My husband and I get an enormous amount of pleasure from eating at good places, from independent, passionate cafes to Michelin starred restaurants. We love talking food with independent suppliers, and travel a good deal, to wine growers all over Europe. We both love to cook - me when I am not in a bad pace - and love to try new things. I don't eat quantity at all - but love small delicious plates of food, and this does include carbs, sauces, etc. My life revolves around taste. This must sound frustrating to you all, as i should take my diabetes seriously, but I can't face it. I KNOW the consequences, but I can't deal with them.
My OH (amongst his other businesses) has owned the sorts of restaurants you enjoy eating in, so you can imagine how my diagnosis went down; bearing in mind I was completely asymptomatic and it was totally out of the blue.
To be honest, I have never had any issue eating out or with friends. In fact, the better the eatery, the more likely they are to want to tweak what goes onto the plate, to ensure you enjoy it to its fullest. Swapping fries for salad or veg, or the like has never even raised an eyebrow. I don't tell anyone I have been diagnosed as diabetic, if a eyebrow rises, I just say, in a throw-away manner that I can't eat whatever it is I am asking to be swapped out. My bloods moderated almost immediately into the non-diabetic range, and undoubtedly I am fortunate not to have other health issues to wrangle.
Just at the weekend, my OH and I were talking about a trip we have coming up shortly and he mentioned that what had felt like a mountain t climb last autumn (when I was diagnosed) has just become routine and a way of life. I would stress though, that having got my numbers fixed, I can now eat a few chips, or rice or the like. So, worth considering that any changes you need to make may not necessarily be forever. There are obviously no guarantees to that though.
I would encourage you to make some changes. Wasn't it Albert Einstein who said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results? Unless you make, and control your changes, the only thing you can expect is for things to remain the same; or more likely over time to deteriorate.
What sort of blood scores are you seeing, and do you take Metformin or anything else for your diabetes?