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Don't involve yourself in the blame game.

Discussion in 'Type 2 Diabetes' started by catherinecherub, Jun 17, 2011.

  1. christi99

    christi99 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I think the important psychological shift should be from self-blame to self awareness. Self-blame is punitive and engenders shame, which will never help you love and believe in yourself enough to make tough behavioral steps - like changing your dietary choices and level of exercise. If it was so easy, obesity wouldn't be such a problem, so be kind to yourself! You are not alone. Take one step at a time, and while you may not be able to control some aspects of metabolic disease, you can help your health and blood sugar control by committing to lifestyle changes your doctor recommends that can make a difference in your overall wellbeing. best wishes :)
     
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    christi99 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Well said- I can't agree more with your statement about that it is YOUR health and not a game for others to play- yes, it takes many forms of support, but ultimately we will live with the outcome- so best to take the time to educate, self-advocate and see what works the best for you.
     
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  3. Sofie2

    Sofie2 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thank you for this! For the time being I feel it is so hopeless. I'm always feeling a little down in the winter. This year I've tried to beat that by resting more (according to what I thought was good for me). I have struggled to keep the blood sugar right in the winter months. It has varied a lot during the day. Some days it has been near 12 :( . Resting has helped to keep the "winter mood" OK, but it seem to have made the diabetes grow worse. Yes, I'll fight, ...
     
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  4. prunewdiab

    prunewdiab Type 2 · Newbie

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    started with 11.6 Hb1 currently at 6.3 after 2 months on glimpiride and Amaryl combination ,, lost close to 13 Kgs from the highest i have weighed . i do feel that i could have avoided getting to the higher BG level by controlling my diet and a bit of exercise -- i cannot get back the time .. however i have started taking it in a positive way to motivate myself to be fit,, i ensure i walk/exercise for atleast 45 mins with controlled diet .. hopefully this would keep the level in control ..
     
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  5. Contralto

    Contralto Other · Well-Known Member

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    If you are sad in the winter, you may have seasonal affective disorder which is determined by a couple of tests, one of which is your vitamin D levels. Pretty common for people in northern hemispheres.

    https://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/seasonalaffectivedisorder.html
     
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  6. andcol

    andcol I reversed my Type 2 · Moderator
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    itamin D shortage also makes it difficult to manage your BG levels as your beta cells need D to release insulin and your cells also need D to accept insulin. It is critical. It is a shame more GPs do not realise this and test on diagnosis.
     
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  7. JohnEGreen

    JohnEGreen Type 2 (in remission!) · Well-Known Member

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    This is why I bought a SAD light box it does help stave off SAD and its effects.
     
  8. Sofie2

    Sofie2 Type 2 · Active Member

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    The level of D-vitamins in my body is OK. Have had it measured. I have a light box , but cannot find the adapter (the box and the adapter did cost about 318 EUR, so I do not run to buy a new one). I'm glad we are close to Spring now! My blood sugar is not stable. Was advised to take more medication by my GP this day.

    My longterm sugar was 7,6 %. Is that very high? The treatment goal is 7,0 %.
     
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    serenity648 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    found this the other day: You Did NOT Eat Your Way to Diabetes!

    http://www.phlaunt.com/diabetes/14046739.php

    very interesting, and backs up a pet theory of mine about increased belly fat being a warning to check bs levels in people.
     
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    lovelifex Type 2 · Member

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    I am newly diagnosed and encouragement like this is really good. I am feeling frustrated because I feel I lack support from my GP alone and there are a lot of information I have to take in which weren't discussed with me. This forum is really helpful because I could read and learn a lot from people who are on the same road as me.
    Thank you, Cath.
     
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  11. amgrundy

    amgrundy Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Hi lovelifex, welcome to the forum I was in the same as you at the beginning, and probably a few others on here as well. I was not given any information on first visit to doc, just in shock so really did not ask what I wanted to. There are so many friendly people on here that will advise and support you. Stay on the forum you will be fine. Ask what you like someone will always answer you if they can. You are definitely not alone here. :):)
     
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    angelat2_ Type 2 · Member

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    Thanks I'm new type 2 and even my family believe it's because I'm overweight and it is difficult. Don't know too much about it all yet.
     
  13. bigjim19

    bigjim19 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    yeah can understand the feelings here a 5 minute talk with the doctor is no were near what is required
    i was told 3 months ago i was type 2 had about 4 blood tests taken for various things then told i'll
    see you in 3 month WOW was also told about DESMOND !!! letter came 24 august to tell me i'm on the list

    My nurse told me at the time don't hold your breath for an appointment anytime soon i'm self employed
    can i really afford the time off when it comes ? i get all the information i need from this website so is it worth
    going to the NHS have a hard time and can't drop everything just for one person i know that but more resources
    are needed to help us diabetics .
     
  14. LivingLoud

    LivingLoud Type 2 · Active Member

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    I have spent the last 20 years working in marketing and adverting of food and drink. My clients have been the first names you'll think of in soft drinks, fast food, confectionery, snacks and groceries. Trust me it is not your fault..
     
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    midschick1 Type 2 · Member

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    I am newly diagnosed diabetic. I have diabetes on both sides of my family. Both my mum and dad were or are diabetic. I have other medical issues such as asthma, vitamin D deficiency, iron deficiency and perimenopause but I still feel people will judge me but not as much as I blame myself.
     
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    Talfryn Type 2 · Newbie

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    You are right, people are rude when they say that you have brought on the condition yourself through lack of exercise and being overweight. So many slim people have T2DM today. We must not beat ourselves up by peoples ignorance. Be strong, we have got diabetes, the diabetes has not got us. A merry Christmas to all on this site.
     
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    psignathus Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I can't help thinking I did eat a very high carb diet that included a lot of bread and rice on an almost daily basis. I do not however ,beat myself up over this. I'm very pragmatic, It is what it is!
     
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    Tabbyjoolz Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I was judged for being obese and I gave myself a very hard time when I was diagnosed.

    But the more I read into insulin resistance the more I understood that I wasn't to blame. Radically changing my diet means that I am now overweight instead of obese. I'm delighted at how I have turned it all around.

    Having said that, I still haven't the guts to tell my mother I have T2 as she was one of my harshest critics. Last time we met was just before my diagnosis, so when we do meet again I'll just smile sweetly if she comments about my weight loss and say nothing.
     
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    Daphne917 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    I ate a high carb with pasta, rice, potatoes and brown bread, low fat, low sugar diet with at least 3 portions of fruit a day Inc bananas and grapes because that was what I believed was healthy particularly as it was the same diet as my mother had been advised and she was T2 for years and progressed from tablets to insulin ( I know why now). However it didn't stop me getting T2 or being overweight but cutting carbs, eating full dat and taking medication for hypothyroid seems to have worked!
     
  20. Phoenix55

    Phoenix55 Prediabetes · Well-Known Member

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    Please don't forget that there are those of us that are anomalies. I was marginally medically overweight for my height (the heaviest I have been), I do not yoyo diet, neither of my parents are diabetic ( the nearest relative is a distant cousin), I really tried to eat 5 portions of fruit and vegetables a day. On diagnosis a year ago the DN insisted that these were the only factors that could lead to T2 and that I was either in denial or lying to her. I should accept the medication, diet advice, accept that it was my fault and all downhill from here on. No support there. So I set out to do something for myself, bought a test kit, kept a food diary etc. all the stuff I have suggested to others.
    Sitting at a Christmas meal with some colleagues on a course recently I was told that I do not fit the usual profile of someone with T2. When asked why I refused the alternative desert I was offered of fruit salad I told them that I just saw sugar but a portion of cheese would be fine (without the biscuits because I react to wheat flour) Yes I have lost weight, gradually, under a pound a week, am much fitter than I was and now know more about diet and exercise that suits me. That is what I like about this site. There is no judgement but plenty of encouragement, there is an acknowledgment that one size does not fit all but we each have to find our own way, that it is OK to be quiet rebel and do your own thing. I was lucky in catching it very early and so far have good readings without medication, just a change in lifestyle. My colleagues at work are supportive but this site has been wonderfully supportive too.
     
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