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Was about to get married..!

Frenchalps

Frenchalps

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Type of diabetes
Type 2
Was planning to get married in 3 months. (Early next year) and then I get diagnosed. Told my boyfriend of 2 years. He has been very supportive and encouraging about it. He has been very loving & motivating.... But I keep wondering if he will feel the same way about marrying some with a lifelong disease.
Even if I can control it now ... It will get worse with years. Pregnancy and conceiving can be complicated as well. I'm so scared of what it will do to our relationship.

Does anyone have similar experiences. Pls share how you managed your romantic relationships.
 
Hi @Frenchalps , welcome to the forum

If your boyfriend has been very supportive then that is great and shows he really cares about you. Have you talked things through with him regarding the future (i.e children).

i have been diabetic for 32 years now (also have epilepsy, hypothryroidism, lupus and sjogrens) and everything is ok here with eyes, feet etc (touch wood). I remember one guy who i dated, he said i dont like needle, i said thats unlucky as i am diabetic, i never heard from him again, but i figured thats his loss and i deserve better than that. I married last year and i have to admit what you are thinking never even crossed my mind (maybe its because i have it since i was 10 months old). If he still wants to marry, then i say go for it girl, if he says not, then hes not worth it (sorry if that sounds harsh), diabetes doesnt change who you are and he loves you for exactly that!
 
I wouldn't think of it that way. As long as you love each other then that's all that matters. After all, a couple could marry and then one of them could develop an illness a few years later.

Your partner is great being so supportive. It must be stressful for both of you.

Many people with diabetes have children :)
 
My wife had Crohn's disease when we met, and had been told it would be unlikely that she could conceive.

Our eldest son is half way through his MChem course at University, and our youngest is about to join the Royal Marines.

I've always supported her, and now she supports me. Neither of us will allow our medical issues to dominate our relationship or our lives.

Your partner sounds like he will support you, and mutual support is the bedrock of any relationship.
 
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