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<blockquote data-quote="donnellysdogs" data-source="post: 1667834" data-attributes="member: 17713"><p>T1 is part of you and He married you "in sickness and in health"..... </p><p></p><p>Now, for me I had T1 way before I met my hubby. He was scared stiff at the intensity of some of my night hypo's. So much so that he would go to kitchen to get my favourite hypo stopper (milk and sugar), give it to me and walk away and turn tv on in middle of the night!! He was confused about me doing stupid things like running round the house naked! He made sure all the windows and doirs were shut (he would shut windows if I was screaming or being annoying and shouting....</p><p></p><p>However, I sat him down and explained that I didnt know what I was doing on some of fhe scarey ones... but the best thing that I wanted was for him to sit down on the bed and just hold me safe... that is truly all I wanted and he would have done it if he knew what to do for me but my antics (running out into garden to have a wee)... he priortised keeping me safe first and then he knew that I would come out of the shouting stage and then he would come back in.. </p><p></p><p>All it took waa for me to tell him how to help me and not be scared.</p><p></p><p>We met and married within 5 weeks, so he must have thiught that he married a real Jekyll and Hyde!! Lol..</p><p></p><p>For me severe hypos that bad only came with my bloods dropping quickly whilst I slept.. from things like shift changes, not carb counting properly but guestimating, certainly never knew about basal testing back then.....and also if we had alcohol they were more severe.</p><p></p><p>I would do some night checks and basal testing and the bertie online... also for yourself look at the food/alcohol you had on day before any hypos.</p><p></p><p>There are cgms that would alarm you if levels dropping quickly-therefore you may be able to treat them before they occur... and they will give you more idea what is happening...</p><p></p><p>I would suggest that you both go to the Counsellor... this has become a problem for the two of you..</p><p>He married you...</p><p>Vowed to look after you</p><p>Hypos are part of illness that is part of you</p><p>He needs to man up and help you rather than be hypo horrid to you.</p><p></p><p>Or when you are both calm, grab a cuppa and sit opposite each other at a table... and talk openly and honestly and set out those groundrukes and nobody leaves table until a better understanding is gained and a new way is accepted...</p><p>Board members, managers, dont talk in bed with the rest if the executive, they arent cosy on a settee together.. they make all important decisions collectively at a table looking at each other.. this shoukd be the same for marriage too... if you have major decisions to make, do it over a cuppa at a dining room table. It takes the heat out of emotions.</p><p></p><p>I actually think thats why its good to go out for dinner when partners meet... its not all about the kissing and cuddling and doing things.. its how you react in conversations... and the best place for conversations are at a table opposite each other... </p><p></p><p>I havent had severe hypo's for years now but I well remember sitting hubby down and explaining what help I needed from him. Even though on occasions I couldnt remember everything I could always clearly remember parts of my lunatic periods.</p><p></p><p>I never had daytime mood changes from hypo's. Even thiugh I may have had one during tge night I coukd still go in to work and manage up to 600 men and women.</p><p></p><p>I would consider though... if you can go into work the next day okay, then this may be something that is relating more to him... ie are you knowing tgat he's going to be annoyed, so you are already in a fearful frame of mind. Ecause of that? Your colkeagues at work, probably wouldnt know if you had a hypo during the night unless you told them. You would prob go in to work and cope... but knowing someone is going to make you angst about a hypo is going to knock your mood as soon as you awake.</p><p></p><p>Before my hubby I lived with a psychopath for a while. He threatened that if I continued having hypos at night he would grab my insulin and finish me off.. took a lot of hell to get away from tge psycho but I did it... and never looked back... (well I did for a while as he found me and threatened me and it wasnt nice), but I did move on...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donnellysdogs, post: 1667834, member: 17713"] T1 is part of you and He married you "in sickness and in health"..... Now, for me I had T1 way before I met my hubby. He was scared stiff at the intensity of some of my night hypo's. So much so that he would go to kitchen to get my favourite hypo stopper (milk and sugar), give it to me and walk away and turn tv on in middle of the night!! He was confused about me doing stupid things like running round the house naked! He made sure all the windows and doirs were shut (he would shut windows if I was screaming or being annoying and shouting.... However, I sat him down and explained that I didnt know what I was doing on some of fhe scarey ones... but the best thing that I wanted was for him to sit down on the bed and just hold me safe... that is truly all I wanted and he would have done it if he knew what to do for me but my antics (running out into garden to have a wee)... he priortised keeping me safe first and then he knew that I would come out of the shouting stage and then he would come back in.. All it took waa for me to tell him how to help me and not be scared. We met and married within 5 weeks, so he must have thiught that he married a real Jekyll and Hyde!! Lol.. For me severe hypos that bad only came with my bloods dropping quickly whilst I slept.. from things like shift changes, not carb counting properly but guestimating, certainly never knew about basal testing back then.....and also if we had alcohol they were more severe. I would do some night checks and basal testing and the bertie online... also for yourself look at the food/alcohol you had on day before any hypos. There are cgms that would alarm you if levels dropping quickly-therefore you may be able to treat them before they occur... and they will give you more idea what is happening... I would suggest that you both go to the Counsellor... this has become a problem for the two of you.. He married you... Vowed to look after you Hypos are part of illness that is part of you He needs to man up and help you rather than be hypo horrid to you. Or when you are both calm, grab a cuppa and sit opposite each other at a table... and talk openly and honestly and set out those groundrukes and nobody leaves table until a better understanding is gained and a new way is accepted... Board members, managers, dont talk in bed with the rest if the executive, they arent cosy on a settee together.. they make all important decisions collectively at a table looking at each other.. this shoukd be the same for marriage too... if you have major decisions to make, do it over a cuppa at a dining room table. It takes the heat out of emotions. I actually think thats why its good to go out for dinner when partners meet... its not all about the kissing and cuddling and doing things.. its how you react in conversations... and the best place for conversations are at a table opposite each other... I havent had severe hypo's for years now but I well remember sitting hubby down and explaining what help I needed from him. Even though on occasions I couldnt remember everything I could always clearly remember parts of my lunatic periods. I never had daytime mood changes from hypo's. Even thiugh I may have had one during tge night I coukd still go in to work and manage up to 600 men and women. I would consider though... if you can go into work the next day okay, then this may be something that is relating more to him... ie are you knowing tgat he's going to be annoyed, so you are already in a fearful frame of mind. Ecause of that? Your colkeagues at work, probably wouldnt know if you had a hypo during the night unless you told them. You would prob go in to work and cope... but knowing someone is going to make you angst about a hypo is going to knock your mood as soon as you awake. Before my hubby I lived with a psychopath for a while. He threatened that if I continued having hypos at night he would grab my insulin and finish me off.. took a lot of hell to get away from tge psycho but I did it... and never looked back... (well I did for a while as he found me and threatened me and it wasnt nice), but I did move on... [/QUOTE]
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