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<blockquote data-quote="ButtterflyLady" data-source="post: 911643" data-attributes="member: 43498"><p>I wonder if a walking stick or walking frame would help prevent the falls.</p><p></p><p>I can really empathise with you because my ex was the same - in denial about his issues and resistant to my attempts to help him. In the end I left because the stress was making me so ill.</p><p></p><p>All the GP visits and counselling did was keep a bad relationship going, when I should have left much sooner than I did.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the posters above who have suggested putting yourself and your children first, looking after yourself, and not trying to care for a husband who will not allow you to help. You are wasting your limited energy and you are headed towards health problems yourself, I'm sorry to say. </p><p></p><p>Is the relationship worth getting ill for? What is he contributing in the way of support and care? Do his actions show that he respects you? Is this love?</p><p></p><p>There are people who can support you... IMO you need individual counselling to help you set and enforce healthy personal boundaries and to be more assertive. Assertiveness is not the same as being aggressive or pushy. It simply means being clear in your own mind about what you will and won't accept from others, and calmly communicating that when appropriate,</p><p></p><p>I think the only thing that will save him from more severe illness and disability is getting a large shock. If you stopped doing anything for him, he would have to face doing it himself. I would carry on as normal until after the MRI, then cut down on what I was doing.</p><p></p><p>You are not his mother, and he is not a child. It's high time he had to start living like an independent adult does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ButtterflyLady, post: 911643, member: 43498"] I wonder if a walking stick or walking frame would help prevent the falls. I can really empathise with you because my ex was the same - in denial about his issues and resistant to my attempts to help him. In the end I left because the stress was making me so ill. All the GP visits and counselling did was keep a bad relationship going, when I should have left much sooner than I did. I agree with the posters above who have suggested putting yourself and your children first, looking after yourself, and not trying to care for a husband who will not allow you to help. You are wasting your limited energy and you are headed towards health problems yourself, I'm sorry to say. Is the relationship worth getting ill for? What is he contributing in the way of support and care? Do his actions show that he respects you? Is this love? There are people who can support you... IMO you need individual counselling to help you set and enforce healthy personal boundaries and to be more assertive. Assertiveness is not the same as being aggressive or pushy. It simply means being clear in your own mind about what you will and won't accept from others, and calmly communicating that when appropriate, I think the only thing that will save him from more severe illness and disability is getting a large shock. If you stopped doing anything for him, he would have to face doing it himself. I would carry on as normal until after the MRI, then cut down on what I was doing. You are not his mother, and he is not a child. It's high time he had to start living like an independent adult does. [/QUOTE]
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