hi thanks Morganator
we do have care in place and one of problems s that My wife isn't that happy with all the time, I am a little more understanding as I work with adults with learning disabilities so I know the limit to what they can do
the other problem is they only do 30min visits so not enough time some days. we have uped the care they give to try and help but my wife is conscious of days when he has a lot of time alone as we both work and need to full time
to be honest my involvement is getting less not because I don't want to but because we have got more in place to help
So I do know now is my time to get back on track. hopefully