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<blockquote data-quote="AndBreathe" data-source="post: 898865" data-attributes="member: 88961"><p>I have spent a good deal of my working life, working with Change. Sometimes it's on a corporate level, and sometimes individuals, but to be honest, the principles for these things rarely differ.</p><p></p><p>Changes happen for two reasons; either the person/institution volunteers to change (self motivated) or the change is imposed by a third party, which might be legislation for a business, or might be something the person encounters like a medical diagnosis or the unwanted breakdown of a relationship. Those are clearly just examples.</p><p></p><p>Self-inspired changes as great, because the person wants it, and wants to succeed. That doesn't always mean it succeeds, because life and outside factors can all too frequently get in the way.</p><p></p><p>Imposed changes are much more difficult to make happen. Legislative changes are easy, because the consequences of non-compliance usually make it clear why someone should or shouldn't do x, y or z.</p><p></p><p>Otherwise, I find there is are two critical, critical questions to be answered for each and every person undergoing change. Those questions are quite simply, "What's in it for me, and what are the consequences of not making this change?" Without a clear engagement with those questions and answers, sustained change rarely happens. </p><p></p><p>Now clearly, many of us can see the answer to both these questions, and have as such gone about addressing the change, but until your husbands do the same, you can encourage until you are blue in the face, but sustained change is unlikely to happen. </p><p>I know all of that sounds pompous, and we can all be holier than thou and critical of others, but how many of us carried a few pounds before diagnosis, realising it wasn't really in our best interests to do so? How many of us have rellies with diabetes, and were therefore always at a higher risk of crossing the line? How many of us grabbed ready meals when time was tight, rather than going for the probably faster, and more healthy option of an omelette? Almost all of us. But, it wasn't until we had the stark reality of the "what <strong><em>is</em></strong> in it for me?" and the "What's the price I may pay if I do nothing?" that we bothered to do anything about it. My HbA1c at diagnosis was 73. In under 4 months it was non-diabetic levels of 37, and still reducing. </p><p></p><p>With slight love handles, a brother who is T2 (albeit well with it) and a penchant for good food, why didn't I do anything about it before? Simply because was <strong><em>my</em></strong> desire wasn't great enough.</p><p></p><p>Your husbands are adults who will have to live with the consequences of their actions, and unfortunately, you guys will have to live the their consequences too, but until the time is right for them to recognise those questions and answers, you might as well make the best of the situations you find yourselves in.</p><p></p><p>I know that's a tough message, but it's a tough corner you find yourselves in. I just hope your chaps have a lightbulb moment sometime soon.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with it all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AndBreathe, post: 898865, member: 88961"] I have spent a good deal of my working life, working with Change. Sometimes it's on a corporate level, and sometimes individuals, but to be honest, the principles for these things rarely differ. Changes happen for two reasons; either the person/institution volunteers to change (self motivated) or the change is imposed by a third party, which might be legislation for a business, or might be something the person encounters like a medical diagnosis or the unwanted breakdown of a relationship. Those are clearly just examples. Self-inspired changes as great, because the person wants it, and wants to succeed. That doesn't always mean it succeeds, because life and outside factors can all too frequently get in the way. Imposed changes are much more difficult to make happen. Legislative changes are easy, because the consequences of non-compliance usually make it clear why someone should or shouldn't do x, y or z. Otherwise, I find there is are two critical, critical questions to be answered for each and every person undergoing change. Those questions are quite simply, "What's in it for me, and what are the consequences of not making this change?" Without a clear engagement with those questions and answers, sustained change rarely happens. Now clearly, many of us can see the answer to both these questions, and have as such gone about addressing the change, but until your husbands do the same, you can encourage until you are blue in the face, but sustained change is unlikely to happen. I know all of that sounds pompous, and we can all be holier than thou and critical of others, but how many of us carried a few pounds before diagnosis, realising it wasn't really in our best interests to do so? How many of us have rellies with diabetes, and were therefore always at a higher risk of crossing the line? How many of us grabbed ready meals when time was tight, rather than going for the probably faster, and more healthy option of an omelette? Almost all of us. But, it wasn't until we had the stark reality of the "what [B][I]is[/I][/B] in it for me?" and the "What's the price I may pay if I do nothing?" that we bothered to do anything about it. My HbA1c at diagnosis was 73. In under 4 months it was non-diabetic levels of 37, and still reducing. With slight love handles, a brother who is T2 (albeit well with it) and a penchant for good food, why didn't I do anything about it before? Simply because was [B][I]my[/I][/B] desire wasn't great enough. Your husbands are adults who will have to live with the consequences of their actions, and unfortunately, you guys will have to live the their consequences too, but until the time is right for them to recognise those questions and answers, you might as well make the best of the situations you find yourselves in. I know that's a tough message, but it's a tough corner you find yourselves in. I just hope your chaps have a lightbulb moment sometime soon. Good luck with it all. [/QUOTE]
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