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<blockquote data-quote="JoKalsbeek" data-source="post: 2282393" data-attributes="member: 401801"><p>I'm going to a -to me- new restaurant today. Most of them have a menu online and I go in armed, knowing what I'm going to order and what modifications, if any, to ask for. They have salads and eggs, meat and whatnot, so I should be okay. And yet I feel bad because I'm trying OMAD and carnivore, and now I'm going to have a keto brunch with my mum in law. I know it makes her happy because we haven't been able to do this for months and months, and I know it'll set me back a few days. I also know I'll enjoy the heck out of my eggs with the works. You can ask for a salad without croutons and no dressing other than some olive oil or vinaigrette. You can ask for a steak with extra greens rather than spuds. Or sometimes, my husband steals my fries and I have a side salad to go with the meal. Just a few examples. It takes some courage to start going to restaurants again, but believe me, a kitchen rather would adjust a meal than throw out perfectly good food they put time and effort in. If you feel unsure, look up a menu and we'll help you pick stuff out. Wouldn't be the first time.</p><p></p><p>And no, it's not fair. Nothing about this is anywhere even close to fair. What you're going through right now is grief, kind of the bargaining why-me phase, and even those who've been diagnosed for years can get a kick in the head with that... I mean.... I see people doing wonderfully well on The Nutritional Thingy. Losing weight and all. I wrote the $%^&* thing, but my body decided to throw a wrench in so it doesn't work for me anymore. Something's off <em>other than</em> <em>the diabetes</em>, -work in progress, tests being done- and I am gaining weight just looking at food. For a bit there my fasting blood sugars were going up again too, but carnivore/OMAD took care of that. But once or twice a week I'll be somewhere where I don't have a whole lot of choice when it comes to food. That's problematic. If I want to go there, I have to eat, and it will trip me up. So please, don't think it's a breeze for everyone but you. You're not alone, far from it. A lot of us struggle. So here's a hug from a been-there-done-that-still-working-on-it.</p><p></p><p>As for feeling funny in the head, that's probably low blood pressure. Once you cut carbs you also cut out processed foods like bread, which contain quite a bit of it.... If you get up and the room starts spinning or goes dark, have some salt. Or maybe some potassium for good measure too. If you're on blood pressure meds, you might need your dosage changed.</p><p></p><p>By the way, this month is my diaversary. I plan to celebrate it at an all-you-can-eat grill restaurant: all meat, all over the place. There are still spots where you can go nuts. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Other people, may have complications you, or even they, don't know about. My friend's mum's heart muscle tore and she died a rather horrible death. No idea it was her love for chocolate and potatoes that did her in, completely oblivious... You don't know what's going on with other people, you only know what they choose to or can tell you. We all have our own hurdles to deal with, and diabetes is still rather a stigmatising label. Maybe they're keeping mum. And if someone's coming from a higher weight than you, the weight loss goes faster, as a lot of it is water weight in the beginning. It'll slow down when they get to a more "average" weight.</p><p></p><p>Again, you're not alone. And if this diet method is making you miserable, you can opt for a bit of medication to help you along. The point of it all is that you feel better. Physically, but also mentally. You find out what works for you. </p><p></p><p>...And enjoy that dinner. Just have so much low carb stuff you won't feel like having more than coffee with some whipped cream for dessert. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Happy anniversary, you can do this!!!! (And you DO deserve a lovely night out!)</p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JoKalsbeek, post: 2282393, member: 401801"] I'm going to a -to me- new restaurant today. Most of them have a menu online and I go in armed, knowing what I'm going to order and what modifications, if any, to ask for. They have salads and eggs, meat and whatnot, so I should be okay. And yet I feel bad because I'm trying OMAD and carnivore, and now I'm going to have a keto brunch with my mum in law. I know it makes her happy because we haven't been able to do this for months and months, and I know it'll set me back a few days. I also know I'll enjoy the heck out of my eggs with the works. You can ask for a salad without croutons and no dressing other than some olive oil or vinaigrette. You can ask for a steak with extra greens rather than spuds. Or sometimes, my husband steals my fries and I have a side salad to go with the meal. Just a few examples. It takes some courage to start going to restaurants again, but believe me, a kitchen rather would adjust a meal than throw out perfectly good food they put time and effort in. If you feel unsure, look up a menu and we'll help you pick stuff out. Wouldn't be the first time. And no, it's not fair. Nothing about this is anywhere even close to fair. What you're going through right now is grief, kind of the bargaining why-me phase, and even those who've been diagnosed for years can get a kick in the head with that... I mean.... I see people doing wonderfully well on The Nutritional Thingy. Losing weight and all. I wrote the $%^&* thing, but my body decided to throw a wrench in so it doesn't work for me anymore. Something's off [I]other than[/I] [I]the diabetes[/I], -work in progress, tests being done- and I am gaining weight just looking at food. For a bit there my fasting blood sugars were going up again too, but carnivore/OMAD took care of that. But once or twice a week I'll be somewhere where I don't have a whole lot of choice when it comes to food. That's problematic. If I want to go there, I have to eat, and it will trip me up. So please, don't think it's a breeze for everyone but you. You're not alone, far from it. A lot of us struggle. So here's a hug from a been-there-done-that-still-working-on-it. As for feeling funny in the head, that's probably low blood pressure. Once you cut carbs you also cut out processed foods like bread, which contain quite a bit of it.... If you get up and the room starts spinning or goes dark, have some salt. Or maybe some potassium for good measure too. If you're on blood pressure meds, you might need your dosage changed. By the way, this month is my diaversary. I plan to celebrate it at an all-you-can-eat grill restaurant: all meat, all over the place. There are still spots where you can go nuts. ;) Other people, may have complications you, or even they, don't know about. My friend's mum's heart muscle tore and she died a rather horrible death. No idea it was her love for chocolate and potatoes that did her in, completely oblivious... You don't know what's going on with other people, you only know what they choose to or can tell you. We all have our own hurdles to deal with, and diabetes is still rather a stigmatising label. Maybe they're keeping mum. And if someone's coming from a higher weight than you, the weight loss goes faster, as a lot of it is water weight in the beginning. It'll slow down when they get to a more "average" weight. Again, you're not alone. And if this diet method is making you miserable, you can opt for a bit of medication to help you along. The point of it all is that you feel better. Physically, but also mentally. You find out what works for you. ...And enjoy that dinner. Just have so much low carb stuff you won't feel like having more than coffee with some whipped cream for dessert. ;) Happy anniversary, you can do this!!!! (And you DO deserve a lovely night out!) Hugs, Jo [/QUOTE]
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