diabetes and is a neutral listener can be very useful.

Good luck !

Signy

My husband (type 2) gets like this and I am the one who gets his venomous out bursts, his latest two weeks ago when he nearly killed us both when out in car.He is mr wonderful to everyone else

 

[Heathenlass]

My husband (type 2) gets like this and I am the one who gets his venomous out bursts, his latest two weeks ago when he nearly killed us both when out in car.He is mr wonderful to everyone else

You know, you have hit on something very important here .

There is next to no education or support for the family of diabetics of any type really, and it can come as a huge shock if blood glucose swings seem to bring about a Jeckyl and Hyde type personality change. I remember one man being brought into A&E that took six porters to restrain, who was the nicest, most apologetic person on the planet when his glucose was normalised. His wife was completely traumatised , and the mood swings had been going on for quite a while without her knowing the cause.

BECAUSE you are family, you will get the brunt of it, and the sad thing is he may not know, care ( at the time) or even have a recollection of being this way with you. I can re,e,ber some incidents where I felt as if I was possessed, I used my tongue as a whip, and knew exactly which big red buttons to push on my current victim, and part of me was standing inside thinking " Oh, no no ! This is NOT what I want to say!" While the exterior knew there would be consequences and just didn't care, that I just couldn't stop. Oddly, it was never, ever, at work, or socially. Just with family. I am forgiven, because they knew it was totally out of character, and there was a medical reason why I displayed my shadow self with such venom, and why some that I did and said, I have no memory of.Since I crawled out of diabetic burnout, those episodes are gone, but it makes me even more vigilant that my glucose levels are stable . The remorse and embarrassment still remain

You are in a hard and difficult place, and I feel for you. When your husband is behaving like this ( and I'm presuming this is only since he became diabetic ) he really needs to check his glucose levels. If he hasn't got a meter, get one. There are some lovely people on here that can post up the links for the code free meter that many Type 2's buy if they cannot get a meter or strips on prescription. Getting him to self test may be an upward struggle at the time, so it's worth having a frank chat about how you feel, and the impact is on you, choosing a time when he seems to be in a good place. It's worth taking in to account that he may also be struggling with his diagnosis too, so talking about him may well help him, and I urge that he asked to be referred for psychological support from his diabetes team.

You too may benefit from seeing your GP and telling them how you are feeling and what you are experiencing . See a councellor if it is offered, or just ask to be referred. Keep posting on here, ask questions, vent, rage, share how you are feeling. Relatives of diabetics need this as much as those who are. You will be supported.

Signy

 

[uart]

Good thread guys. This is definitely something that needs to be discussed.

My Grandmother was diabetic for most of her adult life, and one thing I can clearly remember as a child was how she was always known as a "contrary Mary", like almost to the extent of a personality disorder. It was only later in life that I learnt (from my uncle) that her diabetes was very poorly controlled (she refused to take insulin and only marginally managed it with diet).

Now for the interesting part. Before I became diagnosed with diabetes a few years ago I had noticed myself becoming very similar. I actually felt like I was becoming my Grandmother . It wasn't until I (finally) went to the doctor and got the diagnosis that I realised what was going on. It was my way out of control diabetes that was effecting my mood and personality!

It's taken a few years for me to really get my diabetes under control. Starting on insulin last year, and then on a LCHF diet this year, have helped immensely. And I no longer feel like I'm becoming my own grandmother.

 

[Robinredbreast]

My husband (type 2) gets like this and I am the one who gets his venomous out bursts, his latest two weeks ago when he nearly killed us both when out in car.He is mr wonderful to everyone else

Hello and welcome, that is awful to hear and very scary too. Hmmm, I don't what to say really, but you know him best, if he is different with you than to everyone else, then ............be careful, have you tried talking to him about his behaviour ?

The saying of ' you always hurt the ones you love' comes to mind too.

Please take care.
Best wishes RRB

 

[jack412]

I found anger outbursts is also a symptom of depression. It's worth having a chat to the clinic team/dr/nurse about an assessment. the stats are diabetes and depression can go hand in hand

 

[AngryBirdinFlight]

Thank you all for your help. He is still in denial and won't talk about it, diagnosed August 2013. Recent check shows levels through the roof and refuses to go onto injections. He is retired and I work 3 days wish it was 5. I am careful what food I buy (I do shopping ) big he goes out to buys biscuits etc. depression tablets given by GP but he put them in bin a after an episode

 

[Mike d]

Guys (speaking as one of them and a (maybe) a sweeping generalization) are bloody useless. He needs help. You should not tolerate that in my honest opinion. His life in one thing .... yours is another.

I hope he gets over his issues but denial is or can be (often) natural. What does "thru the roof" mean?

 

[uart]

Thank you all for your help. He is still in denial and won't talk about it, diagnosed August 2013. Recent check shows levels through the roof and refuses to go onto injections.

Hi ABF. Can you tell us a few details about your husband's specific case. Like the diabetes type (presumably type II), what diabetes medication he is currently taking and what his recent BSL or HbA1c have been.

Also, see if can you get him involved in these forums? Many of us have experienced what he's going through, and can say for sure he will feel much better if he can get it under control.

Take a look at the low carb subforum. A low carb high fat (and high fibre) diet has help me enormously.

 

[Heathenlass]

Thank you all for your help. He is still in denial and won't talk about it, diagnosed August 2013. Recent check shows levels through the roof and refuses to go onto injections. He is retired and I work 3 days wish it was 5. I am careful what food I buy (I do shopping ) big he goes out to buys biscuits etc. depression tablets given by GP but he put them in bin a after an episode

Agree with what others have said, but look to getting support and help for yourself. If nothing else, you will find friendly ears on here .

Big hugs,

Signy

 

[AngryBirdinFlight]

Agree with what others have said, but look to getting support and help for yourself. If nothing else, you will find friendly ears on here .

Big hugs,

Signy

Through the roof means diabetes is out of control on meds and diets, that's why insulin injections next step which he refuses to do

 

[Spencer67]

Hey welcome, sounds like your going through it, your high and low blood glucose can make your emotions swing like a big dipper if you can recognise as a diabetic you are susceptible to these mood changes you are part way there to controlling your problems. Test your bg often and keep it within a normal range as much as possible, avoid stress or stressful situations as much as possible too, let calmness enter your life and think positively. Taking control of your thoughts is important too don't let a thought control you, a thought is just a thought, like a cloud passing through the mind, some thoughts are best ignored but don't feel bad about having any thought, we have about 60,000 thoughts per day . If you get angry and your bg is ok try practicing mindfulness by changing the way you may be thinking or feeling about a situation. Study some basic psychology to understand yourself more too, this helped me. Your a T1D and 22 your hormones will be having a lot of fun with you. If you mess up a relationship apoligise, learning to say sorry to the ones you love to keep them on your side is very important. Lots of diabetics are going through the same issues you have, makes you feel like a nut job i know, but your not.

 

[Robinredbreast]

Thank you all for your help. He is still in denial and won't talk about it, diagnosed August 2013. Recent check shows levels through the roof and refuses to go onto injections. He is retired and I work 3 days wish it was 5. I am careful what food I buy (I do shopping ) big he goes out to buys biscuits etc. depression tablets given by GP but he put them in bin a after an episode

Hi, there seems to be a patten forming with a lot of female spouses and wives starting threads like this, depression?? it would seem to be more the male 'ego syndrome 'going on, because there have in the past and recently too so many sad threads from women who are at the end of the man's behaviour and at the end of their tether too, So sad to read yet again, because of what so many others in the world go thorough in life.
As I mentioned before, just be careful and if it gets bad or there is verbal or physical violence, then you should rethink your life with this person, don't let someone bring you down or make you feel anxious, worried or scared.
It a good thing you can seek some support from just typing out your concerns and worries on the forum, it's such a good place to get your feelings out, it's often the poor partners who get the brunt of it. Take good care of yourself and try to keep posting and having a look around at the forum sections and threads
I wish you all the best,

Take care RRB

 

[Dusty13]

Hi, there seems to be a patten forming with a lot of female spouses and wives starting threads like this, depression?? it would seem to be more the male 'ego syndrome 'going on, because there have in the past and recently too so many sad threads from women who are at the end of the man's behaviour and at the end of their tether too, So sad to read yet again, because of what so many others in the world go thorough in life.
As I mentioned before, just be careful and if it gets bad or there is verbal or physical violence, then you should rethink your life with this person, don't let someone bring you down or make you feel anxious, worried or scared.
It a good thing you can seek some support from just typing out your concerns and worries on the forum, it's such a good place to get your feelings out, it's often the poor partners who get the brunt of it. Take good care of yourself and try to keep posting and having a look around at the forum sections and threads
I wish you all the best,

Take care RRB

 

[Dusty13]

Im the wife of a type 1 diabetic & once again he has had an outburst & stormed out & i dont know if i want him to come back. I am so tired of beibg the brunt of his anger. I worry about him & he had a hypo during the night when i was working & i had to phone a family member to go & help him & when itry to talk to him about it he gets angry. Im at my wits end

 

[Heathenlass]

@Dusty13 , I feel for you. You sound as if you badly need some breathing space as well as support. Can you visit a friend or family member for a chat ?

Signy

 

[Dusty13]

My husband (type 2) gets like this and I am the one who gets his venomous out bursts, his latest two weeks ago when he nearly killed us both when out in car.He is mr wonderful to everyone else

How are you coping? Im in a very similar position as yourself and at my wits end. This is the first time ive tried a forum and its making me feel like this will b my life forevermore

 

[Dusty13]

@Dusty13 , I feel for you. You sound as if you badly need some breathing space as well as support. Can you visit a friend or family member for a chat ?

Signy

Im too embarrassed i think people will think im making excuses for himbut he used to b the most patient, caring person i knew now im not sure i want him around me or our wee boy