Am I going crazy?

[Diabetic Krissy]

Seriously!

This is only really half diabetes related... As I think it is the diabetes that is making me so obssessive.

Right... Before I was diagnosed, I got pregnant (With my ex) I decided to keep it, however I miscarried very early on.

After deciding to keep it I know I want children...
Since nearly dying when I was diagnosed I have been obssessed!!!! I really want children, I know I cannot have them yet.. First I do not even have a job since being made redundant!! My other half is not ready (Understandably) and now I have to plan it properly because of the diabetes.

However I cannot get it off my mind, it is all I think about! It is annoying especially as everyone I know seems to be either getting married or having children!! I feel like I am on a timer!! I want to have children before any Diabetes complication kick in!!

Anyone got any tips on how to stop wanting a baby? lol.

 

[donnellysdogs]

My friend is going through similar...

She n partner had understanding from 15yrs ago... No children.

At 40 she changed her mind for fear of missing out...her hubby agreed to one.
Baby one is stunningly an absolute dream child...however.... 3 years on....

Female friend is desperate to have another baby, her hubby says he doesnt want another, says he wouldnt cope with another..

She is absolutely yearning and obsessed with having another, and she knows that she is very unlikely to have another dream child.. So she knows she is also lucky to have one... Especially when talking to me because I couldnt ha ve children. She also said that her work colleagues and friends seem to be all pregnant too. She would never stop taking contraception though.. She knows that would be wrong.

So she is going to see a Counsellor by herself without her hubby to start off with. Not a gp counselling service...

How old are you and how controlled is your diabetes? After your miscarriage were you offered any counselling from your gp?

Sometimes, ( I can only advise from someone who had to accept not having children- so slightly different angle).. Sometimes it is wiser to listen to your head than your heart. Talking about it here is a start. Sorry as well that you suffered from miscarriage and being very ill....

 

[Diabetic Krissy]

Hello,

Thank you for the reply and I am very sorry to hear that you cannot have children, that must be a horrible thing to go through!

I am 23 (Yes I know, young to have children) But I do not want to travel or go out and get drunk every weekend. I just want a family.
My diabetes is up and down.. Cannot remember my last Hba1c result.. Need to contact my doctor as the hospital took me off their list and haven't have a test in a while.
Even if my diabetes was perfect I am not in the right situation to have kids. My other half really doesn't want them yet and I have no job.

I was offered counselling and took it at the time. However the obssessiveness only kicked in after I was diagnosed and I don't really like talking to counsellors... It has gotten to the point where I have lists of the things I will need when I finally have them. I have a book that has all the information on decorating a nursery... Serisoulsy I just cannot stop thinking about it

I KNOW I shouldn't have kids right now...

 

[Aaronsmum]

Hi as a mum of 2 there is never a right time to have kids. If you wait for the perfect time you'll never have them. No matter your situation it always a struggle you learn to make do with what you've got. You should explain to your partner your thoughts etc x


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[Diabetic Krissy]

Thank you for the reply, I will deffo bring this up!

I have had a few people tell me the same thing. My other half wants to be in a better financial situation but my mum turned around and told you "You will never be able to afford kids, but you will find a way" lol.