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Still in denial

PeterMasson

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Hi
I am now still in denial re my diabetes after 6 years
It's just gone up again after my HBA1c and now have a appointment through for hospital but not been told why

My wife doesn't see my diabetes as an issue, if she has a cake she will buy me one even though I know I shouldn't I do have
 
Hello and welcome to the forum. May I ask what the reslt of your HbA1c was?

As to denial, it is not uncommon but you can still start afresh and address the condition. Tagging @daisy1 who will swing by and give you some really good advice.
 
Hi
I am now still in denial re my diabetes after 6 years
It's just gone up again after my HBA1c and now have a appointment through for hospital but not been told why

My wife doesn't see my diabetes as an issue, if she has a cake she will buy me one even though I know I shouldn't I do have
Hello
 
Welcome to the forum, @PeterMasson. I agree it is difficult to come to terms with diabetes as we are stuck with it for the remainder of our lives.

Do you know what your last HbA1c was? Also, are you on any medication for your T2?

I will tag @daisy1, who will provide some excellent advice to newbies.

In the meantime -- if you have any questions, just ask away. There are many super knowledgeable and helpful members who will be happy to help.

Edit to add: I see @Guzzler has beaten me to it.
 
Hi @PeterMasson, welcome to the forum although I see you have been a member for sometime.

Are you on any medications for diabetes? How can we support you to take your diabetes seriously?

If you have want to know why you have been referred to the hospital ask at your GP surgery.
 
It is unkind to think that your wife disregards diabetes because it might impact on her lifestyle, but you should at least give it a passing thought.

Would you give someone with lung cancer a cigarette because you fancied a smoke?

Perhaps an unfair comparison, but you probably get the point.

Oh, and you don't have to eat the cake. I'm sure someone else would be happy to. Perhaps give it to a food bank?
 
Hi, I was also just like you to be in denial mode and was also thinking of same like you. But at some point it's necessary to accept it. I also believe that it is more dangerous and at some point in life without proper treatment, it can lead to some serious internal organ failure from which getting to normal would be difficult. With proper diet control you can lead a very good life like most in this forum.
 
Get your wife to watch the BBC Panorama Program "Diabetes the Hidden Killer". It is somewhat shocking ...


It you don't get diabetes under control you can get severe complications.
 
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Hi
I am now still in denial re my diabetes after 6 years
It's just gone up again after my HBA1c and now have a appointment through for hospital but not been told why

My wife doesn't see my diabetes as an issue, if she has a cake she will buy me one even though I know I shouldn't I do have

Maybe the hospital appointment will stir you into action and bring your head out of the sand. :) Let us all hope!

Perhaps you should be saying "no thank you, you can have them both" and ask her very nicely not to buy you any more. Have a bowl of strawberries and cream instead. You may find she is jealous and ditches the cakes.
 
Thanks for replies
I don't know what figure was as they didn't tell me and as I have said I haven't been bothered
I think now I am coming to realise I need to own up and take control before as you say it leads to problems I am not gonna come back from.
I will chat to my other half and will explain I can't be carrying on with certain foods

I think I need to pop in to drs and find out why I been referred
 
Hi
I am now still in denial re my diabetes after 6 years
It's just gone up again after my HBA1c and now have a appointment through for hospital but not been told why

My wife doesn't see my diabetes as an issue, if she has a cake she will buy me one even though I know I shouldn't I do have

sad that ones spouse doesn´t feel more for supporting a person with diabetes, but then on the other hand , I live alone with my daughter , And I do think she must be allowed to eat like a non-diabetic and not suffer dietwise just because her mother has diabetes... no need to make the whole family act like they have diabetes... I think my fight is my own, and it is not fair that all others around me should deny themselves the joys of sugary foods or potatoes and bread and so on..

you can choose to be the driver in your life and not only the passenger in your wife´s food-style... it is hard if you are used to your wife doing all the cooking and shopping. so maybe change that and at least make half of your food and half of the shopping..

you can get lots of ideas to diabetic friendly foods in here. from all the menbers doing the lower carb eating style..

http://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/g3593/low-carb-recipes/?slide=95
 
Thanks for replies
I don't know what figure was as they didn't tell me and as I have said I haven't been bothered
I think now I am coming to realise I need to own up and take control before as you say it leads to problems I am not gonna come back from.
I will chat to my other half and will explain I can't be carrying on with certain foods

I think I need to pop in to drs and find out why I been referred

Yes, very good plan. No time like tomorrow ;)

When you do pop in to your doctor's, it would be an excellent idea to ask for a print out of your last blood tests results. This will show you which tests you had, what your HbA1c was, and anything else they tested you for, in particular cholesterol, liver and kidney functions and full blood counts. It will also show which, if any, of these test results were outside the normal range. You can take this home and analyse it, with help from this forum if you don't understand some of it. You can ask the receptionist for one of these print outs, and if she is awkward about it, ask the doctor or nurse. They may be impressed you are coming out of denial.

Do let us know how you go on.
 
sad that ones spouse doesn´t feel more for supporting a person with diabetes, but then on the other hand , I live alone with my daughter , And I do think she must be allowed to eat like a non-diabetic and not suffer dietwise just because her mother has diabetes... no need to make the whole family act like they have diabetes... I think my fight is my own, and it is not fair that all others around me should deny themselves the joys of sugary foods or potatoes and bread and so on..

you can choose to be the driver in your life and not only the passenger in your wife´s food-style... it is hard if you are used to your wife doing all the cooking and shopping. so maybe change that and at least make half of your food and half of the shopping..

you can get lots of ideas to diabetic friendly foods in here. from all the menbers doing the lower carb eating style..

http://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/g3593/low-carb-recipes/?slide=95
Hi Freema
You are very right, I am used to wife cooking and I do need to take a little control
And tbh I am sure she will be happy for me too
Thank you for link it will come in very use full .
I work 12.5 hr shifts and struggle sometimes with meal options
So if I can sort out meals that just need heating will be a lot better than eating too much carbs like bread
 
Hi Freema
You are very right, I am used to wife cooking and I do need to take a little control
And tbh I am sure she will be happy for me too
Thank you for link it will come in very use full .
I work 12.5 hr shifts and struggle sometimes with meal options
So if I can sort out meals that just need heating will be a lot better than eating too much carbs like bread

I dont say it is easy, but you have us here in the forum ready to support you.. and even one day a week makes a difference.. sometimes it is better just to start slowly and do it in a joyfull way... and there are really many foods that also non-diabetics will find delicious while at the same time healthy for us diabetics type 2..

here is a way to make kind of a pizza , that doesn´t contain flour ..
https://www.ditchthecarbs.com/fat-head-pizza/
 
Hi
I am now still in denial re my diabetes after 6 years
It's just gone up again after my HBA1c and now have a appointment through for hospital but not been told why

My wife doesn't see my diabetes as an issue, if she has a cake she will buy me one even though I know I shouldn't I do have
Not to worry ... I was in denial for about 8. You are making a good start and that is important.

On wives and their support, remember, you know more than they do and it will be a slow process of education. Get more books so that they can also read. Get more low carb cook books so that they can help cook good healthy treats along with you.

As others have suggested, show them the video from BBC that someone has linked before but ensure that you do not alarm them unnecessarily.

It is a slow process of education for yourselves and your other half ... and this site is a very valuable resource when it comes to education.
 
@PeterMasson

Hello Peter and welcome :) Although you are not a new member you have probably not seen the Basic Information for new members so I am repeating it below. Ask more questions when you need to and someone will be able to help.


BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEWLY DIAGNOSED DIABETICS

Diabetes is the general term to describe people who have blood that is sweeter than normal. A number of different types of diabetes exist.

A diagnosis of diabetes tends to be a big shock for most of us. It’s far from the end of the world though and on this forum you'll find well over 276,000 people who are demonstrating this.

On the forum we have found that with the number of new people being diagnosed with diabetes each day, sometimes the NHS is not being able to give all the advice it would perhaps like to deliver - particularly with regards to people with type 2 diabetes.

The role of carbohydrate

Carbohydrates are a factor in diabetes because they ultimately break down into sugar (glucose) within our blood. We then need enough insulin to either convert the blood sugar into energy for our body, or to store the blood sugar as body fat.

If the amount of carbohydrate we take in is more than our body’s own (or injected) insulin can cope with, then our blood sugar will rise.

The bad news

Research indicates that raised blood sugar levels over a period of years can lead to organ damage, commonly referred to as diabetic complications.

The good news

People on the forum here have shown that there is plenty of opportunity to keep blood sugar levels from going too high. It’s a daily task but it’s within our reach and it’s well worth the effort.

Controlling your carbs

The info below is primarily aimed at people with type 2 diabetes, however, it may also be of benefit for other types of diabetes as well.

There are two approaches to controlling your carbs:
  • Reduce your carbohydrate intake
  • Choose ‘better’ carbohydrates
Reduce your carbohydrates

A large number of people on this forum have chosen to reduce the amount of carbohydrates they eat as they have found this to be an effective way of improving (lowering) their blood sugar levels.

The carbohydrates which tend to have the most pronounced effect on blood sugar levels tend to be starchy carbohydrates such as rice, pasta, bread, potatoes and similar root vegetables, flour based products (pastry, cakes, biscuits, battered food etc) and certain fruits.

Choosing better carbohydrates

The low glycaemic index diet is often favoured by healthcare professionals but some people with diabetes find that low GI does not help their blood sugar enough and may wish to cut out these foods altogether.

Read more on carbohydrates and diabetes.

Over 145,000 people have taken part in the Low Carb Program - a 10 week structured education course that is helping people lose weight and reduce medication dependency by explaining the science behind carbs, insulin and GI.

Eating what works for you

Different people respond differently to different types of food. What works for one person may not work so well for another. The best way to see which foods are working for you is to test your blood sugar with a glucose meter.

To be able to see what effect a particular type of food or meal has on your blood sugar is to do a test before the meal and then test after the meal. A test 2 hours after the meal gives a good idea of how your body has reacted to the meal.

The blood sugar ranges recommended by NICE are as follows:

Blood glucose ranges for type 2 diabetes
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 8.5 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (adults)
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 9 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (children)
  • Before meals: 4 to 8 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 10 mmol/l
However, those that are able to, may wish to keep blood sugar levels below the NICE after meal targets.

Access to blood glucose test strips

The NICE guidelines suggest that people newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes should be offered:

  • structured education to every person and/or their carer at and around the time of diagnosis, with annual reinforcement and review
  • self-monitoring of plasma glucose to a person newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes only as an integral part of his or her self-management education

Therefore both structured education and self-monitoring of blood glucose should be offered to people with type 2 diabetes. Read more on getting access to blood glucose testing supplies.

You may also be interested to read questions to ask at a diabetic clinic.

Note: This post has been edited from Sue/Ken's post to include up to date information.

Take part in Diabetes.co.uk digital education programs and improve your understanding. Most of them are free.
  • Low Carb Program - it's made front-page news of the New Scientist and The Times. Developed with 20,000 people with type 2 diabetes; 96% of people who take part recommend it... find out why
  • Hypo Program - improve your understanding of hypos. There's a version for people with diabetes, parents/guardians of children with type 1, children with type 1 diabetes, teachers and HCPs.
 
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