Jacqulynn said:My husband is a type 1 who refuses to care for himself and when I do finally get scared enough to involve emergency services, he causes a scene and refuses treatment...
I'm not sure how to handle this behaviour as we just had a son and post partum is kicking my butt. He's 31, I'm 19 and about to suffer a brain injury from all the strain of trying to keep everything together and my son calm as he should be... what do I do? I make sure he has more than the tools he needs to ensure his health and he's showing symptoms of pancreatitis now.
Any advice for an otherwise soon to be single mom?
I totally agree with GraceK.GraceK said:Jacqulynn said:My husband is a type 1 who refuses to care for himself and when I do finally get scared enough to involve emergency services, he causes a scene and refuses treatment...
I'm not sure how to handle this behaviour as we just had a son and post partum is kicking my butt. He's 31, I'm 19 and about to suffer a brain injury from all the strain of trying to keep everything together and my son calm as he should be... what do I do? I make sure he has more than the tools he needs to ensure his health and he's showing symptoms of pancreatitis now.
Any advice for an otherwise soon to be single mom?
Jacqulynn ... your husband is 31 years of age and he has T1 diabetes, which is unfortunate. But that's HIS medical condition and HIS responsibility. You're not a Doctor, you're not Superwoman, you're not his Nurse, you're not his Mum and you're not the one who's behaving irresponsibly here. He is. Don't stand for it and by that I don't mean jump in and rescue him every time he flounders I mean ...
Let him sort himself out because you've got better things to do than to engage in his dramas. It's time he faced up to the fact that he has to deal with his T1 Diabetes AND get on with being a husband and father to your child. That's not going to happen if you keep stepping in to take over when he's behaving like a nitwit. Hard as it may be, leave the decisions to him where his diabetes is concerned and leave him to learn the hard way.
You're 19 and have just had a baby, my suggestion would be that you have enough to do looking after yourself and the baby and that that is what you should get on with. Sounds selfish and it IS selfish, but not as selfish as your husband is being towards you and the baby.
GraceK said:Jacqulynn ... your husband is 31 years of age and he has T1 diabetes, which is unfortunate. But that's HIS medical condition and HIS responsibility. You're not a Doctor, you're not Superwoman, you're not his Nurse, you're not his Mum and you're not the one who's behaving irresponsibly here. He is. Don't stand for it and by that I don't mean jump in and rescue him every time he flounders I mean ...
Let him sort himself out because you've got better things to do than to engage in his dramas. It's time he faced up to the fact that he has to deal with his T1 Diabetes AND get on with being a husband and father to your child. That's not going to happen if you keep stepping in to take over when he's behaving like a nitwit. Hard as it may be, leave the decisions to him where his diabetes is concerned and leave him to learn the hard way.
You're 19 and have just had a baby, my suggestion would be that you have enough to do looking after yourself and the baby and that that is what you should get on with. Sounds selfish and it IS selfish, but not as selfish as your husband is being towards you and the baby.
AMBrennan said:Well, no. The person dialling 999 is, by and large, not qualified to tell if a situation requires an ambulance or not.That's not great, if you phone an ambulance it should come
lightwolfe said:All i will say to this post is i was told by a complaints manager of the Yorkshire ambulance service that a version of the NHS symptom checker was used for incoming 999 calls.
it took almost 2 hours for NHS direct to call to even look at transport, bearing in mind that when my wife got to hospital they estimated that without treatment both her and the unborn baby had 2-3 hours before coma.
Don't get me wrong I appreciate the job the emergency services do but in this instance i feel really let down.
I'm not pointing fingers at the whole service and saying your all useless because your not if it wasn't for the highly trained staff that are in place lots of people wouldn't be with us now.
The main issue i have and I'm sure 99% of the users here have is although diabetes is one of the most common diseases that there is nobody seems to have a clue what it is or how serious it is. if you asked 100 random people you would probably get the same answer thanks to TV ect. that diabetes is cause by being fat and not looking after yourself. Diabetics aren't allowed sugar and finally if you come across a diabetic that's in trouble a shot of "magic" insulin will cure them.
be reet said:@ lightwoolfe
V.sorry to hear this. Next time take note of date, time, name of operator, control location etc. Ambulance Controls are remote, detached and "protocol obsessed". Protocols are written to guide under-trained, inexperienced call-takers....that's right...they are NOT paramedics manning the phones!! I expect the whole job to be outsourced to Bangalore ..... then there will be fireworks and button pressing?? GP's are having serious problems with UK Ambulance Services now. There was a time when a GP was known by name and highly respected by Ambulance Controllers, but these tin gods with tin pips in their shoulders are a bureaucracy now.
A paramedic attending your wife would do everything to care for her including (as I have) standing firm by my patient in A&E until someone has grasped total responsibility for MY patient...this may take some time if the dept is busy....but no matter....your wife would by my ONLY concern. There are forces at play now destroying and depleting the Ambulance Service. Did you know that BUS companies now run PTS...the out patient and hospital discharge service...dealing with sick people...without adequate training. The whole thing is pushing the experienced staff who care into an impossibly difficult job.
My advice is to pass the responsibility for caring for your wife's health back to the NHS YOU pay for. COMPLAIN to everyone incl your MP. Join and check out the 38 degrees website who are campaigning to stop the destruction of OUR NHS. That way OUR government will be forced to come clean on the real agenda being played out on us all.
Put together a back up plan for your family....ask your wider family or a neighbour to help with the kids, ask a car owner if they could drive you to hospital if this stupidity occurs again and above all know you aren't alone in this. If I lived near enough I would come out and care for her.
As a footnote, did you know that the NHS, Ambulance Trusts, Trade Unions, and many ambulance staff, nurses and Drs opposed the introduction of the UK Paramedic Service. To bring this service to our patients, 200 of us were trained in our time off by progressive Drs and especially Anaesthetists. These "Gas Men" as they are affectionately known took a chance on us and trained us in their theatres on their patients. We formed our own Association...Paramedic UK and arranged our own insurance and refresher training. Eventually the NHS was shamed into accepting us but not before insisting we re- qualified as a passing insult. Of course the NHS exam was a doddle and we passed out with high grades. Today, the Paramedic will probably have attended Uni but it is unlikely that today's graduate will be able to survive a lifetime of stress induced by blunt targets and ever decreasing workplace rights. The NHS is now basically unworkable and only functions because of the goodwill of many who fear a world without care free at the point of consumption.
Dragonflye said:Lightwolfe and I usually hate calling for ambulances in the best of circumstances (last time 1 attended we were complained at for NOT calling them sooner and not calling them more regular when they found out my history of severe nighttime hypos).
I'm just worried now after this experience we are not going to call and something will happen
insanity said:Dragonflye said:Lightwolfe and I usually hate calling for ambulances in the best of circumstances (last time 1 attended we were complained at for NOT calling them sooner and not calling them more regular when they found out my history of severe nighttime hypos).
I'm just worried now after this experience we are not going to call and something will happen
Same, my fiance and mum never call them unless i'm admittedly really really bad because i both hate using the resources (when i know i should) and because I hate going in to hospital. Thankfully my mum was good with me when I was little so we know the whole high blood sugar/ketone routine now, lots of water, small bites and a whole load of insulin.
Most times i've been in hospital the care standards have been reasonably good, but going back to an earlier post GraceK mentioned, the world definitely need educating about the real person with diabetes, the knowledge is shocking! I've been teaching everyone in work for months, still on going, about how I live my life and what I have to do just to eat and stay alive. most of them are utterly shocked and they said themselves that they had no idea whatsoever about how serious diabetes is.
I don't mind telling anyone or answering questions about my diabetes any more because I just think at least I've set one person straight about the disease today. It drives me mad when i get the whole 'your diabetic, why are you eating chocolate' scenario - I turn into the hulk!!
GraceK - So sorry to hear you we're dismissed. Did you take it any further, surely that's wrongful dismissal, you've a serious health condition!! Stuff like that doesn't half Pee me off! My mum's getting bullyed at the moment but the unions aren't helping as much as I thought they would! Makes you wonder about the NHS sometimes. I trained as a medical secretary, unfortunately I could never get a permanent job within the NHS and I've now ended up as a co-ordinator but some of the secretaries I've worked with in the past, I must admit, are shocking with there knowledge. Thankfully the girls in our department are good secretaries.
Just realised how much of a rant that was, sorry all, rant over lol
GraceK said:insanity said:Dragonflye said:Lightwolfe and I usually hate calling for ambulances in the best of circumstances (last time 1 attended we were complained at for NOT calling them sooner and not calling them more regular when they found out my history of severe nighttime hypos).
I'm just worried now after this experience we are not going to call and something will happen
Thank you Insanity ... and I'm sorry you've found it difficult to get a permanent job with the NHS too, despite being qualified. It's not only a disgraceful waste of resources but it's absolutely ridiculous to employ inexperienced and unqualified people before those with quals and experience. I believe it's a deliberate move to strip employees of all dignity and pride in their work so that we just become automatons and take whatever pay and conditions are offered to us. Why bother getting an education at all these days? There's no point if it's not rewarded. The unions are of little help when you need them, I get plenty of emails from various unions asking me to sign this petition and that petition but when I needed them, they couldn't help me. Apparently, I'd signed my life away when I signed my employment contract with the agency and I could be dismissed from my job because I wasn't 'available' because I was ill. In my experience the NHS as an employer, absolutely stinks. The Trusts do not care care about the health and safety of their staff and as a medical secretary I've worked in conditions that could only be described as bordering on third world standards. What the public sees is the new hospital that's just been thrown up, which is brand new and shiny and has all the bells and whistles. What they don't see is the old hospital that's falling down, and is riddled with vermin and has holes in the roof (not joking - a hospital I worked in 2 years ago was on 3rd floor, had no lift, and the corridor was strewn with plastic buckets to catch the drips from the leaking roof - and my colleagues just accepted the conditions because they didn't want to lose their jobs.) If the NHS can get away with treating people like that what hope is there? And if the unions won't do anything what hope is there? We're very gradually moving towards slavery in the workplace, not honest employment and the contracts we sign are heavily weighted towards the rights of the employer not the employee. :x
Scoop4 said:I had to call an ambulance after I had a fall, there was blood running down my face. I have type 1 and i suffers with low blood sugar especially when I am stressed or in shock. I explained this to them but I was refused an ambulance eventually they said they would send a taxi for me but I had to fight for it. They wanted me to drive myself or another suggestion was to get my husband to come home from work to take me to hospital.
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