Well I must say that as a newcomer to this forum I am shocked at some of the negative replies to mollies dilemma.
I belong to quite a few forums and I've always found replies to be positive and very friendly.
Forums are there to support, advise when asked for it and also to be 'just someone who is there to listen' I can guarantee that just knowing you can write down your thoughts, and have a whinge just to release some anger and frustration, is a big help to someone, who like mollie is in a desperate situation at times.
None of us know what we would actually do in mollies position. It's very easy to say to leave him, kick him out, but would any of you actually do this if you were in a similar situation with your partner. Believe me, you don't know unless you're in that situation.
I'm in a similar position with my partner. Not diabetes related but serious all the the same. Not one of even my very close friends or family would even mention the idea of leaving him. Nobody has any rights to judge. Likewise I could not and would never make that suggestion to anyone. I sit and whinge about my partner and call him all the names under the sun at times. I'm sure a lot of us do at times when we get frustrated with them. I know my partner does exactly the same about me. It doesn't mean anything.
I've read on here of many sufferers who have been in denial/refusal to believe their diagnosis. Some have continued 'on the wrong path' for 10 or more years before they finally accept the situation and finally start looking for help. Even though they now have various illnesses for leaving it so long.
Do we judge them or criticise them. No, they're given praise and all the help they need to stay on that 'right path'.
Mollie, your oh sounds a very depressed and frightened man. I feel for you, I really do. This is hard for you too and it's no wonder your feeling unwell. When you see your GP you must tell him/her everything. Let him know that you need help. Surgeries all have counsellors that can and do really help. I think that until your oh finally admits it to himself he needs help, nothing you say or do is going to make him listen. Just as any addict, be it alcohol, drugs, smoking and even eating, they can't/won't stop until they want to.
We can choose to be strong and stay hoping that eventually they will realise what they're doing or we can leave. Only you can decide what is right for you. Meanwhile if you want to come on here and have a rant and a whinge then there will be people here for you.
There's also a saying 'that if you can't say anything nice, then say nothing at all'. After all no ones is forcing you to read the posts.