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Annoyed at myself

Robinredbreast said:
I must say, if someone offered me an alcoholic drink I would say 'No thanks, I'm fine with tea or coffee, as I'm not really a drinker, or if I was offered a cigarette, I would definitely say no. Sounds like you need to stand up for yourself a little more and don't let other's manipulate you,
No means no, if they don't like it, then that's their problem, not yours.
ps I couldn't eat the sandwiches or cakes, because of a medical condition.
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I see your point but when it is family who don’t know your medical condition because quite frankly it’s none of their business (you’d understand if you met them!) then it’s hard and to be told I’m rude for refusing something is very upsetting (different incident). At that time I was told I should accept and eat!!! I can’t win but I do stick up for myself mostly but it’s got me in a lot of trouble in the past sadly.
 
There is the word "no" in our vocabularies. Followed by a "thank you"
 
Mel dCP said:
“Thanks but no - it’ll make me unwell”
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I’d then have to get into a long conversation of why. My medical condition is no one’s business but mine and a situation is neither the time or the place. How do you deal with such people?! Ahhh
 
Speaking only for myself, if someone tried to pressure me into eating something and wouldn’t take no for an answer, they would get a two word response, and the second word would end in F. No matter who they were.
 
Flora123 said:
As I said, that doesn’t work. I say it several times and the told it’s being rude!
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Then you take back control. They obviously think you are a pushover, nobody has any autonomy over the decisions about your body, tell them that their rudeness is not welcome. There’s no need to discuss anything, repeat yourself and walk away.
 
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Flora123 said:
I see your point but when it is family who don’t know your medical condition because quite frankly it’s none of their business (you’d understand if you met them!) then it’s hard and to be told I’m rude for refusing something is very upsetting (different incident). At that time I was told I should accept and eat!!! I can’t win but I do stick up for myself mostly but it’s got me in a lot of trouble in the past sadly.
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Think I have a family the same as you so totally agree with what you are saying. I only share information that I feel is necessary as not everyone needs to know my business. I also contend with family at times. Being the youngest of 5 siblings, even at my age I never feel that I have a voice to be heard. All of us are diabetic, I was the last to be diagnosed. I did try to share my low carb journey with 2 of my siblings without any change in their thinking. The other 2 siblings I haven't even bothered to tell.
 
Flora123 said:
I see your point but when it is family who don’t know your medical condition because quite frankly it’s none of their business (you’d understand if you met them!) then it’s hard and to be told I’m rude for refusing something is very upsetting (different incident). At that time I was told I should accept and eat!!! I can’t win but I do stick up for myself mostly but it’s got me in a lot of trouble in the past sadly.
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How about, "I'll pass thanks. I've found recently bread and cakes weren't doing me any favours." If they enquire further, "I've had some blood tests done, and best to steer clear for the time being."

That "for the time being" might go on, matters not a jot at that point.

Once they've been round that route once, it won't be a big surprise if you replay the same statements.

For me, preparation was key in those situations, to begin with. I'd get my story straight and stick with it.

In a social scenario, folks are more likely to move onto the next person, to offer their wares than to spend all afternoon/evening interogating you, an if the do want your gory details, just explain this isn't the time or place.

Honestly, you just have to be resolute and let them get on with it.
 
I know we are all different and I would just say no thanks and that would be it but I do understand the pressure. Just say 'I'm allergic' (which in fact, you are) or 'it brings me out in a rash', people understand that far better than something they cannot imagine themselves or see such as glucose levels!. Or at an event such as this where you know it's 'cakey', then bake your own low carb cake and take it to share. x
 
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KK123 said:
I know we are all different and I would just say no thanks and that would be it but I do understand the pressure. Just say 'I'm allergic' (which in fact, you are) or 'it brings me out in a rash', people understand that far better than something they cannot imagine themselves or see such as glucose levels!. Or at an event such as this where you know it's 'cakey', then bake your own low carb cake and take it to share. x
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The allergic thing works a treat.

If I’m eating out and want to be very low carb I just say allergic and it solves all problems.

Will need to start saying that in not just restaurants.
 
Flora123 said:
I see your point but when it is family who don’t know your medical condition because quite frankly it’s none of their business (you’d understand if you met them!) then it’s hard and to be told I’m rude for refusing something is very upsetting (different incident). At that time I was told I should accept and eat!!! I can’t win but I do stick up for myself mostly but it’s got me in a lot of trouble in the past sadly.
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You don't need to tell people about your medical condition if you don't want to. 'Sorry, but I don't like cake' or 'Thanks, but I'm not hungry' are perfectly inoffensive responses.
 
Flora123 said:
I’d then have to get into a long conversation of why. My medical condition is no one’s business but mine and a situation is neither the time or the place. How do you deal with such people?! Ahhh
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I just say I’m allergic to most of the ingredients.
 
Perhaps you need to not care so much about them thinking you are rude (which you’re not) it’s their problem. Don’t make it yours by being pressured into eating food you don’t want. It’s rude of them to try and force you into doing something you don’t want, maybe even point that out!
 
Mel dCP said:
I just say I’m allergic to most of the ingredients.
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I’d love to but they know that isn’t the case. I’m choosing from now on just to say no thanks and then ignore other comments.
 
My BG returned to almost the recent normal several hours after but it’s been raised all of today. I’m sure I’ll get back to norm soon.

Thanks for all the support and listening to my rants. X
 
I think it's a girl thing... we are socialised to be nice all the time...personally, I don't have that problem!
 
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