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Hedonista

Hedonista

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Type of diabetes
Prediabetes
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Diet only
... in eating freely for one meal?
Without boring you all with the details, I'm due to have 'elevenses' at a friend's house this weekend and for various reasons I don't want to tell her, yet, about my diagnosis and LCHF regime. How bad is it if I simply eat what's in front of me on this one occasion? Obviously, I'll eat as low carb as possible, but have no idea what she'll serve!
 
Hi, just be open and honest, as you are not doing anything wrong, it's your way of controlling your diabetes. Have a lovely brunch and enjoy the food and the company.

Best wishes RRB
 
yea,,,dont be ashamed,,,its your new lifestyle now to keep u healthy so be proud and chat about it to evryone :D
 
Hello and welcome.
I had a collage friend of my husbands I had never met before came for lunch with his wife,as we were sitting down to eat she said she was vegetarian,I had served different cold meats.
I opend a tin of salmon so all was well,but it would have been good to know before hand.
I would give a ring and explain,nothing to be ashamed of and it could save some embarresment.
Your health is more importent.
 
Hedonista said:
... in eating freely for one meal?
Without boring you all with the details, I'm due to have 'elevenses' at a friend's house this weekend and for various reasons I don't want to tell her, yet, about my diagnosis and LCHF regime. How bad is it if I simply eat what's in front of me on this one occasion? Obviously, I'll eat as low carb as possible, but have no idea what she'll serve!
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If it's elevenses, is there any need to eat at all? For me, elevenses would mean tea or coffee with biscuits or pastries on offer. That they're there doesn't mean I have to eat them. (I've never been a snacker.)

I've told hardly anyone of my diagnosis, but I have told family and a small handful of close friends. After a year or so, nobody queries my eating/drinking any more, but in the early days I just said I found I wasn't handling carbs too well these days, so was giving them a rest.

Someone recently commented how slight I've become and asked why. I responded I'd had some routine bloods done a year ago and not all the results were great, but my reading suggested trimming up would be a great step in the right direction, and when I did that, I got skinny and excellent bloods.

All of those things are absolutely true.

It's up to you how you deal with things, but if your changes are only going to be in private or secret, it will be much harder for you, in my view.
 
OK, the thing is, I'm going to pick up a cake she made me! She makes me a Christmas cake every year and for one reason or another, I have only just been able to arrange to go get this one. She made it before I got diagnosed. I will tell her, she's one of my dearest friends, but I just want to get the cake, bring it home and give it to another friend who loves these cakes (they're legendary). She's a wonderful cook and sharing food is her greatest pleasure, so I don't want to turn down her offerings, either.
Once I do tell her she'll be fine and happily cater for me, but I've just not told her yet cos I just want to get the bl**dy cake, which I can't even eat, and then sort it out!!
Oh lord, the things I get into...!

PS, I'm not ashamed, not worried about telling people etc, just don't want to disappoint her over this one thing!
 
Hedonista said:
OK, the thing is, I'm going to pick up a cake she made me! She makes me a Christmas cake every year and for one reason or another, I have only just been able to arrange to go get this one. She made it before I got diagnosed. I will tell her, she's one of my dearest friends, but I just want to get the cake, bring it home and give it to another friend who loves these cakes (they're legendary). She's a wonderful cook and sharing food is her greatest pleasure, so I don't want to turn down her offerings, either.
Once I do tell her she'll be fine and happily cater for me, but I've just not told her yet cos I just want to get the bl**dy cake, which I can't even eat, and then sort it out!!
Oh lord, the things I get into...!

PS, I'm not ashamed, not worried about telling people etc, just don't want to disappoint her over this one thing!
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In which, why would the truth hurt?

Accept the cake with grace and splaying you'll have to miss consuming it is year as you just recently discovered you are diabetic (or however you decide to explain it). Ask her if she minds you having it a s so many people have enjoyed sharing it in the past.

You never know; she could be excited to accept the challenge of a new style of baking for you.

There are lots of baking ideas on this site, if you have a search
 
Patricia21 said:
Hello and welcome.
I had a collage friend of my husbands I had never met before came for lunch with his wife,as we were sitting down to eat she said she was vegetarian,I had served different cold meats.
I opend a tin of salmon so all was well,but it would have been good to know before hand.
I would give a ring and explain,nothing to be ashamed of and it could save some embarresment.
Your health is more importent.
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Vegetarians do not eat fish:-) Must be pescetarian.
 
Goodness, I understand the dilemma!

I would probably have a huge breakfast (so I wasn't tempted to eat biscuits, if they were on offer), turn up, enjoy the smallest snack possible, chat cheerfully, accept the cake with genuine gratitude, and skip off to deliver it to friend no 2.

The thing is, she loves you, and is generously giving you more than a cake. She's giving you time, effort, the cost of the ingredients, and something you have (presumably) enjoyed in the past. I wouldn't knock any of those back, if I was on the receiving end.

(Of course, I might also inhale 8 biscuits and then come home and polish off the entire cake in a single sitting...)
How lucky do you feel?

But I suggest you ease her into your D diagnosis before Xmas is mentioned this year... ;)
 
Thanks Brunneria - the big breakfast is a great idea, plus I'll put some healthy snacks in the van for the drive home, so I don't arrive hungry, with a cake under my arm!!
I'll tell her well before next Christmas, although the friend who usually shares the cake, and who will get the lot this time, probably won't be pleased!
 
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