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<blockquote data-quote="JoKalsbeek" data-source="post: 2263427" data-attributes="member: 401801"><p>Shame is a thing due to the stuff "everybody knows" about diabetes. You know, that you've brought this on yourself and there's no-one to blame but you, bladibla... The thing is... None of it is true. There's people who ate and drank the same things you did, and maybe more, and nothing happened to them. T2 is a <strong>genetic condition</strong> (your mom going through it ring a bell there?), that messes up your metabolism. Ït doesn't work properly, which is NOT your fault. That's your genes at work and you have no say in what those get up to, right? And another thing "everybody knows": Carbs are good, fats are bad. Not true, but the research and science on that is slow to trickle down... There's a global diabetes pandemic because these past 60 years or so everyone's been eating carbs and shunning fats, which a lot of us are not equipped to deal with. When I gained weight I tried to get help. I was told to eat more carbs and cut the fats. I ballooned. I became diabetic which i had a predisposition for both via my gran and an ovarian cyst that messed up my hormones. All because I followed "common knowledge", which is basically, all wrong. (Mind you, I would've become diabetic sooner or later, but due to dilligently following the "right" diet, it ended up being sooner.)</p><p></p><p>Don't blame yourself. You've got it now, you know you have a problem processing certain things (that'd be all carbs, not just sugars!) so now you can do something about it.</p><p></p><p><a href="https://josekalsbeek.blogspot.com/2019/11/the-nutritional-thingy.html" target="_blank">https://josekalsbeek.blogspot.com/2019/11/the-nutritional-thingy.html</a> <-- this might help too. </p><p></p><p>I do get that having private medical information shared without your consent can be.... Unpleasant and unwelcome. But I have a feeling this is what is going on: Once someone gets an illness, they don't have it alone. Their loves ones worry, are scared, have to live with it too. You're suffering, but they are too, though to a lesser, non-physical extent. She probably just needed to talk to someone about it. So, two things: Try to let go of the shame you're feeling, because contrary to what you think, you did NOT do this to yourself. It was just laying in wait, from the moment you were born. It never was a fair fight. The second thing: Talk to your wife. She probably has no idea why you're p.o.-ed, and seems to me you both need someone to talk to. Might as well be one another! </p><p></p><p> Hugs,</p><p>Jo</p><p></p><p>PS: It does get better than this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JoKalsbeek, post: 2263427, member: 401801"] Shame is a thing due to the stuff "everybody knows" about diabetes. You know, that you've brought this on yourself and there's no-one to blame but you, bladibla... The thing is... None of it is true. There's people who ate and drank the same things you did, and maybe more, and nothing happened to them. T2 is a [B]genetic condition[/B] (your mom going through it ring a bell there?), that messes up your metabolism. Ït doesn't work properly, which is NOT your fault. That's your genes at work and you have no say in what those get up to, right? And another thing "everybody knows": Carbs are good, fats are bad. Not true, but the research and science on that is slow to trickle down... There's a global diabetes pandemic because these past 60 years or so everyone's been eating carbs and shunning fats, which a lot of us are not equipped to deal with. When I gained weight I tried to get help. I was told to eat more carbs and cut the fats. I ballooned. I became diabetic which i had a predisposition for both via my gran and an ovarian cyst that messed up my hormones. All because I followed "common knowledge", which is basically, all wrong. (Mind you, I would've become diabetic sooner or later, but due to dilligently following the "right" diet, it ended up being sooner.) Don't blame yourself. You've got it now, you know you have a problem processing certain things (that'd be all carbs, not just sugars!) so now you can do something about it. [URL]https://josekalsbeek.blogspot.com/2019/11/the-nutritional-thingy.html[/URL] <-- this might help too. I do get that having private medical information shared without your consent can be.... Unpleasant and unwelcome. But I have a feeling this is what is going on: Once someone gets an illness, they don't have it alone. Their loves ones worry, are scared, have to live with it too. You're suffering, but they are too, though to a lesser, non-physical extent. She probably just needed to talk to someone about it. So, two things: Try to let go of the shame you're feeling, because contrary to what you think, you did NOT do this to yourself. It was just laying in wait, from the moment you were born. It never was a fair fight. The second thing: Talk to your wife. She probably has no idea why you're p.o.-ed, and seems to me you both need someone to talk to. Might as well be one another! Hugs, Jo PS: It does get better than this. [/QUOTE]
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