Hi
@CovBarbs72 - first of all - ouch! And, commiserations indeed.
Next - the low carb BG control aspect. (Diet is kind of the most immediately accessible way to start dealing with these things I think?) What is it about the low FODMAP diet that is hardest to make compatible with a general low-carb way of eating? Is it the dairy? Or particular fruit and veg that you relied on previously in your way of eating? (I ask that because I feel that way about tomatoes and capsicum - I love them.) (i also feel that way about dairy!)
My feeling about feelings of loss around food on a low-carb is that substituting is a good way to go. Especially as is your case? You are having carb-cravings, which is the horrible food-addiction thing, and most likely sugar? It is certainly the case, was, is, for me at any rate. I am grateful for stevia and bake my own substitutes with it, and can keep the amount of stevia pretty low - for me homemade ice cream and LC cookies, and almond flour is a staple in my kitchen. Is it wheat products you found hard to give up? Grain generally? Then baking with seeds and nuts and chia and so on are a good substitute for me at least.
As you are a caregiver, and for eaters with very particular tastes? (thinking of the autism spectrum folks in my own life) you are probably dealing with a lot in the kitchen already? I hope your own food needs and wants aren't having to take a back seat? (Which can often happen in women's lives when caregiving.)
And as for the perimenopause. I thought I was having a really bad one, and then disccovered it was type two diabetes, so my own experience is it's really hard to distinguish the symptoms of type two and hormonal changes from each other. It could be that way for you too? For that you need good medical professionals in your life, or a diabetes nurse who has a really good overview. (For me, it was my trusty GP who sorted out the two for me.)