Am I doing the wrong thing by my kids?
It all depends how you present things to your kids.
telling them ‘no!’ in a party atmosphere with kids around them stuffing treats just makes you a mean party pooper in front of everyone - and look, they already learned to sneak food and hide it from you.
I was brought up in a household where food and sweet things were rigidly controlled (both parents had adopted wartime rationing as an ongoing life choice). All it achieved was a sense of massive deprivation and resentment in both myself and my sister.
Ultimately ANY food choices your children learn to apply must be their own choice. I would strongly urge you to think long and hard about the way you encourage them to make good choices.
Asking kids that age to make reasoned adult healthy choices in the face of party atmosphere and peer pressure is not going to happen.
Also, if they are also witnessing discord between you and your husband over this, then they will inevitably align themselves with the permissive, encouraging parent, not the restrictive denying parent. That is just human nature.
I can’t like this! And there isn’t a sad, horrified, shocked, disappointed emoji availableJust got back from a kids party. It was slush puppy’s, hotdogs and chips all round. That’s sugar, with sugar and sugar.
Perhaps theirs just aren’t sugar based - rather than less frequent or nonexistent!It's not like they don't ever get treats though, just not near as many some.
Surely not all sugar based but carb-based very often. Fortunately, they also consider pork crackle a treat and that features often on our menu.I can’t like this! And there isn’t a sad, horrified, shocked, disappointed emoji available
Surely not all sugar based but carb-based very often. Fortunately, they also consider pork crackle a treat and that features often on our menu.
Same thing, it is all sugar, bread, slush puppies, simple sugars and starch sugar = sugar once ingested.
Not long ago I began aiming to avoid using the word sugar, and instead try to be specific. Glucose, fructose, sucrose (both) etc. I believe it makes things less muddy. It's also easier to explain to people that the components of "natural sugar!!1" in their hallowed fruit are molecularly identical to those found in sucrose (table sugar) and do just a much damage in excess.
Same thing, it is all sugar, bread, slush puppies, simple sugars and starch sugar = sugar once ingested.
I was eating low carb during the bringing up children phase - they were never exactly restricted, just diverted from the higher carb foods. Both offspring are tall and slender, intelligent and talented (but who's children are not) - but I think that it was a good thing. My son is almost a foot taller than me, my daughter is taller than her father - I think that shows good nutrition, oh - and my son only has to grin mischievously at his wife for there to be another child on the way - the next one will be their fifth.
Not long ago I began aiming to avoid using the word sugar, and instead try to be specific. Glucose, fructose, sucrose (both) etc. I believe it makes things less muddy. It's also easier to explain to people that the components of "natural sugar!!1" in their hallowed fruit are molecularly identical to those found in sucrose (table sugar) and do just a much damage in excess.
You make very good points here. I too am worried that because I try to restrict sweets at home most of the time, that they will go nuts any chance they get outside of the home, and that's exactly what happened the other day.
I talked to my 5yo daughter about what happened and how the tummy ache and the dizziness was most likely from the sweets and having overdone it. I also said, 'You know, we could go to the supermarket and stand in the sweets aisle and you could just eat yourself sick, but at some point you'll have to control yourself and decide not to eat that stuff because we've talked about why it not good for us." And she said "Oh yeah, I won't do it next time."
It's not like they don't ever get treats though, just not near as many some.
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