My daughter doesnt have granddaughter number 1 from Thurs through to Monday. She doesnt have granddaughter number 2 from Friday through Monday.
We're not expecting miracles as my daughter isnt very motherly but just a bit of courtesy would help. After all if a child is crying 'momma' then nanna isnt going to quite cut it.
We do want to care for them because at least they get consistency with us but if either of us arent feeling too good that day - hubby physical health, me mental health - then it is a lot to deal with.
And we have both the granddaughters on a Sunday without my daughter as she is too busy looking after her boyfriend's daughter.
It's all a big mess and we're cramming in as much as we can now before those children are taken
A very upsetting situation. You are doing your best.
I have a distant friend who is always putting on his parents.... for his own needs. (meals and washing) he is more than capable but prefers his mum rather than doing these things himself. His situation teaches me that the exceptional parents now in their 80s have been TOO good to him. He cannot stand on his own 2 feet.
I'm lucky I've never had parents that do anything for me. I do everything myself. Kids luckily have their dad they can rely on. On the days I'm ill. In times he acts unreliable I have to be well enough to look after them. They have no one else. My mother doesn't care or do any caring.
Kids these days get very little family support. I was lucky I had brilliant grandparents and playful cousins. My grandparents wouldn't have had it any other way. My grandmother had angina but still did some caring of my half-cousin and taughter her how to pass her chef exams when she was in her late 80s.
For me no matter your age, if unwell enough to do caring then people should accept that. I know I don't thou with my lazy mum. Anything is more important than her grandchildren. I don't think like that with my kids so I'm hoping I will have same attitude with any grandchildren I'm granted.
I think some people don't like caring or feel incapable, for whatever reason. (I think my mum is worried incase my kids get hurt so someone has to be the carer; for her to see her grandchildren. Normally me.... so I get no break in holidays, 6wks is filled with no money and no break. Which makes me more ill and partner too) My mum sits at home moaning she's lonely. Even thou she's invited weekly to our house.
I'd like to say it's strange but my mum knows exactly what she's doing. She lies in bed conniving to get her own way.