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Pregnancy scan horror!

I'm so sorry to read that Bunny. I hope things go ok today. Please be really kind to yourself and take good care. All best wishes for the future xxx
 
Bunny2shoes
So sorry to hear about loss,words you are probably sick of hearing at this stage.my wife and me have been through this twice and it will get easier but you will never forget about your loss and the anger you feel about heavens gain of a new angel.
Our first loss was in January 2010 we'd trudged through the snow very excited as it was the 12 week scan and our 12 year old son was with us to witness his siblings scan and as me and my wife are over 40 we felt blessed to have another life on the way. As the scan was being performed it seemed an age to find the heart beat and then the lady told us that she wanted a 2nd opinion and then it was confirmed that my wife had suffered a silent miscarriage.The devastation you feel is terrible and numbing. We were given the options available to my wife and as she had come around to the idea of a new baby it was decided that she would have the operation you have had.It was very quick as she was taken to the day ward and the procedure took place that evening and the feeling as I left my wife alone (as it was too late for her to be discharged )will never be forgotten,we had gone in just before lunch expecting to come home with some exciting scan pics and I left alone and empty handed.

We carried on trying pretty much as soon as she felt able and fell pregnant within 5 months.This time we took things cautiously and when the midwife came to our home to fill in paperwork for the new pregnancy my wife just didn't feel pregnant and the midwife was great she said that she trusted my wife's instinct and arranged for a scan it was early so no chance of seeing a heartbeat but it gave the anti natal team an idea of age and they took a blood test.She was told to return in 2 weeks which we did and yet again she'd lost the baby.This time my wife chose to miscarry naturally but this never happened so she had another procedure.At this time I was starting to think it was maybe my fault because when our son was born I wasn't diabetic and also we were a lot older so it really played on my mind but we kept trying.Then in October 2011 we had a beautiful healthy baby girl,I can't help grinning as she sits next to me trying to play her keyboard she got from Santa.

Please share your feelings with your partner,that was what we did and it helped us both get through the losses.Many men feel its too hard to talk about the loss but it must be done and together you will get through this seemingly never ending dark tunnel.

Whenever our daughter cries and has tears rolling down her face I tell her that they are kisses from the angels we lost and they are watching over her.

We both wish you luck and hope you are as lucky as we've been and you have the baby you want.

Best wishes,
Adam.
 
Hi this is my first post on this site. I have been diabetic for almost 31 years. I had a very similar experience back in 1997. I found out I was pregnant and at 6 weeks I started to bleed. After an awful weekend of waiting I went into A&E and I had a miscarriage. When I was scanned later that same day I was told everything had passed and I could go home. After 4 weeks of still feeling pregnant and several trips to the doctor I did a pregnancy test which was positive! I went back to the hospital and was scanned again and they found 2 fetal poles each measuring about 6 weeks gestation. I was told to go home and wait 2 weeks. When I went back 2 weeks later they had not grown and I had to have a D and C. I would then have been 10-11 weeks pregnant. I was told I had been having triplets. This was a very traumatic time for me and my husband. I am delighted to say we now have 2 beautiful healthy boys one aged 14 and one who will be 11 tomorrow. Never give up hope. Both of my pregnancies were stressful as I thought the same thing would happen again but my boys are my life and as a diabetic they are my biggest and best achievement.

I wish you all the very best and am thinking of you at this sad time.
 
Sorry to hear your news but I know just how you feel as I went through exactly the same thing in June. After waiting 24 years and being told it would never happen, plus a heart attack 6 months before and being told I was type 1, I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant. However at my scan, where I should have been 10 weeks, there was no heartbeat and I was told the baby at died at 7 weeks. I too had to go through a silent miscarriage. Baby should have been due on 23/1/13 so we're not looking forward to that day at all. You're not alone and although it is devastating I've been told it gets easier, maybe it will after the next 3 weeks. Anyway my thoughts are with you x
 
so sorry to hear that your baby died.....there is hope though as you were pregnant..thats half the battle.....i know somewhat of how you feel as i had a missed miscarrage at 14 weeks...20 years ago xmas day.....i now have a son and much later a beautiful daughter who not only they coyldn.t find a heart beat but a baby either.....went to theatre expecting both tubes removed as another ectopic pregnancy to come round later to find no ectopic!!!!!!2 weeks later they found her now 10 weeks pregnant.... my god shes been mischeivious since...
good luck for the future....its really amazing that any babies are born the more you here but my thoughts are trully with you xxx
 
Wow so many touching and heartbreaking stories! Thank you all for being so strong as to share them with me to give me hope and help ease my pain. The op went as well as these things can. I hope I'm as lucky as you all and able to go on and have a healthy baby. I really can't express about how grateful I am that you kind people have been there for me. Thank you again. Just wondering how to tell wk now? Becky x x x
 
Dear Bunny2shoes, I 2 have been through this, I spent 5nights out of 7 saying something was not right, at my local a&e. I had a scan at 8 weeks to be told that their was no heartbeat. I feel for you and send you big hugs, time makes it hurt less, but I now have 2 children a son who is 13 in a couple of weeks and a daughter who is now 8 and very bossy.
 
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