Type 1 What can I do?

[kirstiemarie91]

me again, sorry for posting so much!

Last night, after a horrible week, my husband admits he's fed up and sick of his diabetes. We've been doing really well since diagnosis in April but this past week has been hard; sugars ranging from 5-18.

Last night he had to force himself to eat before bed because his sugar was low; he's just recently reduced his lantus to avoid this.

He's so down we live in Macclesfield with no family around us, his family aren't really interested.


What can I do to help? I hate seeing him like this. I wish I could give him my stupid pancreas.

I'm so sorry for the rant, I know people have it a lot harder than us, we are just so alone. He's so fed up. His doctors are useless (DN. is lovely but on holiday)

Please tell me things will get better, I don't know what to do

 

[himtoo]

aww hun !! of course things will get better - it really is a massive thing to digest and get on with

have a read of this link kindly posted by @Robinredbreast

http://www.diabetes.co.uk/forum/threads/diabetes-burnout.74048/


it is not that uncommon especially not long after diagnosis and at times when life is generally difficult

 

[urbanracer]

Well it's only been a couple of months and it can take a while for blood sugars to settle down, in my case I noticed a step change in the stability after around 12 weeks.

This is ( or can be ) exacerbated by the honeymoon period. And we are all different, it seems like my pancreas is working at a fairly constant percentage of it's original function which makes life a bit easier for me. From what I've read, the pancreas can switch on and off during the honeymoon phase with some people, thus making life a little more interesting.

It gets easier.

 

[azure]

The first few months after diagnosis are horrible. I remember being both upset and very angry. I was really worried people would treat me differently. Some did. Every time I did or said something they'd say "Is it your blood sugar?" Like I was no longer me any more. It drove me mad.

Have you asked your husband what you could do to help? What his concerns are? Sometimes it's little things that get to you. If you know exactly what your husband is worrying about or what upsets or annoys him, you can try to help.

I don't know about your lifestyle, but is there a favourite thing you coukd do, something from before diagnosis, that would emphasise to your husband that he's still the same person, and life can be the same, apart from the added nuisance of diabetes. It's an extra, something stuck on to the outside of you. It's a bl**dy nuisance, but tell him he can get through this. Don't give in. Think of it as an extra piece of luggage he has to carry.

If it's his blood sugars he's worrying about, please tell him that nobody's perfect. Even people who've had diabetes for years get highs and lows. That's the nature of the beast.

I'm sorry he's feeling so down. There's no magic answer. Time will help. Having fun, relaxing with friends can help, anything he enjoys. Don't undeestimate how psychologically affecting it is. It's something that has to be with you 24/7. It can be a battle to get on top of it mentally, but it does happen as life moves on. I found reading about other people with diabetes helped, as I didn't feel so alone.

Best wishes to you both. It will get better.