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mazzwalsh

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Good afternoon,
Im not sure wether i should post this or not but its on my mind and has been now for sometime and I just feel that its something I need to talk about.
In April last year i received a call from missing persons that my ex husband has been found dead, he had type 2 insulin dependent diabetes and had this since birth he was born in 72. Anyway I had to deal with funeral etc as his family where all either too far away or unwell themselves.
His body was found after neighbours alerted police, on finding darren they found he had indeed been dead a good few months. A coroner eventually got letters from the drs, who said darren had stoped going in to get his medication in october the year before.
OCTOBER!!
Now my concerns are how can an insulin dependent diabetic be left this long without someone checking, apparently letters were sent, but on clearing the house no letters were found and he was a horder so its not as if they had been thrown away. The doctor had also wrote how highly depressed darren was and highly at risk of suicide. Yet he was left alone from October the year before till his body was found in the April.
is this neglect on NHS ? Should the dr have done more to find out why darren hadnt picked up insulin??
Sorry for this post it just goes round and round in my head and I guess im looking for someone who has some sort of answers.
Thanks Mazz
 
Mazz, I'm so sorry, how awful for you! That must have been such distressing news :(((

I think being detached about it, which I don't think you can possibly be expected to be, the blame cannot be placed at the door of the GP. It really isn't realistic to expect a GP practice to chase every patient whom they haven't seen for a while. Think of all the people who may move away, transient populations like university students, people who change GP without letting the old practice know.

Many condolences on your loss - I know he was an ex, but these things can still come as a shock, especially in the circumstances.


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Aw dear, what an awfully traumatic event for you to have to deal with. One can spend all day and night going through what ifs and why didn'ts but it won't help the situation one iota. It could be argued various people should have noticed but unfortunately nobody did.

It might help you to see your own GP and get some grief counselling so you can just have a bit of professional help to get over the shock you have suffered.

Wishing you well for the future.

Ali
 
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