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My 20 yr old son was diagnosed with type 1 in May . After a short time of euphoria at finally knowing why he felt so tired and ill for a long time preceding diagnosis he is finding it hard to come to terms with this life long illness.
He still feels he's messed up and let people down - no mater how many times I tell him he was ill but is now recovering and all will be fine and that he can do everything he ever wanted to do - diabetes will not stop him! ! he thinks he's messed up as he had a breakdown in the early weeks of yr 1 at unie - almost certainly not helped by underlying diabetes and he's now put off returning to actually start it from scratch for a second year; while recovering from the breakdown he took on a temporary job and cos of the crisis of diabetes he feels he let people down at work as he had to walk out feeling so ill .... basically he feels really down and I think is beating himself up unnecessarily. It's pretty straight - he was ill - not once but twice.... in quick succession with a lot of change and transition going on too - a lot to handle for any one - let alone a young man.
He's getting help but none the less no one seems to be addressing the fact that he is struggling in coming to terms with everything that's happened - i.e. suffered trauma and that he has a life long illness. he's somewhat lost now and lost his confidence in himself.
I'm encouraging him to try to just get on ... look forward ... do basic normal everyday things and gradually he'll feel better and his confidence will return.
Any other tips / guidance etc really welcome .
thanks
He still feels he's messed up and let people down - no mater how many times I tell him he was ill but is now recovering and all will be fine and that he can do everything he ever wanted to do - diabetes will not stop him! ! he thinks he's messed up as he had a breakdown in the early weeks of yr 1 at unie - almost certainly not helped by underlying diabetes and he's now put off returning to actually start it from scratch for a second year; while recovering from the breakdown he took on a temporary job and cos of the crisis of diabetes he feels he let people down at work as he had to walk out feeling so ill .... basically he feels really down and I think is beating himself up unnecessarily. It's pretty straight - he was ill - not once but twice.... in quick succession with a lot of change and transition going on too - a lot to handle for any one - let alone a young man.
He's getting help but none the less no one seems to be addressing the fact that he is struggling in coming to terms with everything that's happened - i.e. suffered trauma and that he has a life long illness. he's somewhat lost now and lost his confidence in himself.
I'm encouraging him to try to just get on ... look forward ... do basic normal everyday things and gradually he'll feel better and his confidence will return.
Any other tips / guidance etc really welcome .
thanks