Lovely post Rita/Reetpetite
Ming, yes you must look after yourself too, and also your husband should take responsibility he is the one with the condition, and really should not leave it all to you.
Why are you worried about not getting vegetables down him? Does he not like to eat them? I know Virgo's are fussy eaters, I am one of those too; I know a few people that dont like vegetables all that much, but I have converted many by getting them to eat vegetable mash, just pick a few of the low carb veggies, steam or microwave (but with only very little water), then use a stick blender to mash them all up, season with salt, pepper, grating of nutmeg and a decent knob of butter, its lovely and creamy and was really good for me because I missed my mashed potatoes so much. Sometimes I sprinkle seeds on top of a pile of veggie mash, eg sesame and sunflower to add extra goodness. You can top shepherds/cottage pie with vegetable mash too, experiment.
Some other suggestions to get veggies down him:
Instead of rice, you can do cauliflower rice, you grate a raw cauliflower, I use the grating disc in my food processor because I am too lazy to do this by hand, then cook in the microwave, covered, but no water added, just the 'rice grains alone' season it with salt, pepper, butter and a couple of sprinkles of Maggi liquid seasoning, its very nice you know and good for everyone.
Or if we are having curry I soften half a finely chopped onion, a bay leaf, couple of cardamom pods and a bit of cassia bark or cinnamon stick, do this really slowly so it doesnt burn, and until the onion is golden, slightly brown at the edges, then stir in your cauliflower rice and its ready, it really does make a very acceptable pilau rice, even non diabetic friends and family like it, esp since its a good way of increasing vegetable intake.
Alternative to chips, cut pumpkin, aubergine***, celeriac (use other veg if you like) into thick chips, toss in oil, you can use coconut oil if you want, then ovenbake till golden, season with salt, paprika, whatever you fancy.
Your husband should work with you as a team, do this meal planning together, its something new to do isnt it and probably fun too.
I hope that you feel better soon.
Karen
*** slice the aubergine, then sprinkle with salt, put in a colander and place a plate and something heavy on top, I use a kettle full of water, to weigh the plate down, leave for an hour so the bitter juices run out, then rinse, toss in oil and ovenbake til they are crispy outside and soft and creamy inside, lovely!